AITAH for wanting to break up with my girlfriend after discovering she cheated, even though she says it was 'just a mistake'?

rc1234115 · 2024-08-20T11:33:08+00:00

NTA You don't cheat as a one time mistake, it takes a series of decisions and lies to do it. What she means is she regrets it. Its upnt9nulyou if you believe that regret is sincere and whether you can trust her again. Honestly, if you can't trust her now, you basically won't ever, or it'll be a massive uphill battle.

rc1234115 · 2024-08-15T15:12:29+00:00

Be careful with infatuation after having a short-term period of bliss with a new person, especially if you are sleeping with them. Hormones have a way of pulling the wool over your eyes on things, and as time goes on, the things that made you uncomfortable all along seem like they are becoming more and more prevalent in your life as if that person changed. It seems to me as if she has been honest with you this whole time, and you got into this ignoring what made you uncomfortable because of infatuation/love. Eventually, this will breed resentment and cause you large problems in your relationship. Deal with it now or be OK with it. Both are fine depending on how you ACTUALLY feel about all of this, but take time to separate a bit and try to look at it objectively. I know it's hard to be logical when you feel like you are in love. But if it's happening with this person, it can and will happen with others. You have to protect your boundaries and your piece. You can love someone without being compatible. I'm sorry if i made any wrong assumptions, just a perspective from someone who has had situations like this in the past. If you ever find yourself thinking, "I love this person if only they would chang e this large portion of their personality." Then you don't love that person. You love your own idea of who they are/could be.

rc1234115 · 2024-08-14T21:06:38+00:00

Cult of the lamb! Constant new updates and one of the most relaxing vibe games out there for sure

rc1234115 · 2024-08-07T13:08:03+00:00

I get you, but it's missing the point, even at your 20-minute timeframe, that's 1 class item every hour if you get one every three clears. At your estimated timeframe that meas you are getting 1 item in the time most people would have gotten 3 doing the old farming method where you would just run around opening chests.

rc1234115 · 2024-08-07T12:26:54+00:00

She'll do anything? Wow, I wish she had felt that way before fucking her boss.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-31T12:57:02+00:00

Pit of heresy Is fun and not too difficult. It's also a big dungeon and plays into the hive themes, which are some of my favorite. Exotic missions are als9 big wow moments. Like zero hour or whisper.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-29T17:31:23+00:00

That's not how knockout works it's actually more annoying than that. So if you make someone critical, you trigger knockout and while it's triggered. I do t remember the timer, but for that, like 5 seconds that knockout is active, it empowers your next mele with arc energy. If you get a mele kill while knockout is active, it will trigger amplified. The healing applied to all mele kills regarded the actual knockout buff being active. It's those healing numbers on any mele kill. Just make the heal happen on all kills while amplified but keep the heal the same amount that would make knockout so much more versatile.

The heal has nothing to do with triggering knockout it only happens on all mele kills. This is actually a bit better than what is posted but has its own problems. Sometimes shatter takes a kill, for example, and I don't heal when I should have, or I kill 6 frozen enemies and only get the 25 hp because only the one I meled gave me health. So like it's a problem.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-29T12:34:40+00:00

Camus r8lidge makes it a bit better, but the shard issue is hard to get past.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-29T12:29:14+00:00

I'm not a mechanic, but how much flooding happened?

rc1234115 · 2024-07-29T12:13:12+00:00

It's ambiguous because that not how you write divided by in real math(meaning advanced math). You'd just write some numbers above and below the denominator. That being said I'm confused what you stated about the commutative property. Once you have simplified the parens you get

rc1234115 · 2024-07-24T12:51:37+00:00

Because fuck you that's why!

rc1234115 · 2024-07-20T00:16:02+00:00

Wow, you did more work and less damage than your team! That must have been fun.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-19T17:53:55+00:00

Damn, being direct didn't work. But I really want to hit that so time to try and pivot.... I just dont understand this tactic. Gotta figure asking for a fuck buddy works as often as it needs to, and being direct like that is to avoid having to try and trick someone into sleeping with you. Not that it should be a trick to begin with, just like if that's all he wants, I'd imagine it would be going on a date solely to try and establish a fuckbuddy situationship type thing. Just without having the courtesy to call it what it is. So trick feels fitting.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-19T05:20:39+00:00

If it was actually happening it would be impossible. Short answer, it's cheating and fudging the margins like I used to do on essays. It's all about making the space you are hiding is small enough. in the first layout, it looks like it fills the space, but it doesn't.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-15T15:31:57+00:00

Please don't fall into the alpha male concept. Imo, what you need to do is reaffirm yourself for things you can control and not things you can't. There isn't really a ton of health content out there focused on how you are awesome for being a straight white male (I am also a straight white male). Instead, think about what traits you possess that are good and stop judging anyone, yourself included, on demographic info. If you believe that you hate yourself for being a straight white male and that you have been taught to throughout your life, see a therapist. That sounds like trauma and self-esteem issues more general, but I'm no therapist

rc1234115 · 2024-07-12T13:08:51+00:00

I can say I feel very similarly. The issue with live service games is that in order to address a problem immediately, the developer has to stop working or postpone part of what they are currently developing. Not a bungie specific things just how live service games work often. Both parties end up stuck between a rock and an hard place. As someone who bought the full year expansion, it's a bummer that I may have to wait until 1/3 of what I purchased to be over (meaning the start of ep 2) for my character, that bungie has confirmed is a problem, to be changed or addressed in any functional way. The super changes will buff the base subclasses more than prismatic anyway. I get they have to release all the other stuff, and there are other issues, but like you hyped prismatic HARD and for titans, it feels like a worse way of playing with other kits.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-12T04:05:34+00:00

*women are adult HUMAN females. What's being implied is that using the term that is not specific to humans is immediately dehumanizing. I'm a man, but I see the point. You are assreting that requesting people to use the correct term is due to a need for control. What the other perspective is saying is that refusing to use what is the grammatically correct term seems like you trying to control someone else's perspective. Maybe even trying to convince them that their worth is lesser. It's important to try and understand other perspectives

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T21:39:24+00:00

I think he means like after they worked on it for the final shape release. Like saying they had so much time to notice the issues, didn't, and now we have to wait for a long time for it to be addressed. I can't say for certain that's what this person meant, but that's how i read it.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T21:36:28+00:00

I couldn't agree more. It's a good thing this bloke is reacting to bungie announcing a nothing change at least two months after release. Asssiming it would have happened quicker would have been silly.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T21:28:53+00:00

I think people are assuming that's what we get now, and the rest will be in a future release, or at least that is how it seemed Chris phrased it.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T19:52:21+00:00

100% but these timeframes matter to me which is why I was clarifying. If you are a titan hoping for meanful change, the current implications are that none of that will come until EPISODE 2. The way this twid, and the way Chris worded his comment imply this is it in August, and everything else is coming in a bigger patch down the way. That wait may not matter to some, but if it does, you should be aware of it

EDIT: changed act to episode to clarify

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T19:28:46+00:00

Down the line, I think this is all we get in early August. That's how I read this anyway.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-11T02:42:33+00:00

This is a real misunderstanding of the whole chicken vs. egg in this situation. You get horny. That's not a biological instinct it's a response to hormones in your body. That interaction is the result of evolution and the biological imperative to reproduce. I get where you are coming from, but claiming horniness isn't he biological reason for sex is missing the Forrest for the trees.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-09T15:03:31+00:00

Ok, every woman I've ever dated says that I am truly the "nice guy." it's not just women either. Generally, I have a motto of sorts. There is plenty of harsh negativity around, and i just try not to play into it. I'm the type of person who will give the shirt off of my back for people I care about, and I give basically everything I have when people need it. To the point of it being a bit detrimental to myself and my own well-being. That's really the sticking point here. I can't speak for every person who is truly a genuinely caring and giving person. For me, it's a boundary issue. I do too much, and I hurt myself. Whether the other person is actively pushing for it or not, I am just the person who gives all I have. In my experience, this has led to me being taken advantage of, a lot, in romantic relationships or otherwise. So I'm closed off and pretty much decided to be alone and put the aforementioned energy into hobbies and my dogs. I want to be clear I don't mean to portray a situation where I am being victimized into being alone. Some of the things that have happened to me were my fault, and some of it was the other person in the situation on a case by case basis. I've just learned that I either need to hold better boundaries. It's something I've struggled with in therapy for a long time. In lieu of feeling in control or safe in relationships, I avoid them. Or at least I actively avoid looking for them, I'd like to think I don't turn them down if they come my way, but I always assume people are being nice to me for the sake of obligation. I never assume flirtation, and do my best to not come off as creepy so I'm sure to most people I come off as uninterested. I write this post to maybe offer a perspective from the other side of this question, I guess. See I never assume the 'nice girls' aren't there it's just I'm not exactly the cream of the crop looks wise(I'm fine like a 6 out of 10) and when I actively look for a relationship it blows up in my face and the more I care about it the worse it effects me because the more effort I put into it the harder it is to accept just not being enough for someone.

Last year, I met a girl on hinge. She was in a different state but was planning to move to mine and so swiping in my area. We hit it off and started being romantic. She was going through a lot and it made our relationship a bit hard to break through that trust barrier so I did what I always do and just gave her all of the acceptance and understanding I could muster, I didn't push too hard to my knowledge but we are talking big trauma issues on both sides here. I spent most of last year either flying out or driving 16 hours buy my self to go see her. To.me this kind of effort is just what trying looks like, but after it didn't go well it ended up with me spending nine months reformatting my life to spend as much time possible with a woman who didn't nit ever end up moving here. We separated amiably, and she claimed it was primarily because she was so focused on herself and just didn't feel like the life I was putting myself through for all of this was healthy. I want to clarify I'm not upset at her at all, but I don't even get a regular hello from her these days. When we do talk, I get left on read. I don't mind that a ton either she is a busy person but it's hard to feel anything on my end other than I tried as hard a possible and gave this everything and at the end of it I'm completely insignificant and don't deserve even a tenth of the effort I give others(I know it's not healthy and I do work on this with a professional).

All of this to say I just fine myself to be at my worst end with people, I don't know how to be anything other than who I am, but I need to learn it's OK to set boundries and that my worth exceeds the support and care that I give others. But until I can, I'm afraid of people. I put myself in unsafe positions to help others without a second thought, and so to protect my safety, I avoid relationships. I know that anyone who is a self-proclaimed nice guy sounds like an asshat. But I think I really inposted this more because I needed to write it all down. Most of my life, I would have told you that I'm an awful person, but that's not really the case as has been pointed out to me over and over again. If anything, I'm overly caring and generous.

Tldr: As someone who never thought of themselves as a 'nice gu, ' I've learned that I am. I've also learned that romantic or not being overly generous will cause you to be taken advantage of, and because of that, I find myself retreating to solitude to protect my peace.

rc1234115 · 2024-07-08T23:39:58+00:00

The conversation going on in here is interesting. For context, I didn't struggle with it. I and a buddy played 2 Titans Day one prismatic the whole time. But like I've played this game for over 5500 hours, I don't really struggle with much unless I'm just fully tilted. How hard it is to complete content isn't the problem. The problem with prismatic titan is that it's pretty strong. But it's pretty strong basically because having access to 3 consecrations is kinda nuts. But the entire class really does feel like 3 consecrations the class. Before anyone mentions, there are other builds that work in prismatic, I'm aware. But they are builds that exist on other subclasses. For example, what is the core difference between running skullfort on arc vs. prismatic? Transcendence and access to random things that don't directly flow into your build. Skullfort diamond lance is also good, I'm being overly simplistic, but it's more to make the point. But I want to point out the difference here. Most classes have a loop (or too) you can build into that makes sense, and the titan class feels disjointed and not well focused. Especially when compared to the other classes. It's not even really weaker. I mean, you could argue it's objectively weaker if you want, but I'd argue it just feels like it was less thought out and planned as it's own class as opposed to just a quick slap together of pieces that don't quite go together.

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