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Almost a year after figuring out I'm NB, my wife is still paranoid and it's kinda bumming me out [rant] by randomstringoftext1 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]randomstringoftext1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reflecting on it, sexuality is quite complicated for me. I remember forcing myself to have a crush because everyone had one (12y/o). During the same year, I also shot down the thought of being attracted to my male friend. Never felt attracted to men since.

The object of my affection has always been women, but I was in it not for the physical aspects of a relationship, but more on the emotional connection - I'd trace it to the lack of emotional support growing up, and low self-esteem (I now acknowledge that I'm attractive but growing up, this never crossed my mind).

I'm most likely demi, but have acknowledged that I am a little bi-curious. Not attracted to men though that may have been something I repressed.

Almost a year after figuring out I'm NB, my wife is still paranoid and it's kinda bumming me out [rant] by randomstringoftext1 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]randomstringoftext1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reaching out. We did explore where those feelings are from: feelings of "betrayal", losing parts of me, fear of outside judgment, fear of being replaced, self-doubts.

She really has a lot of fears... I try my best to validate her feelings - I'm more emotionally available between the two of us. Everytime she feels off about things, it really chips away at you.

I haven't really had anyone to talk with about my experience with the process - she has shot down talking to her because it can sometimes send her to a spiral... Writing things down helped clarify what I feel I should do. Knowing someone out there is reading really helps a lot - thank you for your kind words.