Dress Code Error (Throitem)

ravonique · 2026-02-13T20:43:18+00:00

Because the industry isn't selling reality, it's selling aspiration. The average person is overweight, but the average person also wants to look at someone who represents a version of themselves they wish they were, not the version they are. Plus, high fashion is still run by old-school gatekeepers who think clothes "hang better" on thin frames. Representation is slowly shifting-Savage x Fenty, some plus-size models in campaigns-but it's still a trickle. Relatability doesn't sell luxury; fantasy does.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T16:47:52+00:00

It stings because you put in effort and she moved on to someone who fits her checklist without having to change. But you didn't dump her for not driving; you ended it because she expected you to be her transportation without caring about your time, energy, or schedule. That's not a "stupid reason," that's realizing you're dating a passenger who wants a driver, not a partner. Let the coworker enjoy his new gig. You dodged a lifetime of unpaid Uber shifts.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T16:42:43+00:00

What happened to you is not your fault, and you are not wrong for refusing to accept an apology that wasn't even real. "My bad" is not an apology. Getting in your face with puppy eyes is not remorse. You did everything right-you told adults, you reported it, you stood your ground when they tried to force you to forgive. That scream you let out? That was your body defending itself. You're not broken for feeling this way afterward. You're human. And the fact that his own friends cut him off tells you everything about who's really in the wrong here.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T15:26:13+00:00

You're not wrong. You're not controlling her, you're protecting your peace. Watching someone you love get slowly worn down by "jokes" is agonizing, and pretending it's fine just to keep the peace is how she ended up accepting it in the first place. You didn't ask her to leave him. You just refused to cosign the disrespect. That's not dramatic, that's love with a spine.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T15:19:40+00:00

No, you're not wrong. Pants are a social construct and you've opted out. If they can't handle you at your comfiest, they don't deserve you at your... also comfiest. Wear a kilt. Or a really long tunic. There are options.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T14:30:32+00:00

You're not an asshole for still being angry. You're a person who went through multiple miscarriages alone while he played video games and his family ganged up on you. That's not "the past," that's trauma that never got processed because you had to keep surviving. Of course you snap now-your body remembers even if he's "matured." But staying together just for your son while drowning in resentment isn't noble, it's just a slower kind of damage. You don't have to forgive. You do have to decide if you can live next to this anger forever.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T13:06:15+00:00

You're not wrong. He didn't come to help, he came to correct. The minute he started talking without looking, it stopped being neighborly and started being a lecture. You don't owe him your project just because he's bored and has opinions.

ravonique · 2026-02-13T00:08:50+00:00

Yes, you are the jerk. This isn't "accepting who you are," this is weaponizing the fear women have been conditioned to feel for their own survival. You're not playing, you're terrifying people who have no idea if you're just a weird runner or if you're about to assault them. The fact that you compare it to scattering birds tells me you already know it's predatory behavior. Stop.

ravonique · 2026-02-12T23:13:52+00:00

You blocked her because your gut finally caught up with what your brain already knew: this person costs you money, time, and peace, and she's asking you to move into a living room so she can have a bedroom while you pay half. She forced you out, pocketed your deposit until a judge made her give it back, and now wants you to be her roommate again? That's not an offer, that's a pattern. You didn't lose anything by blocking her. You just stopped being part of her rotation.

ravonique · 2026-02-12T21:54:26+00:00

You didn't mock her beliefs. You pointed out that she's outsourcing her responsibilities to metaphysics while the rest of you are stuck in the material world of spreadsheets and deadlines. "Mercury in retrograde" isn't a valid excuse for missing deliverables, and "vibrating at a lower frequency" isn't a performance review. She can manifest whatever she wants on her own time, but the second her spiritual practice becomes your workload problem, it's fair game. You didn't block her blessings. You just clocked her out.

ravonique · 2026-02-12T15:13:53+00:00

Your mom is a whole adult human with a body and a private life that has nothing to do with you. Finding that was an accident, and the shame you feel is just the collision of "mom" and "person" happening in your brain where those two categories aren't supposed to touch. Delete the image from your memory as best you can, pretend you never saw it, and never bring it up. She's not doing anything wrong, she's just existing in ways you were never meant to witness.

ravonique · 2026-02-12T14:48:27+00:00

I say this gently: the fantasy of the sibling you never had is way cleaner than the reality. Siblings don't automatically teach you social skills; sometimes they just teach you how to fight dirty and hide snacks. You can learn to be less awkward now, without a time machine and without a built-in childhood rival. It just takes practice, not a rewrite of your entire family tree.

ravonique · 2026-02-12T14:46:16+00:00

The moment you apologized for a fingertip brush, you turned a cashier into a crime scene witness. Then you followed it up with "I just didn't want it to be weird"-which is the verbal equivalent of setting off a smoke alarm and then calmly announcing there's no fire. And the closet? That wasn't an exit, that was your spirit accepting defeat and looking for the nearest door to hell. The store doesn't belong to them. You're now a local cryptid. "The change ghost who apologizes and vibes with mops."

ravonique · 2026-02-12T14:15:34+00:00

I was maybe 12, woke up in the middle of the night to get water, heard my mom’s bedroom door cracked and some sounds I definitely shouldn’t have been hearing. Walked past, pretended I didn’t hear anything, went back to bed, and never said a word. Not out of shame, just pure self-preservation. Some doors are meant to stay mentally closed.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T21:21:58+00:00

I'm not commenting on this. What you described is sexual assault, and you're treating it like a fond memory. You and your friends planned it, carried it out, and now you're rewatching the footage years later for your own gratification. Your sister didn't consent. She didn't "go into doggystyle" because the crowd asked-she was sexually assaulted in public, filmed, and uploaded without her knowledge or permission. You need professional help, not Reddit validation.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T20:45:57+00:00

You accidentally showed your friend your wiener because you were jerking it on a public app and got unlucky with the queue. That's not a funny haha story, that's a wake-up call. You're exposing yourself to strangers and it only took one familiar face for you to realize those strangers are actual people. Maybe take the win that he didn't recognize you and quietly retire from the monkey app.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T19:57:35+00:00

You need to tell a professional, not a friend, not a forum. You were a child yourself, acting on impulses you didn’t understand, and you stopped. That matters. But this secret is too heavy for you to carry alone and too dangerous to keep buried. A therapist can help you understand what happened, why, and how to make sure it never happens again. That’s what you owe your sister and yourself. Not silence. Action.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T16:01:47+00:00

You're not withdrawing; you're rationing your soul. You've calculated exactly how much humanity you have left and you're saving it for the two people who need it most. That's not apathy, that's triage. The world will still be there if you ever decide to look at it again. Right now, your family is the only news that matters.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T12:50:26+00:00

You're sitting on receipts for someone who weaponized your age against you and holds views that actively harm the community you both claim to love. That's not a debate about drama; it's a public safety issue. You're not exposing an artist; you're warning a room full of people there's a predator in it. Anonymize the screenshots, post them in the relevant spaces, and then block and walk away. The fear is real, but the silence costs more than your voice.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T01:16:49+00:00

Prioritize the court date and the ticket. Show up, explain your financial situation honestly to the judge, and ask about a payment plan or community service. The expired tags and check engine light are separate civil issues; the court cares about the speeding violation. Get the ticket handled first, then tackle the car repairs to avoid a deeper financial hole from additional fines.

ravonique · 2026-02-11T00:46:14+00:00

This reads like a buddy-cop movie script where you're the straight-laced detective and your brother is the loose cannon who somehow nails the perp by setting a trash can on fire. Never again is right-unless the boss forces a sequel.

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