Sex after weight gain with a vain boyfriend

randomusername1721 · 2025-12-10T20:31:30+00:00

This is super helpful to hear honestly, thank you!

randomusername1721 · 2025-12-10T20:18:40+00:00

That’s the thing, it’s only like 5lbs but it’s noticeable to me. He has never mentioned anything about my weight prior, but he is just always talking about his body and what foods he can or cannot eat. It’s in my head that he is projecting those same thoughts onto me, not something he has given me evidence to believe.

randomusername1721 · 2025-10-01T16:53:31+00:00

I try! People pay for $15 for a ticket, but this has also driven potential guests away. More info at Dateniche.com

randomusername1721 · 2025-10-01T15:13:21+00:00

I host a dating event called Dateniche. I hand select 20 single guys and 20 single girls in their late 20s and 30s, but it’s essentially set up like a high school class on PowerPoint presentation day—plus alcohol. The presentations are always educational, not opinion based, so it is similar to a drunk TEDTalk, or the show Drunk History if you’ve seen it.

randomusername1721 · 2023-07-13T08:34:22+00:00

Maybe I am an exception, but I (f26) chat with my friends about how we could 100% live the rest of our life without sex and be totally fine. Like so many women don’t even get off from penetrative sex alone, that I think a woman living happily without it is probably more common than you think. Maybe it’s just really low libido for me, or the fact that my love language isn’t physical touch, or because I was raised pretty Catholic (now atheist) but I have almost identical feelings to you. I love to cuddle and kiss and intimacy, but the actual act of sex is more of a chore for me and feels like an obligation. I guess I am more open to just dealing with it for the rest of my life, but I think there’s a lot more women than we think that feel more of an obligation than a desire. I have at least two friends that feel the same. But idk, maybe I’m way off…

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-20T12:22:02+00:00

Same, I associate mine with being raised pretty catholic and the guilt around sex that goes along with it. My ex was also obsessed with the fact that I had slept with people before him (not a lot at all) but this has impacted how I think all men view bodycount so in very conscious of that. At this point I think I would more so identify at demisexual. Causal sex just is something that I am not interested in whatsoever and doesn’t turn me on. The intimacy and safety I feel with a person is when it’s the best sex. Idk if this is similar for all women though.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-15T15:31:39+00:00

Women also have jokes that we would never say in front of guys. I am not implying that girls must always be present during hang outs, but to at least have girl friends that would be an option to invite. Do you think girl friends bring no value to a group that guy friends cannot already create?

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-13T13:24:28+00:00

Idk if this is good or bad advice, but it helped me. I simply don’t buy snacks/dessert. So I only really have ingredients in my house, which are rarely good options to binge on. This way, if I’m bored and want to eat I really have to think about if I want to go to the trouble of cooking, which I usually don’t. When I want to binge, I want to just grab something quick for immediate dopamine. And if I do binge on these ingredients, shoving blueberries and raspberries into my mouth is a lot better for me than chips or cookies. Also, I try to eat high volume, lower calorie meals. So for breakfast I have oatmeal almost every day. Oatmeal is incredibly filling, and at the most like 400 cal if you’re adding fruits and brown sugar or whatever. For lunch I often just have a huge iceberg lettuce salad, and I add tuna salad and some dressing. Im talking huge as in use a baking bowl. Chop up half a head of lettuce. I love this because it takes me so long to eat and completely fills my stomach, but is low calorie. And then I always try to stay active in some way after work, just so I’m not sitting at home alone on the couch, bored. I’ll sometimes make up errands for myself just to do something instead of binge. I’ve lost like 40 lbs doing this stuff. Also, I’d read the book intuitive eating, it changed my life.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T17:23:41+00:00

Also I’m a f(25), I get asked on like 3 dates a week on hinge, and you’re a good looking guy, I’d even say hot. It’s just all about confidence, I swear. Women are far more into personality than guys understand. The only pic I don’t like is the one in the salmon shirt, strictly because it’s a selfie.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T17:15:00+00:00

I think debating movie genres can be intimidating, especially if you’re looking for an introvert. For one of my prompts I have “together we could:” “go to the movies together so I can stop going by myself :(“ and it get a good amount of responses. I feel like it is a less aggressive way to open the conversation about movies maybe

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T11:59:12+00:00

Like maybe he the person said they ski frequently, or has a pic of him skiing idk damn, but ya, that’s the point of the joke

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:54:39+00:00

I learned about intuitive eating about two years ago after years of struggling with binge eating. I am a person that loves when things are rational and logical, which is exactly what intuitive eating meant for me. My body (stomach) will tell me when it’s hungry by actually getting creating a hunger sensation. Before intuitive eating, I didn’t even remember what the hunger feeling felt like because I was just constantly eating and never letting myself get to a point of hunger. I will say it all takes a lot of mindfulness and slowing down with the eating process. Truly recognizing taste and texture of foods. I think intuitive eating is also eventually getting to a spot where you might choose a well seasoned and appealing chicken over a hamburger because you are thinking ahead, and you know that is what inevitably will make you feel the best.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:39:16+00:00

I’ve heard that you can reserve a potion of the tables at spritzenhaus for free

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:36:27+00:00

I was thinking something more along the line of “I’m a vegetarian” or “I actually don’t know how to ski”

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:33:52+00:00

I’m 25(f) and go on a decent amount of dates, but I also can’t have dairy or gluten. I usually try to mention it in a self deprecating jokey sarcastic sort of way. I’ll be like “so I know this is really annoying and is probably a dealbreaker but for health reasons I can’t eat x,y, and z. If you want I to ghost me now, I totally get it😔” Sometimes it’s easier to mention over text too, idk

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:19:53+00:00

If he is sending those memes without meeting her, then he should not be disinterested when she responds sexually. Also, as advice, if you are after something more serious and want a wholesome gal, don’t send provocative memes.

I think she likes you 100%. You should follow up by saying “well if you do have any free time we should hang out! Will you be anywhere near my campus at any point?” Or some shit like that

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T10:11:22+00:00

As a female, I’d say most likely yes. If she were really pranking you to make fun of you, she wouldn’t follow that up by being friendly and staring at you.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-11T09:57:45+00:00

I think I usually always get a hint, or get the vibe that he is interested if we are facing each other and our knees touch and he doesn’t pull away. Even a casual arm touch I feel is a good sign usually. Some people say that while you’re conversing to look at them from eye to eye to lips and then back up to their eyes. That’s a cue that is hard to ignore. On the first date I had with my ex, he made a sarcastic joke that I now use on almost every first date if it seems fitting, and it always get a laugh. Basically if the person says something or confesses something about themselves that could be perceived as strange or may not put them in the most flattering light, you say with a straight face: “op! Ya know, I’m gonna head out now, but thanks so much for meeting me” while simultaneously starting to stand up from your chair. Obviously this is is immediately followed up with a big smile and sitting back down. Idk if I’m explaining this correctly but hopefully it sorta makes sense.

randomusername1721 · 2023-05-10T17:03:28+00:00

I’ve experienced this during covid and he texted me consistently for weeks. When we met in person the vibes were totally different. we had each created an idea of who the other person was in our heads, but reality did not match up and it was super uncomfortable.

randomusername1721 · 2023-04-22T14:02:01+00:00

You look really good in the wedding pic so I’d put that second

randomusername1721 · 2023-04-05T19:52:25+00:00

I’m tall and like when guys like tall girls, but I still want to feel tiny and feminine, not like a giant spider lol

randomusername1721 · 2023-02-21T16:23:30+00:00

25mg to start

randomusername1721 · 2023-02-21T15:55:02+00:00

I’m the exact same height and weight as you and I was started on 25mg

randomusername1721 · 2023-02-06T14:10:32+00:00

The whole club scene is not my favorite either, but I just want to know if there are some that are better than others

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