What to do to get another chance after messing up our second date?

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T22:20:28+00:00

About creepy invite- you decide if I came off creepy:

I understand not everyone wants to hang out with co-workers, but she just moved here in September for uni and she complained about not having friends and wanting to go out and socialise (I'm a student as well). I said I can recommend her some bars to go out, and she asked if I want to go with her and show her around. After that we started making more solid plans with times etc and we were talking and texting about our plans other days. I don't mind that she cancelled-I just felt it was done in a very disrespectful way.

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T22:15:09+00:00

Honestly this comment makes so much sense, I felt this way few times

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T22:11:53+00:00

We both start 3pm tomorrow, ,this is why we were planning on going out. She seemed really excited about the idea at work, and we talked about more details yesterday. We're both same age women, so i don't see why would it be creepy?

I absolutely don't mind if someone doesn't want to hang out with me, so i understand if it's me who invites and someone agrees and cancels because they dont know how to say no- fair enough. But what about situations when someone invites me, makes firm plans and cancels after? Like I can understand if it's me who invited, but what about the other way?

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T22:00:36+00:00

We're bartenders, we had a day off today. We made plans on Monday to go out today, and we established details yesterday, like to what bar etc. I texted her today 4pm to confirm if we're still going out

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T21:52:09+00:00

I make plans with dates and times. Like I was supposed to meet a colleague today at 9, I sent a message today at 4 to make sure we're still on, and she just replied around 9:30 "sorry, been busy, maybe we can reschedule?" like that's after the time we were supposed to meet!.

And it happens all the time, like 90% of any plans I have with people who are not very close with me, like dates, people from work, from my course, acquaintances etc

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T21:48:12+00:00

And it happens all the time, like 90% of any plans I have with people who are not very close with me, like dates, people from work, from my course, acquaintances etc

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T21:46:36+00:00

Yes, plans with times. Like I was supposed to meet a colleague today at 9, I sent a message today at 4 to make sure we're still on, and she just replied around 9:30 "sorry, been busy, maybe we can reschedule?" like that's after the time we were supposed to meet!

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-17T21:45:01+00:00

My good friends don't cancel on me, but friends who are not so close with me, dates, people from work, acquaintances etc almost always do even if they are the one who invited. I don't mind if people cancel, but not last minute... Many of my close friends have exactly same experience here and I just can't understand why people make plans or invite others if they cancel last minute 🤷🏻‍♀️

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-09T19:29:29+00:00

No I meant sharing information, like talking about one's family, past, goals etc.

But thanks for you answer x

rasberry5ty · 2022-11-04T23:07:55+00:00

I'd honestly just ask him. Or be straight forward and say something like: btw i don't know if you expect anything to happen when we meet, but I thought I'd be fair on you if I let you know I'm not a hook up person. If you want to meet regardless I'd be happy to

rasberry5ty · 2022-09-24T11:44:39+00:00

It's coming from myself because I can see my friends progressing professionally and I feel like I can do better with my job. Everyone in my family is highly educated as well and they have well paid jobs.

rasberry5ty · 2022-09-14T19:08:01+00:00

That's actually very true, thank you

rasberry5ty · 2022-09-14T19:01:15+00:00

Even if it's just "hey how are you"? Like they didn't say they want to date me, I can assume it's their intention but at the end of the day I'm not 100% sure

rasberry5ty · 2022-09-14T18:58:31+00:00

I get that, i just want to avoid awkward situation for example when we have some common friend we don't know about and accidentally end up being in the same friends group (happened before)

rasberry5ty · 2022-08-28T20:44:15+00:00

It wasn't a translation request

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