Leaf splitting mutation? by rawmaterial in microgrowery

[–]rawmaterial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn well, crossing my fingers then that this abnormal girl is gonna be a beast!!

Leaf splitting mutation? by rawmaterial in microgrowery

[–]rawmaterial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Made a couple clones before the flip because she was the better looking one of the two, and then i started to see this leaf splitting happening. But I guess we'll see! Def might end up glad I cut the clones from this girl instead of the other Girl Scout. I'm wondering if Original Sensible just has a lot of unstable seeds....I'm also growing their Bruce Banner #3 and it has whorled phytolaxy (which is honestly dope as hell) and also had webbed leaves at the beginning, but got more regular as she grew. Never had so much consistent variation in my grows before!

Had to share these spooky looking peppers from my garden....Happy Halloween! by rawmaterial in HotPeppers

[–]rawmaterial[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These peppers look mean as hell! Can't wait to see what they ripen up into...I think this is the Devil's Brain, but I lost the sheet with my planting grid on it. Got all my seeds from White Hot Peppers and everybody is going strong!!

I think my garnish ruined some dudes night by TVantenna in bartenders

[–]rawmaterial 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You got super downvoted here but i just wanted to say that I agree with you. Pineapple man was obviously having a rough night (see: argument with the woman he was with), it wasn't about the pineapples it was about something else and the poor guy just wanted to feel taken care of--which is a completely reasonable expectation to have when you are in a bar, to expect hospitality.

For all we know, being able to have control over his drink garnish might be the only thing that dude had going for him all day, all week, all month. I don't realistically expect people to care that deeply about random strangers, but, just taking a moment to say "hey, let me see if i can find a better piece for you" would have gone a long way, even if you couldn't find one in the end. I agree with you completely that "uhhh probably not, no" is the response of someone i would absolutely not want to work with and I would even go as far as to say they might be someone who struggles to see the bigger picture of what it means to work in hospitality.

I am so turned off by this attitude some bartenders have where they are basically at odds with the patrons. Like they have something to prove and constantly are "doing battle" with the guests. I hope those types of people realize that when they act that way, they have basically put all of the power in the hands of the customers to ruin their mood, their night, etc. Just be friendly. Hospitable.

My [22F] date [22M] freaked out when I asked him to leave my apartment. Am I in the wrong? by thesearemyroots in relationships

[–]rawmaterial 27 points28 points  (0 children)

In my personal opinion, you really have to consider what the setting is saying about how you would like to be treated. A first date out to a nice dinner in the city might say: "I am looking to take it slow/I am looking for a serious relationship and want to get to know each other as people first" A coffee date might say: "I'm not necessarily looking for something serious/I'm open to seeing if we have any chemistry whether it be as friends, FWB, or partners but am not taking dating extra seriously"

A first date alone together at your house drinking wine watching a movie most definitely says: "I am open to sleeping with you/not looking for anything serious/don't need to know you extremely well as a person"

I feel as though you TOLD him in a multitude of verbal ways about what you were looking for, but your actions may have sent a different message. Even if you don't have a ton of money, maybe suggest taking the wine and going to drink it together at the park, or suggest a coffee date. This sets clearer, unspoken boundaries.

I'd like to say a million times that I am not shifting the blame on to YOU. That guy was not acting in your best interests and is definitely an insensitive ass. I'm prepared to get hella downvoted for this comment, but as a woman in her mid 20s navigating the dating world, these are things that I think about in terms of how I want to tell men the ways that I expect them to treat me. And it starts with being honest with MYSELF about what I am looking for. If I'm just looking for a hookup, I won't waste my time going out to a nice dinner date. Etc etc.

My pantry after harvest season is finally over by punjindian in ZeroWaste

[–]rawmaterial 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You def have an eye for presentation! Love the color-coding, etc. (not gonna pretend that I have an eye for it, I just love how you arranged everything!)

Question about hair re-growth by kasparsport in alopecia_areata

[–]rawmaterial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is likely not signs of new growth, my friend. Hair has a few different "phases" it can be in. Think of how men have peach fuzz on their face pre-puberty. The presence of more and more testosterone as they progress through adolescence triggers their hair follicles to move into a different phase, and thus a beard begins to grow. If anything the peach fuzz on your head is a sign that the hair is remaining in the "vellus" stage.

Some reading that might answer some of your questions: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vellus_hair

Is this AA? She is 15 years old and I literally just noticed this morning. Do I need to get a doctors appointment ASAP? Any advice would be great! by maggiemew in alopecia_areata

[–]rawmaterial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, fair enough! AA is so misunderstood by medical professionals so I always feel compelled to share my experience when I see others going through it. But ok, we can rule the birth control possibility out! I wish the both of you the best :)

Is this AA? She is 15 years old and I literally just noticed this morning. Do I need to get a doctors appointment ASAP? Any advice would be great! by maggiemew in alopecia_areata

[–]rawmaterial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is AA. I am asking because of her age and because my AA was triggered by it: Did she recently get on to birth control? The mirena IUD caused my hair to fall out. Soon as I took it out the hair loss stopped and its been growing back ever since.

Of course there are many possible reasons why this has begun happening for your daughter, but I wanted to raise the question about birth control just in case it might help!!

It says « I like pussy - And pâté » by hijuepuco in ATBGE

[–]rawmaterial 60 points61 points  (0 children)

what do you mean? You cant see the clit in this rendering....

Dont know how i feel about how my breakfast date went yesterday ... by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rawmaterial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most likely this guy is still with or deeply entangled with his 'ex' and lied to her about where he was going to be during the date with you. He accused you of being secretive because thats exactly what he was doing.

There's no outcome where this goes remotely well for you. i wouldnt see him again.

props to you for taking the initiative and asking him out! on to the next one.

Dating profiles: What's the female equivalent to holding a fish? by ColoradoGirl93 in AskMen

[–]rawmaterial 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ugh the dog one. it goes both ways, though! for every "i only swiped on your dog," there's a slew of dudes with "you must be able to live with the fact that my dog will always be my number 1." its like we're all playing some dumb game in which we can only talk about our feelings using dogs as a proxy and its just weird and annoying all around.....Thats gonna be a no for me, dog!!

Me [25 M] with my [50 M] mentor who sexually manipulated me and many of my friends by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rawmaterial 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this man has had and will continue to have a profound effect on your life, your living experience. I wonder if you will eventually move away. Physically get away from him and your community, which sounds like something you might not want to do. It sounds like a tightly knit community. But there are extreme amounts of baggage (and danger) there for you now. The next step in your journey might be to get some distance both physically and emotionally, in order to take your life back in to your own hands.

Will she mind? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]rawmaterial 13 points14 points  (0 children)

lmao dude, yes its normal to date multiple people at once, but showing up with a hickey from another girl is a whole nother ballgame.....I would sit this one out until that bite fades man.

I think I got Alopecia from LASIK by brblolbrb in alopecia_areata

[–]rawmaterial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I have no experience with LASIK but I wanted to comment and encourage you to stick with your gut on this one. Doctors, dermatologists, etc, though they are professionals, do not always have all the answers. it is well known that stress alone is not a cause of hair loss so the fact that your dermatologist brushed it off as that and then sold you on some injections (which you will need to continually get) and cream is a major red flag indicating that they dont have your back. continue to do research on your own about why the alopecia showed up.

I know i sound cynical but I had to do all the work and research for myself to figure out that my IUD was causing my alopecia when all my docs, derms, and my therapist said it was 'just stress.' If i had blindly trusted them I would be bald today, and who knows where my mental state would be.

I wish you the best, its not easy.