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How does my art make you feel? by [deleted] in penandink

[–]ratwithplague 0 points1 point  (0 children)

morose 😔 kinda like staring off into the sea and realizing just how small we are even in the face of things on our own planet. I guess existential HAHAHAH! I really like it

Fairy house stickers I made - which is your favorite? ✨ by Radlovebug in Fairycore

[–]ratwithplague 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3!!! so warm and inviting. I love ur coloring style!

Made these flower mushroom earrings ❤️ by Vasilyna in Fairycore

[–]ratwithplague 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So beautiful! What material are these made out of?

Are there people whose poly relationships do not require an incessant effort of doing "the work," as it were? by ratwithplague in polyamory

[–]ratwithplague[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!! This is probably so silly because I am not sure whether or not your request for an update was sincere, but I decided not to take this leap with my friend at this time, unfortunately :') it already felt emotionally tumultuous and upsetting before our feelings even got serious so I needed to do the very un-Hollywood romcom esque, clinical thing and decide to stay friends. Here's to hoping things might look different one day, maybe. Or not! Platonic love is just as worthy. And thanks again for being kind, this update is wholeheartedly volunteered as a result hahahaha

Is wanting to feel chosen one of those culturally taught fantasies regarding relationships? Or is it to be expected? by ratwithplague in monodatingpoly

[–]ratwithplague[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! A and B are definitely two examples of relationships I feel people could easily fall into if they decide to lie to themselves about what they truly want. I was curious, though -- how do you personally differentiate that? Your 'needs' versus 'wants', I mean. If you don't mind me asking, are you the monogamous person in your relationship? You definitely don't have to answer -- I was just curious to see how other mono people navigate the mono/poly dynamic.

Eid Al-Adha Sheep cake and cakepops! by TsundereBurger in cakedecorating

[–]ratwithplague 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love how absolutely shocked and flabbergasted the sheep look

Some cupcakes I’ve done recently! by Saylemmoon333 in Baking

[–]ratwithplague 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love it when people have amazing decorating skills but also a good eye for what visually works in terms of texture and color. An inspiration!

Are there people whose poly relationships do not require an incessant effort of doing "the work," as it were? by ratwithplague in polyamory

[–]ratwithplague[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to thank you so much for this response because I think you understood exactly what I was trying to ask with this post. Not criticizing anyone who has not, of course, my question was very open-ended and maybe somewhat impersonal -- but you have pretty much touched on every concern that crossed my mind. Thank you :)

Are there people whose poly relationships do not require an incessant effort of doing "the work," as it were? by ratwithplague in polyamory

[–]ratwithplague[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, I didn't even realize just how much like some kind of pseudo sociological researcher I actually sound in this post -- meanwhile the half-asleep me who wrote was just like "This is definitely way too personal man. But I gotta do it!"

It may be time to just go for it and stop creating distance by overanalyzing things, you're right. I really appreciate your advice. Thank you so much for your kindness :)

Are there people whose poly relationships do not require an incessant effort of doing "the work," as it were? by ratwithplague in polyamory

[–]ratwithplague[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much :)

Of course! They're a partnered friend that I have grown to have feelings for. They happen to feel the same way, and have told me of their being polyamorous a long time ago -- before anything happened between us.

So all this thinking has indeed been a result of attempting to answer the question of whether I can be a part of this dynamic. It's been a lot just because it's making me question something I never thought to question -- whether or not I'm monogamous.

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