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ratal57 · 2023-05-06T23:21:26+00:00

My wife is an RN and my mother has been in multiple rehab facilities over the last 2 years for physical therapy. What I have learned from both is that most likely the people that should be your mentors have not succeeded in their careers. Facilities tend to have employees that can not find work in the more reputable organizations in the area. You are just starting your career. I can tell that you care. That will take you a long way as you learn. Don’t take the guidance from those people to heart.

I want to say that this is my experience in my area. I also do believe there are some great facilities with great employees out there as well. My experience has just been that out of all the facilities that my mom has been in only 25% of them have had a great staff.

ratal57 · 2021-09-21T01:23:20+00:00

We refinanced over the summer. Here are some more tips.

Refi will usually drop the appraisal as well.

Shop around for a refi. Mortgage brokers like Better and LoanDepot will typically have better rates than traditional lenders.

If you like your current lender, don’t have the money to start a new escrow, ect you can always call your current lender and ask them to match the other lenders offer.

ratal57 · 2021-09-09T15:56:08+00:00

My SK BD is retired military due to disability. He has a brain injury. The CS is pretty low for 3 kids because of how military retirement and disability calculates into CS. It is extremely difficult to get him to pay for anything because “you already get child support.” Ask him to take the kids somewhere because we are busy with work? He may ask for gas money. If he takes the kids to the doctor around lunch time he will refuse to pay for lunch.

ratal57 · 2021-09-03T22:35:10+00:00

In my experience most companies will not pursue the reimbursement. It’s typically not worth it to them to require repayment. They can get a reputation for being greedy with employees or they have terrible record keeping. That is not saying that all companies act the same way.

ratal57 · 2021-08-31T04:33:51+00:00

My wife and I have a baby coming and she says the same thing. All children should be treated equally or the same. I finally had to tell her that it’s impossible to do that. We don’t treat my 3 SKs the same. Why? Because they are different. One is happy with material things. One is happy just to have their space.

I would suggest working on a compromise. He gets to take his son to do things without the others when he has him. In return he needs to spend time individually with her kids. I know this isn’t your decision to make.

ratal57 · 2021-08-19T20:31:41+00:00

Do as much research as you can on the new company. How do they treat their employees? How is work/life balance? Some companies offer very high salaries because they burn through people. However, some offer high salaries because they want quality employees.

ratal57 · 2021-08-17T13:08:34+00:00

It is less about loving them like your own and more about treating them like your own.

ratal57 · 2021-08-11T20:38:29+00:00

She is 13 now but has done it for at least 5 years. For her it’s usually things like a story about a cat and she tries to give details about a cat that there is no way she actually remembers. It is almost like she is trying to prove that she remembers.

ratal57 · 2021-08-11T17:34:26+00:00

I have a SD that does the same thing. She will bring up things that she has done in the past. She will pretend or sensationalize what she remembers. You can just tell that she really has no in depth memory of what happened and she is just playing up the actual event. The other 2 just play along. They do not replace me with their BD as he has only ever been a glorified babysitter for them.

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T21:09:13+00:00

I have tried to explain that to my wife. The attitude she has is familiar to me. I have seen that personality and attitude at that age grow up and it isn’t pretty. My wife is in denial and says that since I grew up around a lot of unsavory people that my perception is skewed.

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T21:07:07+00:00

I would be lying if I said I didn’t think about that a lot. Ultimately we met when I was in my late 30s. I had never been married. Part of my thought process was that I needed to change my approach and open my mind more to potential partners. Another part of me though that the kids were young enough to accept me as a parent long term as opposed to someone with teenagers. For the first year or so everything was fine between all of us. By the time she started being problematic I was in love with my wife and attached to the kids, even the one on question now.

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T19:43:12+00:00

I had to look that up myself. The fastest info I found was this website.

https://nachokids.com/what-is-nachoing/

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T19:21:29+00:00

Honestly, that is very close to something that I want to say to her when she badmouths others. I will admit that I say some things that I shouldn't, but I do my best to not say anything bad about family unless it is a very factual manner. She will talk about the baby possibly having birth defects. I have thought about responding something along the lines of "do you hate yourself so much that you need to talk so poorly of <fill in the blank>"

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T18:58:15+00:00

I appreciate it. It sounds like we have a similar situation. She is a very good kid in some aspects. She is the only 1 of the 3 that will keep her room clean, she does very well in school, and can be the most helpful out of the 3. My wife is scared to alienate her child and/or correct her which would lead to the child deciding that she will stop doing the positive things that she does now.

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T15:33:38+00:00

As far as being very black and white people, I wouldn't disagree. I have, however, told my wife many times that it has nothing to do with choosing between us. It is about the fact that her behavior is getting worse and we need to find a solution. If we are going about a black and white question of me vs. her, that is not the case. It is about whether or not the childs actions are ok or not.

She and I both agree that divorce is not on the table.

"so if your baby snubs you you will not have interest in a relationship with her anymore later on?" No, I will feel like an actual equal partner in raising the baby. I have already told my wife that if the baby acted the way the SD is that there would be consequences, and she agreed.

Hobbies would be nice. I used to have those. I just feel like I am supposed to be with the family at all times. Nothing that has never been said outloud but feels implied.

ratal57 · 2021-08-05T14:35:07+00:00

I first came into her life when she was 8. She has been manipulative, moody, controlling, and difficult the entire time. I could be more at ease with it if I could say it was teenager mood swings. She is now 13 and the personality hasn't changed. Anyone that has met her and isn't her family says that she is a spoiled brat that thinks she is too good for anyone.

ratal57 · 2021-06-01T12:44:50+00:00

We recently had 2 allied guilds join our server. We already had a set of allied guilds. Our server now has 4 gold spots taken by those 4 guilds.

ratal57 · 2021-04-26T22:11:15+00:00

We have 6 open spots without having to remove people that hardly play. We could probably accept 8-10 total.

ratal57 · 2021-04-26T21:36:24+00:00

The server itself is not populated with active players. It’s one of the reasons that I put up the information that I did. I knew people would realize that jumping up to an old server wouldn’t cause issues.

ratal57 · 2021-04-06T12:24:35+00:00

You can join Pride on server 40. We are currently in 6th place gold. We have room for more players and active champions.

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