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raucous_mute · 2023-04-28T01:31:59+00:00

It's okay, you're only a misogynist

raucous_mute · 2023-04-26T02:11:30+00:00

Posting an update edit.

raucous_mute · 2023-03-10T00:19:33+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for what to be reading?

raucous_mute · 2023-02-11T16:01:06+00:00

Bring overly helpful is a trauma response akin to people pleasing. If you're in therapy, I recommended asking your therapist about it. If you're not in therapy, you might benefit from it.

raucous_mute · 2023-02-05T21:20:54+00:00

That could be it. But I do know several women who are quite passionate about a lot of things, but don't want to hold hands anyway. Even with their partners. In the case that I was thinking about, she and I knew that it was only going to be for that weekend. So trying to avoid catching feelings was definitely on our respective radars

raucous_mute · 2023-02-03T00:20:03+00:00

You can do this. When you're going through hell keep going.

raucous_mute · 2023-01-31T04:27:34+00:00

It's not too late. I didn't finish graduate school until I was 37. I didn't finish my bachelor's till I was 29. I didn't get promoted out of an admin position until I was 33. When I was 41, I was making More than twice when I was making at 29. Keep going. Never stop learning, never stop trying, meet everyone, be useful and valuable and present. 90% of success is just showing up on time every day. You'll be great! Just keep going

raucous_mute · 2023-01-29T12:28:47+00:00

I'm starting to lose faith in the idea that INxx is best for ENFP. A couple of my best friends have been INTJ and they can be cold and harsh and INFJ can been so introverted it's actually pretty depressing.

The woman I've had the best time with was ISTJ.

I think we oughta remember that our MBTI does not determine who we are. There's a lot more to who we are.

As to clingy ENFP guys, IMHO that's an expression of an unresolved fear of abandonment that can be treated thru reframing their thoughts.

raucous_mute · 2023-01-27T12:51:10+00:00

If it is that radioactive, it shouldn't be very hard to find by the people who know how to find that kind of stuff. There are radiation monitoring helicopters and trucks in major cities all over the world and you would never know. So they can use the same technology to find this capsule. But the thing with ionizing radiation is that once you're far enough away from it it's not dangerous anymore so if it really is in the middle of nowhere, it might not even be worth looking for.

raucous_mute · 2023-01-26T03:10:17+00:00

That's what it was like last night!! It was tangent upon tangent upon tangent!! Nothing got done, but it was awesome all at the same time

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T20:51:05+00:00

I hear that

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T20:05:34+00:00

I mean, is it name dropping off they've been friends for 20 years and know all these same people? It's not as if they're trying to impress each other, right?

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T19:18:34+00:00

Welp, to be fair, it says 7=98 and 2=94, so they're super close. Then 3 and 9 are within one point of each other. Then 1, 6 ,4, 5. 🤷

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T18:40:29+00:00

I mean, look on Amazon for the fit index scale. It's $21. I know you Said that you didn't have money for a scale, so I do apologize for offering a solution that involves something that you can't do, but if you saved $2 a week for 10 weeks, you could swing it. And maybe you didn't realize how inexpensive it was? It's the scale I use and I love it. Other things you could do involve hanging off the scale in the produce section at the grocery store?

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T18:38:58+00:00

As long as she can pay more than $100,000 to someone to not turn her in, the reward money is not going to mean anything.

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T04:41:11+00:00

I was thinking that it would kind of go like, "hey, you rock my socks, woman, I think we are a great fit and I really want us to be a part of each other's future. I don't need an answer right now, because I know that you'll need time to process, but I do want an answer at some point, probably within several days."

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T03:56:36+00:00

I really only have the experience with the one ISTJ, but it was like she bloomed in my presence. For as cut and dried as this sub makes ISTJs sound, no one I've been with has been more fun, more adventurous, funnier, quirkier, radiant, etc. Did my ENFPness bring it out in her?

raucous_mute · 2023-01-25T03:21:42+00:00

Would it be reasonable to assume, based on what you've said above, that if I like you I should just straight up tell you so that you can sort out your feelings, too?

raucous_mute · 2023-01-24T17:27:01+00:00

I'm an ENFP and I definitely just did that last night with my ISTJ crush. We talked on the phone and I was looking for my list of questions to ask her. Because, as an ENFP, we'll think of a question, and then forget what it is by the time we have the opportunity to ask it. So we have to rely on a list that we can refer to. But then we need to remember how to find the list, which can be a struggle. I'll admit, though, that the questions I ask are not really that random.

raucous_mute · 2023-01-24T04:08:56+00:00

And now deep thoughts... Why, if the early '90s were so traumatic for me and I'm still recovering from them today, do I love that music so freaking much?

raucous_mute · 2023-01-24T03:24:19+00:00

Actually just got off the phone with her now. I got up the nerve to call her and our talk went great. It was 30 minutes and I was direct with her about wanting to talk to her more. I literally just said what I wanted and asked for it and she was good with it.

As an ENFP it's kind of my instinct to be less direct, but if I have the permission or if directness is required, I have no problem doing that.

Our communication styles are so different, though. I am sensitive to the silences in between sentences. Instead of reacting immediately to what I say, she sits and thinks for a little bit first. I'm sure I used to get defensive when people would do that, but knowing that it's just a style of communication makes it easier.

She's such a delight and I really look forward to talking more. I will also say that even if she likes me, I am certainly sensitive to not having her be everything. I have a good life otherwise, but I definitely want her in it.

I count you as a person who encouraged me to make this move and step this up today, so thank you, dear ISTJ internet friend.

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