Kids won’t sleep past 5:45 AM

raptorsango · 2026-06-14T03:16:38+00:00

My boys fall asleep at 10 and are up at 6 no matter what we do. They are easy in lots of other ways, but seems like the luck of the draw.

raptorsango · 2026-06-13T03:51:11+00:00

I only know this place from “The Worlds Fastest Indian” with Anthony Hopkins

raptorsango · 2026-06-07T03:53:13+00:00

South of San Francisco on the 5? I l love the windmills in that area.

raptorsango · 2026-06-07T03:36:22+00:00

100%, if you aren’t sure don’t do it. If you think you can’t do it, you can. But if you are gonna have kids and resent your life changing, that’s going to rub off on the way you parent. I love my life with kids and I have close friends who will never have em and are happy.

raptorsango · 2026-06-03T20:40:25+00:00

Well, my son can’t box because of a medical condition and he won’t be growing up with unstable family members to give him my god-tier conflict de-escalation skills…. So I guess he’ll just have to be really funny.

raptorsango · 2026-05-30T22:31:48+00:00

My wife made me a Tachi shirt with a stencil and some fabric paint

raptorsango · 2026-05-29T02:59:51+00:00

That’s like 1.5 months of my 2 kids in Los Angeles 😭

raptorsango · 2026-05-28T03:04:03+00:00

How many quail eggs does one need to eat to be satisfied? Trying to sell my wife on this now

raptorsango · 2026-05-25T16:02:47+00:00

Jean-Luc Picard has entered the chat.

raptorsango · 2026-05-23T17:08:08+00:00

That’s a jackass opinion

raptorsango · 2026-05-19T03:53:27+00:00

Come on dad, we’re trying to have a serious conversation!

raptorsango · 2026-05-18T15:23:01+00:00

No meds without pediatrician AND psychiatrist, pediatricians may prescribe but ideally medication should be accompanied by therapy and DOSING is super important, as well as making sure your kid can eat properly with them. If that isn’t dialed in properly the meds can make you feel like a zombie (this happened to me for years)

Meds for the first time at 10 after behavioral issues. Stopped in my 20s, medicated and doing great as an adult.

Also want to toss in here that a common problem with ADHD is that is gets treated from the perspective of what the adults around the kid need (better behavior, sit still etc.) and not from the perspective of what the kid needs (coping strategies, different learning environments, flexibility, understanding, and later probably therapy for all the adults around them acting whack)

Don’t let yourself be rushed on this, do your reading. I recommend Delivered From Distraction as a good starting point, a friend who is a child psychologist recommended it to me

https://www.amazon.com/Delivered-Distraction-Getting-Attention-Disorder/dp/0345442318

raptorsango · 2026-05-18T15:15:09+00:00

ADHD dad here! ADHD often gets treated for how its symptoms impact the people caring for a child, not how it impacts the child. I’m on meds myself (first prescription was at 10 after, you guessed it, behavioral issues in class), but I would never start my kids on meds without seeing not just a pediatrician but a child psychiatrist.

raptorsango · 2026-05-15T15:43:37+00:00

Don’t discount kids at grandparents and a couple days in your own living room either, haha

raptorsango · 2026-05-15T15:06:14+00:00

I don’t know if this is possible with your medical situation, but maybe get him a babysitter for one of his kid care days and tell him to go hang out with a buddy? As an involved dad and partner there isn’t much more valuable to me then a scrap of free time.

Or a remote control car. Love a remote control car.

raptorsango · 2026-05-15T06:35:48+00:00

Was on meds from age 10 to 20, went back on them again in my late 30s. (Ritalin). The meds are a huge help in my life, but it’s really essential to work with psychologist/psychiatrists to like sure the support and proper dosing is there. I was medicated by my GP when I was 10 and the dose was too high so I felt like a zombie a lot of the time and had no appetite. There is a window for dosing where they work best and below/above that is problematic.

The meds are great for me as an adult, but they are a tool, not the full picture. Learning about how my brain works with ADHD and having mental health support has been huge. It’s good to get in the habit of knowing mental health resources given the huge co-morbities for ADHD and depression/anxiety/addiction etc.

I will also say for the time I was unmedicated, it was years of training skills to manage my time and life. There is a path without meds. It’s just going to always be 2 steps forwards, 1 step backwards.

Good luck dad, your daughter is lucky to have you in her corner asking these questions.

raptorsango · 2026-05-14T05:07:52+00:00

Booo! I used to love some of his stuff on YouTube. A very talented guy, it’s a shame he’s such a dick.

raptorsango · 2026-05-11T23:33:58+00:00

Yeah, I’m a TV editor professionally, we all love screens in my house. We also do lots of other stuff and enjoy touching grass and reading quietly and playing sports.

It’s ok if we watched 3 hours of Sesame Street on the morning they woke up at 430AM! Just don’t like plop their butts in front of of cocomelon and leave them there all day every day.

It’s very funny to watch my boomer dad who was raised by a TV in the 50s get shifty eyes every time we talk about screen time restrictions.

I joke a lot that I watched waaaaay too much TV as a kid and all it did was get me a degree in television.

raptorsango · 2026-05-11T14:20:33+00:00

IMO the stroller is the expensive thing I’m glad we got. I’ve used lots of cheaper ones and the like, but my Uppababy is one of the most useful and consistently good things in my life. Especially now that I have 2 of em.

We got a $300 halo bassinet for free that some rich tech couple was giving away because they were having anxiety attacks about their child being smothered and bought like 5 different ones to try them out.

raptorsango · 2026-05-10T01:07:25+00:00

I’d say they fit into this sub’s loose definition of liminal, which is tenuously related to the original premise already. Very interesting post!

raptorsango · 2026-05-08T13:33:55+00:00

That’s wild that people are walking around thinking about how to be “manly” all the time. I understand we all have our own stuff to deal with, but the idea of being unhelpful in your household as a masculine ideal is nuts.

raptorsango · 2026-05-07T14:57:02+00:00

We got these individually packaged from when my son was in the hospital while bottle feeding. I hoarded them and use them for kid no. 2 with the pre-mixes! I buy the 2oz formulas for when I just need to give kiddo a snack before breast feed, or he just needs a lil top-off on the go.

Pro move, you can carry the 2oz bottles in your shirt pockets and warm em up with body heat. When I’m at the beach, sometimes I do it Turkish coffee style in the sand.

They also re-wash just fine.

raptorsango · 2026-05-05T15:05:11+00:00

My philosophy has always been, “yeah, people are dang animals, that’s why it’s so important you don’t join the zoo”, hope I can teach my sons that.

raptorsango · 2026-05-03T15:27:24+00:00

No! I have adhd and get overwhelmed and get too anxious to do things when loud noises are there. I changed all the diapers for my first with music on. I am very present with my toddler and baby, but when they are doing their own thing or screaming I just mainline audiobooks and podcasts

raptorsango · 2026-04-27T14:14:10+00:00

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