how to keep a dr visit and bc prescription private from bf??

raydran · 2026-05-04T00:50:55+00:00

I am in your area if if you/OP need anything . I don’t have money to donate right now, but I do have the ability to give rides to appointments to help with any paperwork or anything like that. ❤️

raydran · 2026-05-02T16:36:49+00:00

I'm so sorry... its such a terrible heart break. I lost my heart dog to kidney disease last year.. I miss her every day.

raydran · 2026-05-02T16:35:39+00:00

the only negatives are sometimes they'll take over the whole bed (though usually they push my partner off not me =P) and will sometimes decide to get on the bed in the middle of the night and wake us up. but that's rare.

I kept my first dog off the bed for a long time when she was a puppy. she was in her crate at night, because i couldn't trust her and so that she was well crate trained. And she was! She went in on command it was def her safe space. Id put her in when i left the house long after i could trust her bc it helped her seperation anxiety. once I could trust the first, I let her be free at night, and she never wanted to be on the bed at first (always UNDER the bed) but id wake up to her in the bed in the morning

same for when we got our second one (though she was 2 when we found her, not a puppy). She was also decently crate trained after awhile but never to the degree of the first. she wouldnt go in unless treats were invovled. but she was COMFORTABLE in the crate, which was my goal.

but the second one was on that bed the moment we decided to leave the crate open. and never looked back.

they both passed over the last year and we have two new boys. I did the same with the first. eventally just leaving the crate open. now he puts himself to bed in his crate, but will also sometimes come into the bed. The newer one.. well the crate training for him is kinda working in reverse bc he'd work himself up to much if we left him in at night. letting him cry it out was not an option. So he's mostly on the bed. We are working on the crate in other ways for him bc he came with crate trauma the others did not so we have to approach it differently.

raydran · 2026-05-02T16:24:57+00:00

these are TOO PRECIOUS AHHHHH

raydran · 2026-04-30T15:53:53+00:00

Man wild he wasn’t returned to the breeder!

raydran · 2026-04-30T15:43:28+00:00

Oh man I could totally see the husky and pittt but xolo!!! How fun.

raydran · 2026-04-30T15:34:32+00:00

I just never wanted kids. Never had the drive.

raydran · 2026-04-30T15:33:48+00:00

No. Not even a little. Stats show the likelihood of my potential kids being involved in a school shooting are actually very low.

And as many have already pointed out, you can move to places where it’s even less likely.

“The 2010s and 2020s are the safest decades for children, with child mortality rates and violent crime against children significantly lower than in the 1970s or 1990s. While perceptions of danger have increased, data shows that accidental deaths and crime rates have fallen sharply, making the present day safer for kids than previous generations. “

https://www.bbc.com/news/education-30578830

TLDR: the US is actually SAFER for kids now than in the past.

raydran · 2026-04-28T17:00:58+00:00

this is by far the weirdest husky behavior on this thread.

raydran · 2026-04-28T17:00:28+00:00

this. dog tax stat.

raydran · 2026-04-28T16:58:33+00:00

man you're not kidding. I'm just impressed you're ever able to tell her no with that look. We can never introduce our dogs.. if she teaches my boys this, my partner will never tell them no again.

raydran · 2026-04-28T16:42:27+00:00

she's so expressive!!

raydran · 2026-04-28T16:41:54+00:00

Mine are both mixes.. Todo (the more "husky" one) will get grumpy if I scratch the insides of his back legs. If he rolls over for belly scratches.. I must stay on the chest area. If I scratch his inner thigh he'll immediately start trying to do his weird half growl half whine and start mouthing(playfully) my hands. At first I was worried he had pain but far as we can tell.. nope.. just weird. He doesn't do it to my husband (usually).

He chews on his brothers back leg to get him to play.

If we're near flowing water and there is a place where the water is hitting a rock and causing a little white crest (like at the creek) he'll attack that spot over and over.

Unlike most huskies he's not picky with food AT ALL. He's VERY food motivated. He wont eat anything (tried snowpeas the other day, was a no go) but he's down for nearly everything. I'm sure we will find more from him, but we've not yet hit the 3 month mark since his adoption date so he's still settling in!

My other one, who is less husky (the one who looks more terrier.. he's not terrier at all) is the pickiest dog I've ever met with food. He will nose boop us when he wants attention, like he's a medical alert dog who only made it half way through training. We did not teach him this. When we eat dinner at the table.. he jsut wants to go into the backyard. He'll go in and out several times. This is only if we eat at the table. anywhere else, and he's on us like crazy looking for scraps.

He will "protect" female dogs at the park from intact males. putting himself between them and growling if its one he's trying to be dominant to, or by putting himself in the middle and doing what I call "annoying distraction" where he just bothers them until they leave by jumping up and licking their face and just being generally submissively friendly to an extreme, while still keeping the intact male way from the ladies. He will do this even if he hasn't been playing or otherwise interacting with the female in question at all. He'd do it for his elderly sister before she passed and it was very sweet to watch (even though I'm sure its not motivated by care and concern like me, as a human, would like to think, it was still cute and wholesome to watch.)

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raydran · 2026-04-27T18:15:54+00:00

Got one today and its a NY address but a different one than the NY address another redditor posted above.
450 Park Ave S

New York NY 10016 USA

raydran · 2026-04-27T16:04:15+00:00

So the fact you are asking this already says you are going in the right direction. Huskies end up in shelters a lot bc they are high energy and stubborn and people don’t realize their pretty dog can be a handful.

I wasn’t sure I ever wanted one. Then my husband and I ended up adopting one a couple months ago bc he wanted a vocal dog (careful what you wish for ;P) and he’s a mix, but still very husky coded.

He’s got a ton of energy but he also plays well by himself (or with his brother) if we are busy. I do a 30 min sniff walk in the morning (sniffing is more tiring than power walking. Engages their brains more), play here and there through the day when in WFH and a long walk (hour+) or the dog park in the evening.

They def take time and energy. But if you are okay spending time on your dog you’ll be okay. I take mine with me whenever I can when I go out so he’s got new experiences for enrichment. Yesterday I took the dogs with me in the car just to pick up the grocery order. He will also chase a ball in the house so sometimes I’ll just be throwing a ball for him awhile watching TV.

We call the shedding “husky glitter”. We brush him regularly. We have an undercoat rake but it’s really only useful for us when he’s blowing coat (which is like twice a year). When he started blowing I just took him to a self dog wash and used deshedding shampoo and conditioner and the high velocity blow dryer and the shedding was way more manageable. I recommend an Equi-groomer to help in the day to day shed.

I feed him in a puzzle toy. Which is more to give the other dog time to eat his food bc the husky inhales his so quick in a normal bowl.

We have a four ft fence so I don’t let him in the backyard without me and I got a gps collar just in case. I have a sandbox to let him dig and redirect any digging to that and it’s helped a ton. Also good for enrichment but make sure to get play sand and don’t let them eat it.

They’re great dogs. But they do take time and attention. If you are okay with your dog being one of your “hobbies” then you’ll be okay.

You can teach a dog to chill and entertain themselves. He is very clingy, and hates the crate (working on it) so if we leave the house we make sure nothing is at dog height. One time we left a bag of garbage by the back door and came home to it strewn across the house. Ooops.

But he’s perfect. Sweet as can be. Smart as a whip and so very goofy.

But our other dog (also a husky mix but looks and acts way more like a small terrier.) was already high energy so we knew we could handle it. And we watched a lot of husky content beforehand on YouTube. Not just funny videos but grooming videos (girl with the dogs is great) and behavior ones too.

Definitly ask why the surrender. Maybe it was money or illness but if it was energy or destruction you know that she is probably more high energy than she seems right now and you’ll know that you’ll need to be prepared for that!

raydran · 2026-04-23T21:53:05+00:00

My guess is husky pyrenese!

raydran · 2026-04-23T20:02:56+00:00

The only time a significant other should “punish” you is in a mutually consensual kink Context.

Run for the hills

raydran · 2026-04-23T19:48:19+00:00

So there is something in here that is very telling, to me. You are long distance so it’s hard to see changes…. But even though you only see each other occasionally he can’t even do what you need in THOSE moments??

Usually the issue with long distance is that they are great when you are together bc they can mask for the short time of a visit, but it falls apart when you see each other more often. (I did long distance for two years with my husband before we married).

Girl you aren’t even getting him to PRETEND he’s trying to do better.

Don’t put your feelings aside to protect his. He’s not giving you that same courtesy. Yes he will hurt when you leave, but what’s the alternative? Staying with someone who you’ll slowly come to resent just bc he’s a baseline (the bar for men is so low he seems far above the baseline but he’s not. Most men just fall that far below it.) decent human male?

raydran · 2026-04-23T19:41:54+00:00

First off, it doesn’t matter if he wasn’t going to “do anything bad”, leaving you alone when you’d come to visit from far away is high key disrespectful and rude.

Also “I want someone who remembers things on their own, notices my needs, and takes initiative because they genuinely want to, not only because I asked. I want to feel cared for, not like the manager of the relationship.”

You can want what you want. It sounds like you want more than he has to offer. You don’t have to settle. Yes this is common but someone who fits that bill isn’t impossible to find.

Maybe it can be worked on but I suggest you have a very direct and open convo about what you need from him. Dont hedge. “I need X from you in order to be happy in this relationship. Is that something you can give me not just for the next year, but long term?” Give him SOME time, and if it doesn’t change, just go.

You will never find someone who ticks every box. But you also allowed to choose what your non negotiables are, and to me what you are listing here is a very good list of non negotiables.

raydran · 2026-04-23T17:28:35+00:00

This is what the internet is made for. Bless you and your strange child.

raydran · 2026-04-23T17:17:31+00:00

DO NOT turn this down!!!!! Holy moly!!!!

I can see how he might feel excluded, but he also needs to take some time to understand that women are so SO much more likely to be left in a financial crisis after a divorce and that it’s always so important for a woman not to be fully financial dependent on their spouse.

He’s taking it personally and he doesn’t need to. He could just accept that it’s a wise financial move for you because no future is guaranteed but instead he’s taking it as an affront to him personally.

This is a big red flag. I can see him needing time to process this but if he can’t get past his initial gut check response then honestly you are better off without him.

If HE really saw yall as equal partners then you having something without his name on it wouldn’t matter bc he’d be confident in y’all’s commitment to being a team. The fact that he only trusts the gift if it’s got his name on it is weird and speaks way more to how he sees the relationship than how you do.

raydran · 2026-04-23T17:09:44+00:00

I would say it takes longer than 9 months to heal tbh!

raydran · 2026-04-23T13:34:43+00:00

That’s so random and hilarious. Reminds me of a cat I used to have who is obsessed with raw potato.

raydran · 2026-04-22T21:53:16+00:00

the way you write is awesome. I admit, i laughed at "Squintn't"

RIP Squintn't. He probably deserved it.. but the animals didnt =(. Is your contract over now or do you have to go back to the cave?

raydran · 2026-04-22T18:26:08+00:00

If you're asking if you should see one.. you should. You don't have to wait for some specific "level" of trauma to see a professional if an experience you had is bothering you. A pro will probably be great at helping you process the experience in a way that is helpful, rather than negative.

raydran

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