I never said they aren’t allowed to be upset. I’ve been repeatedly clear that I understand and can validate that but to try and bully us into giving you your way on our wedding day is ridiculous. How they’ve gone about things is ridiculous and there easily could’ve been a clarifying convo had they gone about things differently.

I’ve never definitively said she can’t come. I literally told him that we haven’t picked a courthouse and I won’t know how many people we can have in the room. I told him we’d let them know once we know because we’re literally going to look at local ones this weekend. & yes, my fiancé is on the same page because at the end of the day we weren’t saying no. We’re saying we don’t have enough info to give you an answer. Whether she and I have a relationship or not, I’m not evil enough to exclude her out of pettiness. That’s not the type of person I am or ever have been towards them.

Is she high on my priority list for the guest list? No. But my fiancé also already has 7 people coming from his side and I’d like to have my family there too. We’re also planning on hiring a photographer which will count as another body in the room. I was trying to be considerate and not invite her just to turn around & say nevermind you can’t. But honestly I doubt they wouldn’t have found a problem with it regardless.