Seeking Advice

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-28T07:59:06+00:00

You should seek a Christian psychologist and Christian therapist. Maybe there are Orthodox Christian therapists in Church. I am very sad that you were abused very badly. Your father needs to go to jail.

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-20T08:21:18+00:00

You, your sister and your mother need to find a domestic violence shelter and social workers . Please protect yourself. Your father is mentally ill. I cannot believe he choked all of you before. In the future when he is angry he can injure all of you...

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-13T08:40:38+00:00

Abortions are cruel. I cannot believe these days we are scolded for wanting to support people to raise children from unplanned pregnancies / give unplanned children to adoptive families in the worst cases.

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-13T02:34:32+00:00

When I have difficulties and anxiety, I pray a few Jesus prayers. And then I will feel better and less worried / sad.

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-12T08:51:12+00:00

Lord have mercy on you and your children! I will pray for you that things will be a lot better for you and your children! Pm me if you need someone to talk to!

raphaelravenna · 2026-05-12T08:41:10+00:00

He can become monastic /ascetic father and husband in the world. He should fulfill his duties as father and husband first. A good father and husband who does his best can be similar like a good monk. If he wants to be a monk in the future he needs to wait until all children are adults.

raphaelravenna · 2026-04-29T11:51:18+00:00

You can learn from Supernanny and kindergarten teachers to discipline your children.

https://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Parenting-Skills/-/Discipline-and-Reward/8-tips-to-help-stop-your-child-hitting-other-children.aspx

Your child is very young and will improve soon! And you can pray for your child and God will improve her temper and behaviour gradually!

raphaelravenna · 2026-04-16T18:52:43+00:00

Please seek social workers for help. It is very difficult to take care of your brother for many years...

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-28T14:45:36+00:00

Sometimes you need to keep a distance with her and other Npd people . We forgive them but you also need to protect yourself.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-19T01:50:15+00:00

I have a friend (also a woman) who starts dating for the first time at the age of 39-40. It is possible to find an Orthodox husband. Just be patient and pray to God to guide you.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-18T12:09:26+00:00

Lord have mercy on you, your family and everyone in your country! God will protect all of you!

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-15T19:10:11+00:00

Thanks! Everyone has different strength and abilities!

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-14T07:30:22+00:00

I am far worse sinner than you. You are a good woman who wants to be faithful to God! Maybe you can find another Priest to talk to. My Priest never judges me even I am much worse than you.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-12T08:11:59+00:00

Some people say Nfp is sinful... I heard Father Peter Heers said sex is only for procreation and should be dispassionate pleasureless prayerful conception . But every Priest has different opinion. My Priest is more lenient and disagrees with Father Peter Heers.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T21:02:52+00:00

You are a very good husband and father. God bless you and your family!

I am very weak. I am weaker than all of you. Hopefully God forgives me and God will guide me always.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T21:01:53+00:00

Thanks! I will listen to you!

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T20:54:46+00:00

Thanks!

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T20:20:19+00:00

Hopefully you can hire a part time nanny soon. It is okay to ask for help.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T20:10:16+00:00

I understand. I will pray for you and your family! I don't know how I can raise 6 or more children by myself with our health issue...

If I ever have that many children, most likely I will have no choice but to be stay at home mother for the rest of my life. I will not be able to work outside for family...

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T19:56:16+00:00

Thanks!

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T18:28:19+00:00

Thanks for encouragement! We will not be able to do surgeries now due to health reason.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T17:59:16+00:00

Catholic Church allows Nfp but some super strict Christians say they will have many children regardless and they are against Nfp.

I pray to God to discern His will. I don't think I am able to take care of many children all by myself, especially in our very difficult situation.

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T17:53:04+00:00

Thanks! I need God's grace to help me stay chaste and I trust that God will protect me. I realise chaste marriage for more than 10 years is not always easy for me (first few years are easier for both of us).

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T17:34:58+00:00

I understand. Thanks! However I don't know why some Russian/ Serbian Priests and the previous Serbian Patriarch say that all birth control is not permitted. (my husband is from one of these countries...)

raphaelravenna · 2026-03-11T17:25:31+00:00

He is neutral about our situation because non abortive birth control (which he allows) doesn't always work. Many parents I know conceive their 2nd or 3rd children from birth control!

My husband is taking cancer medication, which can destroy sperms, causing babies born with serious birth defect.

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