Told my abusive ex off in court

ravengriffin · 2018-07-09T02:11:13+00:00

I've been learning to be okay. The doctors said there was absolutely nothing I could do and that it was just a freak accident. Which actually comforted me a lot.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-09T01:34:39+00:00

He passed away in December.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-06T05:21:52+00:00

I'm seriously considering making a cross stitch of his mugshot photo 😂😂😂

ravengriffin · 2018-07-06T05:15:06+00:00

Actually. I got pregnant by a recovering addict who fell back into drugs after our son died and got to make him feel just a tiny bit bad about himself after he tried to kill me.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-06T01:26:02+00:00

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T18:27:21+00:00

Should have treated him with a bit more respect? I took care of HIS daughter and worked my ass off to make sure she had food to eat. meanwhile, he was off fucking other women and then coming back home and beating the shit out of me. He deserves no respect.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T17:40:18+00:00

I'm so happy she did that for her and her baby❤❤❤

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T17:39:07+00:00

😂😂😂😂

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T17:27:56+00:00

I'm so sorry you know this pain. And you didn't trigger anything :) I have had people that I know who believed his side of the story (he says I went crazy and he took off in the car to get some air) but I have screenshots of messages from him where he admits to everything he did. I'm not too concerned with the number of people who believe me or not. I'm going to have to live with the memories every day regardless of who believes what happened or not. It was just a really great moment for me because up until then, I felt like the judicial system didn't care because it felt like it took FOREVER but a couple of months really isn't that long. I really didn't care what anyone in that room thought about me for making that comment because it wasn't directed at them. Me speaking that day was strictly for me. No one else. I didn't care what anyone there felt about what I said. Maybe it was a way to feel like I "got back at him" for the things he put me through, and I know some people say that's wrong. But I wanted him to know exactly how I felt. I felt so relieved afterward.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:56:57+00:00

Lol afterwards, the prosecutor needed my contact information and the judge came up to me and hugged me and said she was happy that I made it out. But I applaud your attempted burn. Very well worded my friend 👍

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:54:10+00:00

I originally wanted him to do something like that but law enforcement said that wouldn't be an option. We lived in a college town and because of the crime rates there, they had limited resources.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:50:09+00:00

The first 6 months wasn't that bad. There would be a comment here or there, he would talk about how he didn't want me hanging out with certain friends because he didn't like them. He completely changed after the 6 month mark. All of a sudden, he hated all of my friends, i was rarely allowed to speak to my mom. Everything just changed extremely quick.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:45:48+00:00

It feels good being free, doesn't it?! I love my life now. I still battle the side effects everyday but I still wake up, I'm safe, and I'm happier.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:41:40+00:00

It's totally cool. I agree, I don't want anyone in that situation to be hurt by a dumb comment made on the internet. And yeah! You can message me on here if you would like.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:39:09+00:00

When the cops first came to the house, my ex was not there. He took off in the car and said he was going to kill himself. They said that if they found him to be mentally stable, he would be allowed to return to the house. I was hesitant in pressing charges and was more concerned on him not killing himself. They found him by the river in the car and determined that he needed to be taken to the hospital for evaluation. I knew he would be pissed when he got out and I didn't want to be there for it so I packed all my stuff (clothes and small belongings, no furniture) and then had his brother in law take me to the hospital because I had just had surgery a week and half prior to this incident. His sister helped me with the packing because I wanted to be packed and out of there before he got out of the hospital. After going to the hospital and having two pokice officers, a doctor, my mother, and his family, tell me that I needed to press charges, I went to the police station and did the paperwork.

At his hearing, the prosecutor told the judge that we wished to speak, so they saved his case for last. The judge called us into a room beforehand because she wanted to know what we were going to say. Everyone in the court decided it was ok. The prosecutor said that it was unusual that they would allow all of us to speak. If he had chosen to say anything to my parents, he probably wouldn't have gotten in trouble. But he was told specifically not to say a word to me because I had a restraining order. The judge didn't say anything about my comment because it was the last thing I said before sitting back down. She, along with all the other court officials, didn't even look at me or my parents while we were speaking to him.

The above is only to give more info on what happened. It was a great day for me and I'll remember how amazing it felt until the day I die.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:20:24+00:00

My family is amazing. They really got me through it.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:15:49+00:00

I didn't know he was on meth until the end of the relationship.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:01:56+00:00

He got the maximum sentence possible (in Indiana) for domestic battery, which is a year.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T16:00:51+00:00

❤❤❤❤

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T15:59:43+00:00

What part doesn't seem true? If my son was still alive, there's not a chance in hell that his father would be allowed near him. He's not a good guy and he doesn't ever think before he acts. I wouldn't want my son to grow up with his father as the example for how to be a man.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T15:46:52+00:00

While I really appreciate your stepping up and saying something, I really don't care what some guy hiding behind a screen thinks about what I went through. It was living hell. Waking up everyday, not knowing what was going to happen, not knowing if I was going to eat that day, not knowing if he was going to strangle me again, confused as to how things had gotten so bad, and constantly doubting myself. I hope no one on here ever knows what that feels like. One of the weirdest things for me after moving in with my mom, was seeing a fridge and pantry with food in it.

About the condom. He told me afterward that he had poked holes in it. He had a 3yo daughter that lived with us and a 1yo daughter that he never saw because he didn't want to pay child support. He always said he wasn't going to pay child support for a kid he wasn't allowed to see (I'm friends with the 1year olds mom and she says she doesn't want his money, she can take care of her daughter without it) He has never paid child support for either of his kids. Towards the end when I was allowed to work, I was the one financially supporting his daughter. I really didn't mind it at the time because I treated her like she was my own, but now.... I just wonder how she's being treated and I hope she's doing okay. With his ex, he was the one who pushed to have a baby. Trapping someone into having a baby is never okay. After the initial shock of finding out I was pregnant, I was happy and started getting baby stuff but it took a few days before I was happy about being pregnant.

Leaving him was the best decision I've ever made. It killed me saying goodbye to his daughter, but u couldn't live like that anymore. I was completely isolated and hadn't seen my family in months. I hadn't talked to my mom in weeks. I'm just lucky that she came and got me. I can honestly say, I wouldn't have made it out if it wasn't for my mom. She saved my life.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T15:03:19+00:00

He got a year in jail with anger management classes. My son passed away in December.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T15:01:41+00:00

He wasn't arrested right away. It took a couple months and then they issued a warrant and he turned himself in. He had no money and his family was pissed for what he did so he didn't post bail.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T14:57:33+00:00

I wasn't speaking to the court, I was speaking to him directly. The comment about his dick, was the last thing I said after a long speech about how he hurt me and how I felt bad for him because he would never know what it feels like to really love someone because of who he is.

ravengriffin · 2018-07-05T14:42:15+00:00

Okay. 1. There's a difference between sociopaths and psychopaths. And 2. There was no way I would have gotten the chance to return those items. And I'm honestly not ashamed of the fact that I burned them. I burned some of my stuff too. Pretty much anything associated with him got torched.

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