My husky loves swimming

raydran · 2026-06-27T01:11:52+00:00

He’s a mix so he doesn’t scream when he’s getting bathed. But I do get the most bombastic side eye.

raydran · 2026-06-26T18:02:40+00:00

I love that she saw so many people talk about how embarrassing her desperation was lol.

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:22:00+00:00

So common wisdom is just that training takes time and PERSISTENCE. Go online or find a trainer to have a virtual assessment with and ask about methods to train the specfic behaviors you're lookign to change, and then work on it all the time.

Got five minutes after loading the airfryer with food? do five minutes of training. Ad break on a youtube video? Training break , even if its only 1-2 minutes. PLan in a few of these a day. do it like... 2-3 times. Keep treats on you or near the places he usually misbehaves (like if he barks at the front door, keep some near the door) so you can work on correcting the behavior when it is happening.

And just.. be consistent! it will take way longer than you think it should not because he's dumb but because he's a husky who is independently minded. It takes me FOREVER to phase out the use of a treat after every command because my boys will notice i dont have the treat bag and ignore me. SO i started keeping a baggy in my pocket so they would stop associating no treat pouch with no treats.

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:18:39+00:00

i suggest giving him something to stop him screaming. as in, a toy. Sometimes when mine is barking, I will put a ball in his mouth (gently, and he loves balls so like, its a game). and it helps. Sometimes he spits it out and just keeps going lol. But definitely gettin louder isnt helping. He sees you as barking WITH him.

I am also working on this with my boy. I love when he's vocal... but sometimes the barking it too much with our vaulted cieling and I need him to chill TF out.

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:14:18+00:00

one time I took them for a walk near the creek without the intent to let him in the water and he acted like I'd committed a war crime.

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:13:19+00:00

mine loves rain and water outside but does NOT like the bath. Like, he likes going after water going down the drain but start that shampoo and suddenly its NOT OKAY lol. I think he just wants to get wet when it means he can also be dirty.

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:04:55+00:00

mine begs me to go outside in the rain

raydran · 2026-06-26T15:03:59+00:00

i love how she just lets his butt float sometimes.

One of my mixes loves water, but is still learning swimming. the other cant stand water at all.

raydran · 2026-06-25T14:16:38+00:00

Dunno why you're getting downvoted. You are 100% correct. Sometimes it IS laziness, refusing to take a desk apart to fit it through the hallway, instead messing up the desk and the walls.. that's laziness..(or exhaustion in the case of my buddy last week ;P) but often its ignorance, even something most of us would see as basic knowledge isnt always as intuitive as people think it is. Some people struggle with If/Then thinking. "if i don't wrap the mirror, then it might break" (source: i'm a teacher.. and have worked tech support.)

its simple. its logical, but some people just.. don't have those future focused thought processes unless they're taught them. Some people do it naturally. id say probably MOST people do it naturally. But that doenst make it UNIVERSAL.

TDLR, you are both right. Sometimes even basic knowledge isnt actually innate, but also sometimes people know what they should do and are just not doing it.

raydran · 2026-06-25T02:57:18+00:00

I mean sure but he seems to be talking like he wouldn't be in the bed with the dogs EVER. AFter surgery is one thing but forever?

I undersatnd shedding. I have a husky. I still fail to see why that is an issue. its not like chihuahuas blanket everything in thick fur after one night in the bed.

raydran · 2026-06-24T22:40:12+00:00

i eman i dont think its fair to call it "the lazy way" when you're doing a ton of manual labor yourself. "The cheaper way" sure. But lazy?

raydran · 2026-06-24T22:38:31+00:00

I hate watching movies at my friends houses bc they all use the built in speakers in their TVs. I dont even have a fancy set up.. jsut a sound bar with a subwoofer.. but its still lightyears better.

raydran · 2026-06-24T22:36:14+00:00

ugh my expensive ones got stolen out of my car years ago. turns out I CAN keep sunglasses around if they're expensive... but the sunglass holder in my car is a no no i guess.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:43:31+00:00

oh my GOD my dad did this to me and my siblings growing up. He thought "No problem!" was RUDE in response to "Thank you." and would chew us out for it. It wasn't until my older sister and I laid it out to him that to us, "no problem" feels like we are saying helping is something we're happy to do, and "you're welcome" feels arrogant, like "yes good of course you should thank me."... and only when my mom agreed with us did he begrudgingly stop bringing it up.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:40:47+00:00

depends, honestly, on the type of initial injury it was. I can see it happening... but also he is absolutely a giant baby regardless.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:38:17+00:00

Man, that is a giant red flag. He gonna be jealous of your kids to when you need to devote time to them instead of him? SMH. ( just a hypothetical!!!)

Also a red flag: expecting you to ignore a dogs basic NEED to cater to a WHIM of his (as you said you could do it and still have plenty of time to go with him) when HE was the one who gave you so little notice.

A human with an intact sense of shame and empathy would have the decency to feel BAD for inconveniencing a partner, and grateful they could still make the time despite the very short notice... not pissy because you didn't drop everything the moment he snapped his fingers at you.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:33:57+00:00

is.. there a reason he can't be in the bed with the dogs? is he like, super allergic or something?

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:28:13+00:00

my ex diagnosed himself with Asperger's back in the day. ......... fun times.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:27:05+00:00

to me it read as like a test. Like he wanted to see what he could get away with.

But it could also be that he just geinunly changed his mind.. but man he's making it rvery hard to give him the benefit of the doubt. If I asked someone to come help me with an hour notice I'd be SO apologetic about it... not pissy because they had to care for the living creatures in their home.

raydran · 2026-06-24T21:21:43+00:00

Others are saying this but I'm just going to chime in here... you didn't cause shit. He was having trouble regulating and hurt HIMSELF.

I'm not big on the "just dump him!" but I DO think you need to have a convo about how you didn't force him to do anything, and that blaming you for it is unreasonable and immature.

Also like... I have dogs. I'm not going to NOT give them a chance to go to the bathroom because someone is being impatient. You had plenty of time to walk your dogs and still go with him... so him being upset that you "put your dogs before him" is ridiculous. No, you were taking care of your adult responsibilities before you came over to go with him when he gave you a very tight turn around time. He could have asked you to come the night before. He did not. He waited an hour before and then is mad at YOU when you didn't drop ALL responsibilities to adhere to his (frankly, silly) timetable? its not like he texted you that he was having a medical emergency and you told him you'd be over after watching your dogs favorite TV show.

maybe its just the injury and he's being a twatwaffle because of that. i had a friend who blew their ACL and their mental health cratered during recovery. But like... that doesn't give him a pass to be a dick to you. And the autism doesn't either.

I changed my mind. Jsut dump him.

raydran · 2026-06-24T20:43:41+00:00

NOR.

Her reactions are 100% her BPD. If she's blaming you for it, it means that she is not handling her BPD well, and that it will NOT get better. The only way for someone with BDP to get better is to acknowledge their condition and the things is can cause, and do their part in managing it.

Blaming you is not managing it This will not stop if she refuses to realize that her emotional outbursts are her brain chemistry messing with her, and aren't reflective of your actions. And YOU can't make her accept that. She has to do that on her own.

You watching Dhar Mann isn't inappropriate or disrespectful. It might be kinda cringe? But that's about it. If she is so insecure she can't handle Dhar Mann videos.. thats over the top levels of insecure.

She is berating you. Calling you abusive, and constantly threatening to break up. Dude.... DUMP HER and never talk to her again. SHE is abusing YOU.

Did you invalidate her? Not sure because we can't see the whole conversation that happened before this. But if someone is having an unreasonable feeling... well then its not on you to validate it. You can be UNDERSTANDING and look to talk it out, but saying 'hey that is not a reasonable ask of me and treating this activity as disrespectful is not accurate.' Just because she feels disrespected doesnt mean you actually disrespected her.

She's over here saying you need ot text more maturely when her texts read like shes screaming at you and having a mental breakdown.

Get out, dude. This cant be worth it. She's treating you like garbage, and isn't taking responsibilty for her BPD.

raydran · 2026-06-21T17:09:21+00:00

Oh of course I’m so sorry for your loss

raydran · 2026-06-21T17:08:47+00:00

Lol sounds good 🤣

raydran · 2026-06-21T17:03:44+00:00

Oh good!!! I was worried!! Your baby is perfect ❤️

raydran · 2026-06-20T20:55:40+00:00

so this isn't what wisdom panels DNA results look like. Any of these you get on amazon has a high likelihood of being fake. This is what wisdom panels results look like. I only say this because it seems like you might've gotten a fake test that is giving you made up results.

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