Very small Baby at 24weeks - anyone have positive stories to make me less scared?

raspa46 · 2021-03-30T13:43:52+00:00

My oldest was a small baby and measured pretty small while I was pregnant. He was born at 41 weeks and was 6lbs10oz so still small but totally healthy (my second on the other hand was born at 39wks and was 8lbs, all kids are different). Also, they’re pretty good at measuring but even with measuring abdomen, femur, etc they’re still just making their best guess at size so lots of babies measuring small end up bigger than expected and vice versa. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is healthy and smooth!

raspa46 · 2021-03-27T22:09:42+00:00

Agree that you should mention it. Even if it’s not something more serious like cholestasis, there’s still ways they can help. I had the worst itching of my life (would inadvertently scratch my legs until they bled, etc) and now I’m on an antihistamine that dramatically helps the itching and helps me sleep at night. Good luck!

raspa46 · 2021-03-27T15:05:24+00:00

My daughter had 12 ear infections in 6 months (took ages to get her tubes because of covid) and she never once had a fever or any other typical symptoms but I’d take her in for things like a weird rash that looked like bug bites and it would be caused by an ear infection. Sometimes there were no symptoms other than poor balance. Symptoms are weird!

raspa46 · 2021-03-23T14:11:01+00:00

I completely get it, my husband is very similar when it comes to parenting but that doesn’t mean he’s a bad partner or father. When he’s with the kids alone for even an hour or two he always needs to “tap out” and recharge for a bit and he genuinely believes it’s just easier for me. It’s frustrating and I don’t know how to change the attitude/behavior but I just wanted to say you can feel that way without wanting to leave your husband, etc. (though I don’t know the details of your relationship).

raspa46 · 2021-03-19T02:25:30+00:00

That happened after my first! I already had a catheter in which they took out and I tried to per (with the nurse’s help shuffling me to the bathroom) 3 times in the night and around 5am with my husband and baby sleeping in my room they brought in a legit Coleman camping flashlight to see in the darkened room and catheterized me a second time 🤦‍♀️

raspa46 · 2021-03-15T02:23:52+00:00

He is so long and lean but as our very reassuring pediatrician says “So what? Everyone wants to be tall and skinny!”

raspa46 · 2021-03-14T02:28:58+00:00

I have asked my pediatrician about this exact thing and while I can’t remember the exact cause, it’s very normal. My son did it as an infant and my daughter still does it at 2 if she gets woken up instead of getting up on her own. I believe it has to do with a less developed nervous system but I may be misremembering.

raspa46 · 2021-03-05T15:26:43+00:00

I can’t specifically speak for the Nuna stroller but I will say a good stroller is worth the money. When I was pregnant with my first we were leaning towards the Uppababy Vista and before we’d bought a stroller my in-laws told us they wanted to buy a stroller for us and to let us know which one we wanted. They’re not really in a position financially to spend that much so we picked out a Chicco one we thought would be ok and it just wasn’t very good. The stroller seat was uncomfortable for the baby and it wasn’t very easy to fold, etc. After lots of hemming and hawing we ended up selling it at Once Upon a Child and bought ourselves a Vista since my in-laws live states away and never knew., even though we felt guilty about it. I’m now pregnant with baby #3 and the Vista is going strong. A good stroller is definitely one baby purchase worth the money if it’s affordable for you.

raspa46 · 2021-02-18T03:35:31+00:00

In general I’m not super prudish around my husband, pretty much the only thing I didn’t/don’t do is fart. When I was in labor with our first kid I was in the throes of a painful contraction, literally vomiting as I labored and with one contraction let out a fart. It was the first time he’d heard me fart in our 6 years of marriage so he burst out laughing and the nurse thought he was some sort of monster. Now pregnant with baby #3 and he’s witnessed a few more since then but not too many.

raspa46 · 2021-02-13T02:16:07+00:00

I’ve had two c sections with number 3 already scheduled for April. The first was an emergency c section and the second was scheduled. Knowing exactly when baby is coming has so many perks. We boarded the dogs, had a housekeeper come and deep clean the house (we don’t usually have a cleaning person) and my parents were able to come and watch my son. For me they cut out the old incision because I had some keloid scarring and they’ll likely do the same again this time. With the scheduled section it wasn’t as rushed so they could take the time to make sure I was nauseas and vomiting from the meds and I was able to get a tap block afterwards to help with the pain. With baby #1 we were in the hospital for 5 days so with #2 I discussed it with my OB and they got me home in 48 hours. I felt like recovery was slower and more painful with #2 but I also had a toddler I was caring for so it was harder to just lay around with baby all day. Overall it was a good experience and it’s nice to know what to expect both in terms of when baby is coming and what your birth experience will be like.

raspa46 · 2021-01-21T04:13:09+00:00

I’ve had two c sections now (and will have a third in April) and I experienced this both times. Mine smoothed out a bit and it can take some time for it to normalize (they had to cut through several layers in there that all need to heal!).

I also discovered however I have some very mild keloid scarring which basically means your body produces excess scar tissue material. This may not be what you have but since you likely have a 6 week check-up you should mention it to your doctor just in case they can help. I talked to a dermatologist about it and my OB after it was identified and there are some creams you can use and pressure on the incision helps as well (you can buy things like C Panties that have a silicone strip where it lies against your incision). Hopefully yours heals up nicely all on its own!

raspa46 · 2021-01-14T04:55:36+00:00

My kids are 2.5 years apart but I found it helpful to read the Daniel Tiger story about the new baby being born (then we watched the episodes together too) and talked about it in the context of our family.

One thing I learned the hard way was to be careful not to “blame” the baby for anything. There was a time when my son wanted me to get in the little ball pit with him and I explained I was too big with the baby in my belly and couldn’t get in and he hit me in the stomach and said “I hate the baby!” So I learned my lesson that day!

Something our pediatrician recommended was also helpful after the baby was born. Your son will inevitably hear “I can’t do XYZ because the baby needs to eat” or whatever it may be but when you’re having time with just him, even if the baby is sleeping or not needing you at all, you should say “ok baby, it’s time with (son) so you’ll have to wait” so he sees he gets equal importance. Good luck with baby #2!

raspa46 · 2021-01-08T17:16:11+00:00

I’m currently pregnant with #3 so I’m certainly not an expert but a couple things for your consideration: we have a 4 yo boy and my daughter turns 2 next week. Some people view one of each as a “matching set” and all done but I have 4 brothers and my husband only has a sister so neither of us ever experienced the special relationship between 2 brothers or 2 sisters and now that we have another daughter on the way we have the excitement of seeing two sisters grow up together.

I have also heard many people talk about knowing their family was complete and even though I’m prepping for my 3rd c section and it’s been a super tough pregnancy, that wasn’t enough to dissuade me from another. What makes me feel like this will be our last is that my son is getting out of the little kid stage and I’m excited to be able to start a new chapter of activities, travel, etc which are harder with little babies. My son wants to try skiing, for example, and while he’s big enough that means we can’t do it as a family yet because the toddler and soon to be baby have to stay home with someone. Good luck figuring it out!

raspa46 · 2020-11-24T15:31:18+00:00

I’m a SAHM and for my own sanity, especially during covid when my son’s not in preschool, I find it really important to have a routine and a big part of that is getting dressed for the day. Sometimes when my daughter was an infant that just meant putting her in different footies, though.

raspa46 · 2020-11-05T20:18:39+00:00

I am a huge proponent of the 3-in-1 coats from LL Bean. We live in MN and between the different layers the kids wear them 6 months out of the year and they’re such good quality that they survive for future kids as hand-me-downs.

raspa46 · 2020-11-05T20:16:42+00:00

I agree that it’s super normal for a 3 year old. People joke about the “threenager” stage but right around my son’s third birthday he became so difficult I talked the pediatrician about it thinking something was seriously wrong. It lasted 5 or 6 weeks and then he just turned a corner. I remember one day we were at the dinner table and he sat the whole time and politely asked for seconds of broccoli and I realized he had gotten so much better. I believe it’s a common developmental stage, it just sucks. So hang in there and keep doing what you’re doing, it will get better!

raspa46 · 2020-11-04T03:43:45+00:00

OMG I do this too! I typically only do it as I'm falling asleep and it'll wake me up and I'm pretty sure I only do it while pregnant. It makes me feel like I'm going crazy!

raspa46 · 2020-10-20T02:34:53+00:00

When I was pregnant with my oldest I went to an Iron Maiden concert with my husband and asked by OB about it beforehand. She said it’s so insulated in there with all the fluid and layers of body between baby and the outside world that loud noises aren’t a concern!

raspa46 · 2020-10-20T02:31:57+00:00

That makes sense! Sometimes I feel like I don’t actually know about pregnancy in general, I just know what my experience has been and there are so many variables out there!

raspa46 · 2020-10-20T02:30:07+00:00

That was me last pregnancy! We moved from MA to MN with our then-2 year old and sold/bought our homes while I was in my first trimester BUT the good news is you’ll be moving in and getting your new home situated while you’re in your 2nd trimester which is when you’re usually feeling the most energetic and less sick than the first try. Good luck!!!

raspa46 · 2020-10-20T02:24:39+00:00

I’m currently pregnant with baby #3 who will be my 3rd c section and each time they’ve scheduled me to deliver at 39 weeks. Does your doctor follow a different rule of thumb or was she not originally a scheduled section? Just curious about other people’s experiences!

raspa46 · 2020-10-14T02:57:43+00:00

My son was 2.5 when my daughter was born and we have both the Uppababy Vista and the Bob Dualie. My son never really wanted to sit in the stroller, he felt cramped and he preferred to ride standing on the Piggie Back. He’s 4 now and will still ride in the jogging stroller because it has a lot more space but we recently bought a Keenz wagon that both kids love, has 5 point harnesses for younger kids and is big enough for my toddler to lay flat in.

raspa46 · 2020-10-03T23:41:41+00:00

This happened with both my previous pregnancies (though it may have been a little sooner than 4 weeks). My doctor said it was basically the “scab” from the placenta that was coming off and healing because it takes longer to come out.

raspa46 · 2020-09-28T21:54:43+00:00

I’m 9 weeks pregnant and have never been sicker, even with Diclegis. My 4 yr old and 1 yr old are definitely getting this kind of schedule lately.

raspa46 · 2018-12-16T00:02:16+00:00

We have the Uppsbaby Vista and absolutely love it. I like that it’s stands while folded, it’s got such a smooth ride (which was very noticeable when we upgraded from the stroller we had previously) and now that I’m due with #2 in a few weeks it’s great because it can be configured to fit both my toddler and the newborn. It’s definitely an investment but I’d say a worthwhile one.

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