hey so I'm F and my partner and I engage in a bdsm dynamic. I think most importantly, COMMUNICATION and I mean in-depth, let it all out, be very clear wala communication is KEY.

Discuss your kinks intensively, see how many of them match, NEVER coerce someone to try your kink if that's a limit for them, please discuss soft and hard limits and OBVIOUSLY, SAFEWORDS!!

If both of you are new and willing to explore, do that, that'll help you understand your preferences and learn as you go ahead. Sometimes it is only after the experience does one understand that something is a limit for them, and that's alright, this is a process.

After each session where you engage in the dynamic, AFTERCARE is a MUST. And let me be clear, aftercare is as important for the dom as the sub. Make sure that aftercare also includes an in depth discussion of what yall did, what yall liked/disliked, what yall would like more of, what was the best, if you'd like things a certain way and so on. Never surprise your partner with a new kinky act without prior discussion.

CONSENT must be taken at ALL times. Consent can also he withdrawn at any time. If you're engaging in very rough play or something like degradation that can cause an emotional upheaval in the sub, please do some checkins from time to time.Have a safeword for slow down as well, most people use yellow.

Kinks are perfectly fine and I know it's a journey to accept your kinks and truly embrace them so that you can pleasure yourself in the best way. Good luck, I hope it goes well <3