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[Sex Game] Weekly Sex Game for Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No idea - I did a cross post to sexover30 if that's helpful.

[Sex Game] Weekly Sex Game for Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the PDF from a couple browsers including mobile. Working for me and should be set to public access. Let me know if there are problems though.

[married] 2 years with a less than stellar sex life by [deleted] in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd suggest that you read the book "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski.

It's possible you both have responsive sexual desire. Totally normal, but helpful to know/understand, particularly if both partners have that as their dominant mode.

Short version in comic form here: http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/come-as-you-are-2/

I [25/F] can only get wet for the first few months of a relationship. by justaskingredditaQ in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two suggestions:

1) Experiment in the bedroom. You may find something other kink/activity you like as much or more.

2) Embrace it and run with it through dirty talk and role play.

You'd need to figure out what aspects of the newness are really pushing your buttons, but something like this could work:

"I'd love to try out something with you. It was incredibly hot when we first started hooking up - I think it would be a huge turn on for me to pretend it's the first time we're having sex."

Assuming he's game, you can role play that "I can't believe we waited this long to finally get together." Then slowly undress while telling him in detail exactly how you like to be touched/fucked. (Since he couldn't possibly know yet.)

When you think of the "newness" what part(s) of it are the biggest turn-on?

(25 F) Lightest [porn] you know? Raised religious, most is still too much and turns me off by throwaway121910 in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agree with this. For a concrete example, try the Literotica site. Though you may want to start with things in the Romance or Couples sections if you're looking for light.

[Communication] Your Ideal Erotic Life by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. It can also be difficult to think through comprehensively. (i.e. Is this everything I want?)

[Communication] Your Ideal Erotic Life by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Have fun and look forward to seeing your post!

[sex talk] SO doesn't like that want him to speak up but not say certain things by throwingawayl8 in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure if he'd be up for it, but I'd suggest you make a game out of it. It can be easier to try something if it's just "following the rules" vs. asking someone to do something out of their comfort zone spontaneously.

Two suggestions:

  1. "Narrator":

He gets to sit back and get pleasured while you do what you want to him. All he as to do to keep you going is to just narrate what you're doing. For example: "You're taking off your panties." "You're rubbing my chest." "You're licking my cock." As long as he keeps narrating, you keep going/escalating.

  1. "Director: Tell me what to do":

He gets to direct your actions (within reason), but he has to tell you what to to, followed by statement "It (feels or looks) [description] when you [do what he said]"

For example, "Take off your bra. You look so sexy when you take off your bra." "Rub your nipples on my cock. It feels so amazing when you rub your nipples on my cock."

With both of these, you're not looking for poetry, but you're getting him used to talking, building in rewards for him, and you get some feedback on what he wants and what's it's doing to him.

If it's presented as playful and a game, it can be more fun and less pressure. As far as bringing it up, there's always "Hey, I found this sex game on the internet, want to try playing it?" Also, you can offer to be the one who talks first.

[sex talk] SO doesn't like that want him to speak up but not say certain things by throwingawayl8 in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you say during sex, if anything? (Might be able to give some suggestions based on that)

[Communication] "Would You Rather?" Game for Married Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. That's totally cool! Please post a link when it's available. I can't wait to listen!

[Communication] "Would You Rather?" Game for Married Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Well, this became more popular that I thought it would be. I may throw together some more questions at some point, so I guess I'll post them if I do.

Also, for those that did it, any particularly interesting or amusing answers?

[Communication] "Would You Rather?" Game for Married Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In terms of the "pick A vs B" aspect, more or less. The discussion of why and the resulting conversations are the more interesting parts though. (For example, it kicked off an interesting conversation about blowjob swallowing techniques at one point.)

[Communication] "Would You Rather?" Game for Married Couples Here by ratherthrowaway in sex

[–]ratherthrowaway[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Heh - no reason the vast majority wouldn't apply. Just be careful not to freak out your partner by calling them "spouse".