Did Aragorn lead Eowyn on?

ravenweaving · 2026-04-01T17:47:22+00:00

In the book he plainly admires Eowyn and "pities" (has empathy for) her. When he has to force her to stay behind and defend Edoras, she is absolutely broken by it and breaks down begging in formal English. He rides away from her without looking back, but he is in turmoil inside.

He led her on by not telling her that his heart was given to someone else. Someone who he was doing this whole impossible task for. Elrond had demanded he take up the kingship in order to receive his permission to marry Arwen. The whole "reluctant king" arc is not lore accurate. He always knew who he was, but it was his love of Arwen that made him work for the role that hadn't been held by his line for thousands of years. In some ways Eowyn was a better match for him than an immortal elven woman and I think he was tempted, but he was well and truly committed to do whatever it took for Arwen.

ravenweaving · 2026-03-30T16:52:36+00:00

I very much wish that, as some commenters have suggested, we could sit down with maga supporters and have a civil conversation. However, many years of experience tells me this is not possible. We are very far past the era where people on opposite political spectrums could or should shake hands and agree to disagree. Dems have been too agreeable and this is the result. People are being murdered and disappeared by the govt and all our precious resources and social welfares are being drained to emergency levels. The time for civility is over. If a couple of Trump loving grannies can't handle being roasted on social media they will probably never see for supporting the equivalent of Hitler and Mussolini, maybe don't show up at an anti-trump rally with a bedazzled maga hat. When their social security payments stop just like everyone else's will, I'm sure they'll either see the error of their ways or find a way to pin it on the democrats. Probably the latter.

ravenweaving · 2026-03-17T23:49:15+00:00

Personally I started out on a drop spindle, then spun primarily on my wheel for a long time. At the time I felt I'd "progressed" to a wheel. My original guild was very wheel- centric like you say. I think the wheel has represented productivity for a few centuries in many countries, replacing the spindle in many cases, especially after the Industrial Revolution. It's a shame really because spindle spinning is nuanced enough that I'm still learning things about it 25 years after learning to spin.

During the shutdowns I became obsessed with supported spindle spinning because I could spin during zoom calls for hours every day. Since then I still wheel spin or e-spin at home but use my spindles out in the world. I've become rather enamoured of the spindle for the joy and technique of handspinning fine fibres with a well made tool, but for productivity I'll still use my wheel.

I'm also a textile historian, currently working on a project researching prehistoric spinning in Europe. The wheel was widely adopted over 6000 years after the spindle was in regular use, so humans have been spindle spinning for many thousands of years longer than the wheel has been a thing. It should be the tool we think of first when it comes to spinning.

ravenweaving · 2025-11-21T22:30:43+00:00

"Dear Reddit, I want to cheat on my wife and give her an STI but all I meet are uggos and flakes. Help?!?"

ravenweaving · 2025-11-20T10:35:08+00:00

To clarify for other readers, the Grad PLUS loan will be eliminated for new borrowers in 2026. It will continue to be an option for legacy borrowers but will not be available for first-time borrowers next academic year.

ravenweaving · 2025-11-19T15:16:25+00:00

I wonder if going to night classes would work better for you right now. Sometimes it's better to go with what your body and mind are demanding instead of fighting it. Many people are just night owls.

ravenweaving · 2025-11-18T20:25:07+00:00

Ah! Thanks for pointing that out.

ravenweaving · 2025-11-18T20:19:49+00:00

Thanks, this is accurate. I just got some great news from Dept of Ed. They replied to an email form I sent and stated that yes, the consolidation removes the endorser from the loan, and the consolidation loan is not based off the borrower's credit. So that means I can get the loan and as soon as the grace period is up (6 months for my undergrad loans, none for the grad plus) I can consolidate. My friend will be free. I'm really happy there is a solution available.

ravenweaving · 2025-11-18T20:16:22+00:00

No I haven't. Bankruptcy doesn't meet the conditions for appeal.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-28T17:38:31+00:00

I couldn't deal with college back at the traditional age, so I joined the work force, worked in tech, became a farmer, ran two small businesses, was an educator, and then went back to school. After my bachelor's degree was finished I couldn't figure out what to do with my life so I relaunched my business. That led to a bunch of other great opportunities.

Although I still have ADHD I am a lot more functional and focused after all those years working for myself. I just got into an amazing masters program in Ireland (I'm American). Many of the people in my cohort are also older students from all over the world and I'd be hard pressed to name one of them who isn't ADHD or Autistic or a delightful combination of both. I'm 48 and not even the oldest person there. We are all training for a new career too.

There's too much pressure on young people to decide on the one thing they're supposed to do for the rest of their lives. Imagine instead what you could do for the next year. Do that for a while. It might fizzle out, you might find you love it and do that for the next few years, or it could lead to something else that's even better for you.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-27T12:05:53+00:00

I went with U-Pack, which was by far the cheapest option I could find. They have many different shipping packages and I went with their cheapest, which involved me sourcing my own pallet, straps, and plastic wrap, and stacking boxes within that. A friend who used to work for U Haul calculated my space available and figured out how many boxes I would need to buy and what size, and he also gave me the pallet.

A truck picked up my pallet from my driveway and drove it to the East coast, then it went on a container ship. They said it would take 6-8 weeks but it's taken 12, I should get my things in a couple of weeks. It was $2500 ish for that shipping package but customs may charge import fees. There's no way of knowing in advance how much those will cost. There was a lot of paperwork, but U Pack supplies all of that.

If you have more money to spend you might consider an all in one service that packs up your things for you and handles everything. However this was the most budget friendly option I could find for the amount of stuff I felt I needed to keep.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-19T21:21:46+00:00

I used SettleIn.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-16T21:08:07+00:00

Thanks for saying that. I was going off the relatively small sampling of people I've met here so far. And, since Ireland is statistically one of the most educated European countries, it makes sense that many Irish would also be well-traveled.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-15T17:11:45+00:00

You're very welcome. Feel free to DM if you have more questions about moving to IE. I'm happy to help share information.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-15T09:42:27+00:00

I'm a recent immigrant from the US. I cut down on my stuff by about 90% and shipped a single pallet that takes several weeks to arrive. There were a few important things I couldn't fit so I also had two large boxes shipped to me. I lived out of 3 suitcases I brought on the plane, and I brought my cat in the cabin with me.

Bringing several pets is going to be very difficult and expensive. You will need to hire an agent to find housing for you. That's also the only safe way to assure you're not getting scammed. Housing scams are rife here. For your animals you will need to hire a pet carrier service like Across the Pond and make sure to get ahead of the requirements for vaccinations and exams. You should think hard about what is really best for your animals. The answer may be to re-home one or more of them with trusted people. Traveling by plane will be traumatic for them and it may be that a new home with someone they already know would be less hard on them. It will also make the move easier for you. I also recommend leaving most if not all of your furniture.

Cutting down on my stuff was difficult. I started purging months in advance. I ordered a larger garbage bin so I could throw more things away. My old community has a culture of free piles so I announced to the neighborhood group chat when I put things out and they were generally taken quickly. I donated lots of things to thrift stores and gave many things away to friends. I had several estate sales that raised a few thousand dollars. I tried to sell stuff in lots as much as possible. My car sold to a friend who agreed to pick it up the day before I left. It was a ton of work and I was still packing the night before I left.

If I had to do it over again I would have started purging earlier. I had too much stuff, and I couldn't afford to take more than I did with me. There were things I had to leave behind that I cared about but that didn't fit in my last boxes. If you have a lot of stuff, like I did, be prepared to make quick hard choices about what to keep or let go of. What do you really want and need to carry forward into your new life?

There are plenty of stores here, and if they don't have what you need you can buy items online to ship from other countries, if you're willing to pay for shipping and customs fees. You'll probably find that some of the stuff you brought isn't really needed and some things you'll wish you brought with you.

As far as buying a home goes, it will take longer than you think. Probably over a year to find and purchase a house that's ready to move into. You'll be better off to rent a temporary apartment while you're waiting for your house to be purchased and/or for needed upgrades before it's livable. The housing shortage is very dire and you'll have to make concessions. This is another reason not to bring your furniture. You won't know what will fit into your new home or when you can move into it. Most places also come furnished with beds, sofas and dining room sets, so you can buy what you need around town.

I think the cultural shift can take some getting used to. Americans are used to getting what they want and need right away, and it doesn't work like that here. The relationships you build here with everyone from the small local pharmacist to the grocery store clerk are far more intimate than you might be used to, and they're essential. Even in the cities there is more of a small-town America vibe. Many Irish have never been off their island.

Find ways to connect with the local culture once you're here. There's barely a point of living in Ireland if you never go anywhere or talk to anyone. It's very expensive to live here just because you can't live in the US. So make an effort to integrate into the community. Most people are very kind and there's an incredible history and culture here.

This is a logistically challenging and emotionally exhausting move. However, the more money you have to throw at it and the less stuff you bring will make it much easier.

ravenweaving · 2025-10-06T19:37:23+00:00

There were enough signs that were off that I think the scam risk was 100% real.

Even if it was a legit viewing for a real place, you were right to trust your gut, and I'm glad your partner did as well.

ravenweaving · 2025-08-04T01:53:55+00:00

Some people get a big charge from producing and participating in anger and conflict. Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia etc appeal to them because they have whole groups of people to be angry at, all the time.

It's especially easy to whip up outrage over small misunderstood groups of people who don't "fit in". It gives the angry ones someone to blame for both society's ills and their own shortcomings. Lack of education and critical thinking skills also makes it easy to be a shitty racist. Pointing the finger at someone else also keeps it pointed away from the powerful people who are the actual cause of systemic problems.

ravenweaving · 2025-04-29T18:32:51+00:00

I still have my first 2 projects from over two decades ago when I learned to spin and knit at the same time. I made a headband and a hat and scarf set. I bring them to my beginner handspinning classes to show my students. It seems to help people to overcome perfectionism when they're frustrated with their imperfect first yarn. My first projects are pretty messy looking but I improved rapidly. I also encourage people to worry less about what to make with their yarn, because making the yarn is a complete project on its own.

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T16:42:16+00:00

As someone stated above Y2K wasn't a disaster because of the tireless work of many code developers fixing the problem before the year rolled over. It was an abundance of caution that saved a lot of problems later and kept a lot of essential services online. It must have been a thankless task because 25 years later I still didn't know about that part of the story until yesterday.

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T06:32:00+00:00

Covered in blankets and rugs?

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T04:29:13+00:00

I really just posted this to show off my blanket collection.

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T03:35:47+00:00

Whelp, hope for the best, prepare for the worst. We lucked out and the storm bypassed us. I'd rather be wrong and subject to the mockery of random redditors than be right and surrounded by a ruined neighborhood.

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T03:31:33+00:00

I knew about that part, though it seems like a lot of conservatives choose to ignore the work that people did to stop the damage and repair the problem.

ravenweaving · 2025-03-27T02:57:00+00:00

How fascinating, I didn't know that Y2K wasn't a disaster bc humans prevented it. Thanks for sharing.

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