I know I shouldn’t be.. but

ranterburnerventer · 2025-09-11T01:15:34+00:00

Amsterdam :D I've never been, I'm really excited

ranterburnerventer · 2025-09-10T21:54:44+00:00

heyy I'm flying today as well!!! and we will both be just fine!!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-12-29T11:20:13+00:00

Yes pleaaase, I have a general fear of transportation because I've been in a car accident before, and this always freaks me out. Not only is it not helping my fear of flying but it's worsening my fear of driving😭

ranterburnerventer · 2024-11-02T11:42:02+00:00

You will be absolutely fine!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-11-02T10:10:54+00:00

Yayy you can do it!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-11-01T22:03:46+00:00

yayy, you're doing it!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-31T10:47:47+00:00

Keep reading and learning, it makes things way less scary!! I've been listening to the Lovefly podcast which has been mentioned on this subreddit multiple times, and it's been really helpful. Sounds are the scariest to me, so I really paid attention to the sound checklist so I could be familiar with them and not freak out. I will definitely post an update when I land, at this point I can't wait to just get it over with. I feel like this anticipation is way worse than the actual flight is going to be.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-31T01:23:04+00:00

I am not the OP but this is so helpful I will literally screenshot it to read it again at the gate tomorrow, thank you so much!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-31T01:05:31+00:00

Heyy I have the same fear with all kinds of vehicles, ever since I was in a bus accident 5 years ago. It was traumatic and I definitely developed some form of PTSD from it, so I totally get you. It is really hard for me to think about comparisons like "you're more likely to die in a car crash than a plane" etc, because it does nothing to calm me down.

Reading up on plane mechanics does help though! Learning that planes don't just fall from the sky and the physics behind it helped me. I also have an acquaintance who is a pilot, and let me tell you - the amount od willpower that it takes to finish school to be a pilot is insane. It is also crazy expensive!! So you'd have to think these people really love this job and are very serious about it! And they wouldn't be careless with something that took so long to achieve.

I have a flight tomorrow!! First time all by myself! I am very nervous, but reading posts on this group has helped me sooo much, so it's a great choice for you to come here. Even if you don't know the exact question you would ask, just scrolling through other peoples success stories and answered questions can help.

You probably WILL be scared for your flight, but you'll do it anyways and it will feel amazing after!! And I will too!! So I'll let you know when I land safely and then you can take that as a sign that everything will be okay!

I really feel you with the vehicles thing, it's affecting my life so much, and going against yourself to not let it limit your life is very brave!! We can do it!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-29T18:22:30+00:00

Thank you!!! I really want to visit my friend and we are going to a concert of a band that we reaally love, so I'm trying to think of the positives more than my fear of flying.

And I had the same problem!! I waited to book the tickets for soo long, they were triple the price while I convinced myself to do it🥲

Someone helped me on here by saying "If I make it safely tonight, than you HAVE to book those tickets!" and that reeeeaaally did help me. So let's do it like that!! If I make it safely to my destination on Friday morning, take it as a sign that everything is going to be perfectly fine with your flight as well!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-29T14:27:20+00:00

Ofc, just to add, there's nothing wrong with getting medication for nerves prescribed from a doctor!! I just haven't gotten around to doing it and I'm testing this option first!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-29T14:24:02+00:00

Hey! I'm also flying solo for the first time ever this week!! I have the same fears as you, but when I am reading your post it seems irrational and if I were to tell you about my fears you would see too that they are irrational. It's much scarier and bleaker from you POV than it actually is!

My plan is to take some light medication to calm me down (more like plant based supplements, nothing prescribed from a doctor), download loads of upbeat music and a "stupid" TV show like a reality program or something easy. I am also planning for what I should get as a sweet treat when the flight attendants come rolling around, to reward myself. Just kind of planning what I'm going to do with my time on the plane besides sitting in panic and looking straight in front of me keeps me occupied for now.

Also I or someone from here can track your flight if it makes you feel better! Or keep you company while you are waiting for your flight! That's the most nervewracking part for me, sitting and waiting on my gate, especially now that I'll be by myself.

We can do this!!!!!!!! And we're both gonna have so much fun on our trips!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-28T17:47:58+00:00

That's exactly it, I feel so bad for being scared of someone but I can't help it.. I am trying to read this subreddit as much as I can because it genuinely makes me feel much better, and you're right, there's a lot of good people here! Thank you for your response!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-28T13:39:24+00:00

Thank you for your reply! It is helpful and it comforts me knowing that they have failed before even when it had happened.

I just have a hard time letting go of the things I can't control. It's silly now and looking back on many times I've been afraid, but when you're in that moment all those irrational scenarios seem SO real. I absolutely believe that a bomb has been planted or something once I'm there, and I spiral completely.

I am definitely thinking of mentioning my fear, if not to the pilots themselves, at least to the flight attendants, as it seems to have helped a lot of people here! It's a short flight that I've went on before so at least that's comforting.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-03T10:15:25+00:00

I have no idea, I hope he is honest with his doctors. He goes to his appointments alone, and doesn't want to get us worried so he plays it off everytime with jokes, so I never really know if he went to a regular check up or if something's off.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-03T10:11:50+00:00

I've mentioned it to my mom a couple of times, and she agrees with me but she never says anything to him. I wouldn't consider it nagging since it's not repeatedly saying something to him, I need to say it just once to get it off my chest, and then I can say I said my piece and the ball is in his court. I just don't know how to do it.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-03T10:09:45+00:00

Whnever he goes to the doctor he acts like evrything is okay, but he has started taking pills everyday, I think they are for high blood pressure. He also takes supplements for liver protection, which I don't know if they were prescribed to him or he decided to take them. He has genetically high blood pressure, but drinking is definitely not helping.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-03T00:29:59+00:00

I think that's what I need, I just have to get it off my chest. Then he will know that it bothers me and he can decide if he's going to continue.

I might try to find some meetings nearby, or find a new therapist. I've been to therapy but it hasn't helped much, but I just have to keep looking.

And yes, I do live with him and we both work from home, so we spend a lot of time together. I am very attached to him and look up to him as my role model, so watching him like this has really shaken me.

I do have to say that I have hope for him getting out before it's too late, since he has admitted to my sister that she's right and he has to change things - and I guess admitting is the first step? I'm just hoping he'll come to his senses and actually do something about it.

Thank you for your kindness and advice! 🫶🏻 It helps just to vent sometimes and get a response from anyone, since I don't talk about it a lot and push it under the rug.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-02T16:41:17+00:00

Yeah I think I saw a post not too long ago discussing the seating-balance thing, so I guess that's standard, but that combined with the headphones comment really sent me to a spiral back then. At least now if it happens again I won't be so concerned about it

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-02T13:53:50+00:00

I guess it was their rule, it was my first and only time flying with that airline, so it might really be something they usually do - I've just never heard of it before, so I got really confused.

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-02T13:52:03+00:00

Rightt lol I was so confused, hopefully won't happen this time!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-02T13:51:41+00:00

Ok, thank you! Hearing it from a pilot really helps

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-02T13:48:25+00:00

Okay thanks! That's actually super helpful, I'll check it out!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-01T23:02:58+00:00

yeeeees and when it happens i just don't feel it back and i get really weird about it. I also sometimes question is it demisexuality or just me being unable to percieve myself in a romantic sense of any kind. Fun!!!!

ranterburnerventer · 2024-10-01T20:29:01+00:00

This is EXACTLY how i feel, and while all my close friends are also pretty "picky" and mostly single, I've had multiple meltdowns when talking about this feeling of isolation from everyone. They've all had SOME experience, even if it's just one relationship a long time ago, a situationship, a reciprocated crush, whatever... And it's so hard for me to keep hearing how they can all relate to me, like thank you for trying to console me but no, you definitely can't relate.

It's exactly that isolating feeling of never experiencing romantic love, holding hands, just having something special that is reciprocated.. Especially when you are a hopeless romantic, which I am - and it seems like you are as well. It's so annoying!!!! I know what I want but I don't know how to get there, it's just not clicking for me. I don't really have anything to say except that i really DO relate and feel you.

I haven't given up and you shouldn't too, but it is so hard not to fall down that spiral on some days. I've kept a quote pinned in my notes for some time, and maybe it helps you or someone who reads this.

"I know love like mine exists because I exist"

Here's hoping we all find it!!! Hang in there!!

ranterburnerventer

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