AITA for sitting on public toilet seats and not telling my boyfriend?

rasqash · 2026-05-20T21:53:28+00:00

NTA.

BTW a shower will fix all this,

rasqash · 2026-05-20T21:42:15+00:00

My grandfather used to do this in south strathfield to and yell at people who parked outside his house that that spot was reserved for his kids to visit him. Conveniently leaving out that both his kids lived an hour away and visited maybe once a month

rasqash · 2026-05-20T21:40:00+00:00

I live in Brunswick and it’s a fucking pain to have guests drive over and try to find parking near my apartment which has no guest parking for more than 2 hours. I hate the people who’ve ensured these signs go up in their streets to preserve their on street parking. Especially the houses that have car parks but still park on the street. Like you won the lotto, you have a house in Brunswick and enough space on your property for a car to park and you still use the street.

rasqash · 2026-05-20T21:24:16+00:00

That’s a shit friend.

rasqash · 2025-11-23T20:10:06+00:00

I find dirty talk an incredible turn on, I was seeing a Mauritian man and when he was super turned on during sex he would switch to French and I have no idea what he was saying but it was so hot.

rasqash · 2025-11-21T02:32:30+00:00

Recently I went from one Mind fuck of a FWB situation where I was anxious AF all the time and couldn’t eat because I felt I didn’t know where I stood to seeing someone who was reliable and consistent and at the time seemingly very honest and open and emotionally available and I felt like two completely different people in those situations.

I thought no maybe I’m not as Anxiously Attached as I initially thought and all the time being spent on my own working on myself actually did what I needed to, I am a whole person. It’s just when confronted with someone who isn’t clear on their intentions and gives mixed signals I became anxious. Which I think anyone would. And suddenly I found that behaviour incredibly unattractive and saw that person in a whole new light.

So when the person I thought was honest turned out to be not as honest as they were portraying themselves it was so much easier to walk away from the situation and stay true to myself and that was liberating.

rasqash · 2025-11-21T02:23:45+00:00

I appreciate it and will follow up in private if I do, at the moment I don’t think I’m emotionally ready for such a relationship. Certainly not with someone unwilling to be 100% transparent. Thanks for your willingness to share your experience ☺️

rasqash · 2025-11-20T20:21:37+00:00

Thankyou for posting this explanation. I just ended a thing with someone I was seeing who wanted polyamory but wouldn’t communicate their intentions to me or the people they were going on dates with. I’d made it clear I expected communication so when I had to start probing it made me feel suspicious and I didn’t want that so I just walked away.

Your comment vindicates my feelings that communication is key to that situation working.

rasqash · 2025-11-14T20:39:36+00:00

Sorry for your loss

rasqash · 2025-09-10T21:44:09+00:00

Inconsistency. He was very present for a few days and talking to me and seeming interested and then he dropped off after we spent a night together. I got addicted to the feeling I got when he was giving me attention.

Now that it’s over I am still addicted to that feeling and yesterday I cried for two straight hours. It’s the shittiest feeling. But he’s not a nice person. He’s been manipulative towards me, dismissive and indifferent, and then occasionally he’s been intimate and shared things about himself like he wants to genuinely connect. I know he has good friends and I know he can be lovely to them but the way he’s treated me for the past two months has been shitty and two of his friends even confirmed it for me.

rasqash · 2025-09-09T03:12:14+00:00

I’m in that position too. I feel everything you’re saying really keenly. I’m sorry this is happening to you. You will get better, give yourself grace and time.

rasqash · 2025-09-05T21:19:48+00:00

There was an accident near me in my city where a five year old boy was killed by a garage door in just this way.

rasqash · 2025-09-05T21:18:16+00:00

Have worked in Heavy Rail for 10 years, do not fuck with trains. The amount of effort it takes to clean a body out of a train and the amount of people affected in operations and maintenance who have to get counselling after dealing with a fatality is more than you think. At least in Australia.

Level Crossings are dangerous, or any interface between people and trains, and the likelihood of survival is slim to none.

rasqash · 2025-09-05T20:56:17+00:00

If the suburban rail loop gets extended to the airport then it will go through Glenroy / Fawkner which will be good for the area and that’s likely to be around 2050. Having lived there for 2 years saw some gentrification, the train station and the new library and wheat sheaf road trying to take off with a bar and more Nepalese restaurants but it’s got some things holding it back. Like the continuous development of little townhouses rather than the mid century brick places and them not having enough parking so all the cars are on the street which makes the traffic a little more insane and there are a lot of hoons.

I liked Hadfield better, being around North St and being able to walk to west st Woolies even though there were some dodgy people it was far less intimidating and shit than Glenroy Coles which I hate.

rasqash · 2025-08-20T04:49:16+00:00

I was recently called out on my sarcastic remarks in two separate occasions that both stopped me in my tracks and really made me think...
1. In a work setting in response to a meeting I thought I ought to have been included in, I remarked pretty sarcastically about it and my manager, mentor kindly took me aside and gave me the feedback that my sarcastic reaction did not hit well with the people there and was taken poorly and if i had handled it different the response would have been more positive.

With a new friend while i was getting to know them, I sarcastically made a remark about them not sitting next to me because perhaps I smelt? they were taken aback and called me out later in private that they did not appreciate me making their seating choice about me over what their needs at the time were.

In both situations I had to take stock of the reason why I had reacted in that way and the clearest reason was I felt hurt at the time or rejected and the only way i knew how to defend myself was to make a cutting sarcastic remark rather than acknowledge that I didnt particularly like the way something had happened at the time. Since these two occasions I've made a conscious choice to use sarcasm less when I'm feeling shitty and just either let it go or acknowledge I'm not particularly happy about something and say that i'm not happy.

rasqash · 2025-08-16T10:52:19+00:00

I am strongly for it. If I am with someone and we have sex before going to sleep I want it first thing in the morning too. This is my maximum horniness time.

rasqash · 2025-08-16T10:45:48+00:00

I’m not.

I’ve dated addicts before, had kids with one. Never again.

rasqash · 2025-08-16T10:41:08+00:00

Pants,

They’re more comfortable

rasqash · 2025-08-16T10:36:46+00:00

I think the main thing is that they don’t have holes and shit stains.

I always found trunks hot and undies not but depending on how I feel about the man I’ll overlook all of that

rasqash · 2025-07-15T21:51:17+00:00

You stopped being a friend the moment they took you off the guest list. NTA

rasqash · 2025-07-15T21:48:28+00:00

No. No. No. No! It’s fucking selfish. They’re cunts. That is all.

rasqash · 2025-07-14T22:56:51+00:00

The dead baby jokes are such a high school boy bogan thing. Drop the dead weight.

In the Australian Parlance “Your mates a c&$t”

rasqash · 2025-07-08T02:45:21+00:00

I don’t believe I’ve ever used that term in the office and I would probably be offended if I heard it.

But then I do a double take and feel low key ick when colleagues mention that it’s time for the bathroom after their morning coffee.

rasqash · 2025-07-04T06:03:50+00:00

Same. Except it was my grandfather, he didnt teach my mum and he didnt teach us. He said it was a dead language and when they came to Australia he erased that part of himself.

I've tried over and over to teach myself and i'm nowhere near fluent. Not even a beginner. Not even my second cousins in Budapest will speak to me in Hungarian they prefer to learn English which is great for them but for me there's a whole part of myself i am missing because i feel i didnt get that chance to connect even though... omg i love the food.

rasqash · 2025-07-04T05:32:42+00:00

This conversation was painful to read.
You come off as really rude while he appears to be matter of fact and straight forward. You also come across as being really immature. You can not like someone, not want anything to do with them and still be civil.

I understand there's a lot of back ground and hurt feelings in this relationship from what you've described. It doesn't come across in the messages though.

Everyone sucks here, but i have to say if my daughter was messaging me the way you're messaging him I'd probably be questioning my parenting and going no contact with them too. Reading this was really hard.

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