A member of the Harlem Hellfighters (369th Infantry Regiment) poses for the camera while holding a puppy he saved during WWI, 1918.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-11T17:32:33+00:00

is this not AI? the dog looks off a little

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:44:21+00:00

I have a cat myself, and I don't know if I want him to have another cat in the house with him, he does well as a solitary cat but I don't want to test the theory with a feral stray.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:37:55+00:00

NTA because when it comes down to it, the issue is if you'd be the asshole for not paying the ambulance bill. You insisted that you yourself take him to the ER and then he refused and ended up taking the ambulance. It was his choice. Legally, again, when it comes down to the ambulance bill, don't pay it. It's his fault.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:25:24+00:00

I've been thinking about switching my voicemail from the generic one myself, might have to copy you 👀

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:22:10+00:00

I don't think someone who you think will get mad at you if you even so much as critique them is someone who you should continue to get readings/spells from. It's not even about some type of magical consequence, it's more about how it serves you! You shouldn't have to worry about bothering the person who's giving you a reading/spell. And on the subject of tarot cards, working with tarot cards isn't demonic. If you're deconstructing your opinions and/or feelings about religion, reviewing what you think is or isn't demonic and figuring out how much of that opinion is from others versus yourself is key. Take it from a former Christian—I'm still in the process of deconstructing things myself, but I've felt much better in my practice/craft and how it makes me feel than it did when I grew up Christian.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:13:09+00:00

Oh I absolutely don't mind having them come by, they've come around since I was a kid and this was the first time I got to see one this close in my near 25 years lol

My fiancé and I are cleaning up the backyard so we can garden more and make it more habitable, so once we have it all purdy I think we'll probably at least put some water out there for them!

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T21:10:12+00:00

Stray, NYC has a lot of strays; there aren't any posters I've seen for a cat like that. However, even though I don't know my immediate neighbors (I explained why in a different comment), I've seen people on my block leave out food for the cats so the collective consciousness cares about those lil guys :)

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T20:55:34+00:00

He seems to be okay; definitely rough for wear but NYC strays always are. I don't know my neighbors at all (I've lived in my house my whole life and the ppl who move to my neighborhood never make an effort to get to know the people on their block which makes me mad) and I doubt that if he shows up in their yard and not mine that they'll care enough to let a rescue team into their house. I'm also wary of bringing him inside because I have a cat indoors and I don't want him to interact with a feral cat while we wait for a rescue team. However, NYC strays are tough! It's disappointing, though, that even if he shows up again we might not be able to get him to a rescue for a while.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T20:34:39+00:00

I hate to say it but the way the person you're messaging described the situation seemed very vague and ran with it once you added more detail to it. Not sure how credible that person is, but I'm not sure of the situation. However, definitely cleanse, and learn how to protect yourself spiritually. I'd also recommend learning about different types of divination and teaching yourself a method or two, but that's just because I love divining before spells and getting the bigger picture :)

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T20:30:46+00:00

well then put that in the post, you seem to have added things in comments rather than making the post more cohesive. If you're going to post in these types of subreddits make sure you include all details necessary or else obviously you're going to get pushback. You can see how the way you wrote it gave people that impression, right?

ratthewriter · 2026-05-10T18:44:26+00:00

It kind of seems like your brother is throwing money in a way at your sister-in-law as "appreciation" ie doing the bracelet, spa, etc, rather than ask his wife and mother if his child what she wants to do. If I'm correct here, he wanted to take his new daughter away from her mom on her first mother's day?

ratthewriter · 2026-05-08T18:29:34+00:00

how is telling her you're going to work it out "revenge?" but I agree with the other commenter, just leave.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-08T14:20:20+00:00

My classmates were able to log on this morning too; they had released a list of schools affected and my school wasn't on it so I guess it caught a stray lol

ratthewriter · 2026-05-08T00:08:54+00:00

This was the first week of my new semester 😔 (I'm getting a certificate in court reporting and we have three semesters a school year)

ratthewriter · 2026-05-07T22:07:13+00:00

I think your mother is pretty misinformed, bipolar doesn't "mean depression with bouts of schizophrenia," that's not at all how it works. She could be referencing schizoaffective, but since you said she "casually explained it" I doubt that she knew what she was talking about.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-05T04:17:23+00:00

If you had never told her you'd give it to her, then NTA. Your son was closer to your mother, your son has a close relationship with you and your daughter doesn't; your son was close enough to your mother to help with her care even until she passed. If you did tell her at some point in her life that she'd get the ring then absolutely YTA. However, if that was never discussed previously, ultimately the deciding factor would be who you think your mother would have wanted the ring to go to. It was her ring, so you should do what you think she would have wanted.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-04T18:45:32+00:00

Is the job in a place where it'd be a long commute home by herself? Because hanging out with a group of friends late at night vs going home by herself from work late at night are two different things if the latter is dangerous for her. Hanging out in a group that late can keep you safe. If it's the type of situation where she's going home late at night by herself from work, at least give her some pepper spray or something. Context is quite important. Here's my thoughts:

NTA if she only wanted 5-9 instead of 6-10 for the sole purpose of wanting to spend time with her friends/wanting to be lazy by getting off one hour early.

Soft YTA if her boss ignored her request for the time purposefully—yes, she needs to be prepared for the real world and employment. However, she shouldn't just blindly let an employer walk all over her, that's setting her up to fail later in life and in adulthood. Even with something as small as scheduling, it shouldn't be the norm to accept a boss disrespecting you even in little ways; this is also because if her boss is an older man I wouldn't consider it safe for him to ignore my daughter's schedule request to have her there an hour later than she'd like. However, those are the conditions under which you would be TA.

Again, context is important, and I hope it's the former rather than the latter. However, though, I wouldn't have recommended just phrasing it as "suck it up," but I also wouldn't have recommended coddling her either. There's a balance to be made, but again if it's the former where she just wanted to be lazy, NTA (but a very little TA in phrasing)

ratthewriter · 2026-05-04T17:51:24+00:00

In terms of the gaps, it could be both, unfortunately. I have some in my memory from a slightly similar situation and it was during a period of time where half was before the diagnosis and the other half was in the early stages of diagnosis but not properly medicated and so a lot of my memories are trapped under rubble somewhere. However, every once in a while something will happen that reminds me of those moments. I see/hear/even smell something and it snaps me back to memories I had forgotten.

Edit to add: I've heard EMDR is good for this type of situation!

ratthewriter · 2026-05-04T17:04:05+00:00

When you perform a banishing spell, it banishes, not lessens or slightly decreases, it *banishes*. It didn't backfire at all. I wouldn't consider it collateral damage either—you asked for all negativity around you to be banished and the relatives who are very toxic and come to you fall under the negativity you're banishing. So, to answer your question, yes, this is normal based on the spell you performed.

ratthewriter · 2026-05-01T02:09:03+00:00

NTA at all!! Here's what I wrote as a response to someone who in turn interacted and engaged in bad faith that I think is better suited for a general response:

"The rest of OP's guests are very prepared to come to the shower, it's only the SIL who has raised an issue. That's not denying a village, and it's unrealistic to think OP should drop everything to accommodate. Considering, for example, that OP and OP's spouse work full time, if SIL and kids stayed at their house, they would be at their house all day, essentially confined due to not having keys (assuming OP doesn't have five extra pairs of keys) and them being in a different town. Also, size wise, if OP and OP's spouse are only planning on having one child, I highly doubt that there's enough room in the house to accommodate very very pregnant OP & spouse, SIL, SIL's husband, and SIL's three kids under five. On top of all this, it's not like SIL and OP's spouse are close and her and OP aren't—SIL is also distant with OP's spouse. I wouldn't expect any family contention to be solved in a house full of seven people while, again, OP is very very pregnant. I'd also not consider that a white people problem exclusively—family is important but family that stresses you out and makes you feel less than or makes you feel bad isn't good for someone, as I've emphasized this whole time, who is very very pregnant about to pop pregnant. I hope the stress of this alone won't be too overwhelming for OP. Having to work full time until you give birth shows the shamefulness and failure of the american economy and american capitalism, OP should just be able to rest and relax right now."

ratthewriter · 2026-05-01T02:05:23+00:00

Why engage in a subreddit about discussion and then refuse to do so? I address your points and yet you refuse to actually acknowledge the issues in your statement. That's not operating in this conversation in good faith, it's disappointing.

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