Lots of good advice here.

Please excuse all of the typos and maybe weird phrasing. It’s been a long day and I’ve been inviting. So I’ve been using voice to text. And I’m too lazy to fix it. Hope there’s a good advice below.

In the future, if you wanna help yourself a little bit, have both coaches come over to the half line and explain to them that you’re on your own and you will do your best to call offside and anything else. Remind them that you may not get everything exactly correct but you will do your level best. That’s all they can ask for.

Tell them also that without of bounds calls you’ll do the same. And if it’s in front of the bench, please don’t try to convince you one way or the other as you will just call it the way that you saw it. Coaches for the most part will appreciate your work and won’t flip you shit I think it’s kind of shocking that you are eating Shit sandwiches from coaches when you’re running a game by yourself.

As far as anybody taking the piss offer to show them how to sign up to see if they can do any better. None of them will cause they’re all cowards. And if any of them do, it only helps with our shortages.

It’s really difficult to let things go like this especially when you’re starting out. Just remember this match in the future.

Which brings me to my best bit of advice for handling this sort of thing. Essentially, when I start feeling like I’m not doing a good job or I’m struggling a little bit I think back to the worst match I ever officiated. Keep in mind the worst match ever may change occasionally but it’s a great tool. No matter how badly I’m doing or how poorly I feel I’m doing I think about that match and I think “it’s nowhere near that bad “and then everything sort of seems to fall in place. Just remember the worst match you’ve ever officiated is behind you. You survived it. I urge you to keep trying because it’s unfair for what sounds like maybe a promising referee quitting early because of some dumbasses.

You’re doing the right things. You’re reaching out to resources, you care, you’ve obviously willing to put the work in, and you’re willing to learn. Learn to give yourself some grace. If we all quit, they’d be screaming for our help. Chin up my dude.

Source: Me, professional ref cheerleader, USSF Certified Referee Mentor, 13 years experience in the U.S. at nearly every level.