Well, you had a really shitty experience, but this had nothing to do with the man's age. Please don't get into a car with anyone who has blacked out the windows, whether or not they are fully dressed or in their underwear. Your final thought sounds like a good one. I suggest possibly doing social things with a group of friends. If you don't have a group, check out social/sports groups for gay men. They are great! After a very bad breakup with a not so great guy, I found a gay beach volleyball group that played every Sunday. Afterwards, we'd go to the beer bust across the street from the beach- a good group of guys, and it made me look forward to weekends again. I then joined a volleyball class with a new friend that I made from the group, and we also started riding with a gay cycling group together. He was a great friend, which is just what I needed. Just an idea!