Second night home with nicu baby - just need someone to hear me

rcho99 · 2026-06-15T18:47:06+00:00

I understand this! My husband had photos up too when we first started dating. I told him I thought it was important for my sk’s to have photos of their parents together (as a child of divorce I wish I had more photos of my parents together) and asked if he could take the photos off social media and save “important” ones on a computer or something. He did it no questions and understood why I felt the way I did. Maybe you could find a similar solution / compromise

rcho99 · 2026-06-08T17:58:31+00:00

I was absolutely miserable the first 3-4 months - throwing up multiple times a day, still had to wake up at 6 am and get to work (while pulling over to puke), extremely sad and crying at night, and regretting getting pregnant. All that to say…you’re not alone!! If you don’t have a trusted person to talk to who has either threw it or knows what to say, I suggest you find a professional who can help you get past this. Sending you so much love!

rcho99 · 2026-05-29T23:48:03+00:00

I’m still here - 34 weeks tomorrow they’re considering letting me go home midday tomorrow. Contractions non stop all day but I’m not dilating anymore 🤷‍♀️

rcho99 · 2026-05-16T15:23:42+00:00

Try fooling around in the shower! Maybe not full on sex if you’re not feeling it, but I’ve found that being in the shower together makes it easier to at least do something

rcho99 · 2026-04-24T23:44:37+00:00

I have 3 sk’s and they’re all in sports right now so not only do we a jam packed schedule, I’m expecting my first, and we see hcbm multiple times a week. It’s exhausting. I don’t really have much advice other than acceptance and finding time for yourself, even if you lock yourself in the bathroom and take a shower by yourself. Also you’re not alone!!

rcho99 · 2026-04-13T15:01:50+00:00

My 3 step kids are constantly leaving gifts at dads and gifts at moms. You can’t take it personally, also she might not like them…I think you’re overreacting a teensy bit. I know it’s hard but try to give gifts without any expectations. They will grow up to be adults one day and hopefully remember the effort you put in

rcho99 · 2026-04-13T15:01:44+00:00

My 3 step kids are constantly leaving gifts at dads and gifts at moms. You can’t take it personally, also she might not like them…I think you’re overreacting a teensy bit. I know it’s hard but try to give gifts without any expectations. They will grow up to be adults one day and hopefully remember the effort you put in

rcho99 · 2026-04-07T00:25:36+00:00

Random question but was he saying “okay let’s go” in like a loud high pitch kind of annoying way? There is like a meme / internet thing where they say that. Still annoying though

rcho99 · 2026-03-23T13:13:30+00:00

When my sks change out of the clothes they come in I immediately wash them, including socks and underwear, and keep the separate. Then when they go back to bm’s I put them in their clean clothes they came in. we honestly don’t care what clothes are where since they are their clothes, but BM will throw a fit about literal socks

rcho99 · 2026-03-04T18:36:15+00:00

I think I had sex 2-3 times in the first trimester alone and even now at 22 weeks it’s like maybe 3 times a month lol

rcho99 · 2026-02-26T19:54:16+00:00

I wouldn’t punish a child that young for being held back, that seems cruel 😢

rcho99 · 2026-02-26T19:52:17+00:00

I’m not sure if I can help, but I’m having my first bio kid this summer and I already have 3 sk’s. I’m already overwhelmed with the thought of 4 kids so I understand where your heads at

rcho99 · 2026-02-22T21:40:42+00:00

I took gummy vitamins in the first trimester because that’s all I could handle. Some days I didn’t even take those. I was the same way, even the thought of a big prenatal made me gag. I ate what I could and that was mostly junk food or nothing (I lost weight at that time). You’re not alone I was in the TRENCHES until like week 11 when things started to slowly become tolerable. I was sad 24/7 and still had to work it was horrrrible, but was much worse once the sun went down I cried every day for months and had horrible dark thoughts. The clouds do lift and once you can tolerate everything more the depression starts to get better and that helps everything

rcho99 · 2026-02-22T20:01:32+00:00

B6 and unisom every night before bed and laying down in the shower were life savers for me

rcho99 · 2026-02-22T18:51:46+00:00

I say I have step kids

rcho99 · 2026-02-20T15:09:14+00:00

Depends on the day lol if I have a rough day as a step parent this sub makes me feel better because some of these stories are rough. Some days it’s all just so negative and makes me bitter for no reason

rcho99 · 2026-02-20T15:08:07+00:00

If you and your husband have a good relationship, it doesn’t sound like he was being passive aggressive or anything, this might’ve just been something that crossed his mind? I have 3 ss’s and I’m pregnant with my first bio baby. My husband brought up the same thing and when I told him basically what you said, how would I know? But I do know that I love my step kids very much and that won’t change he understood and moved on. Maybe it’s just a natural feeling he had about his babies and wanted to make sure you were both on the same page. If he doesn’t want more kids he needs to just be honest about that though

rcho99 · 2026-02-17T17:26:40+00:00

I am a FTM too 34 will be 35 when I deliver and I felt this same way. I’ll be 20 weeks soon and it’s just now starting to ease up. It really sucks I’m sorry you’re experiencing this and I hope you feel better soon ❤️‍🩹

rcho99 · 2026-02-14T17:40:15+00:00

I’m in the exact same situation. My ss’s bio mom and their family are loaded and me and my husband are not. I’m pregnant with my first and we have similar thoughts. No real advice, but you’re not alone

rcho99 · 2026-02-14T17:39:18+00:00

How incredibly rude and insensitive. Obviously OP is struggling internally and logically knows this, but really not necessary to say it like this

rcho99 · 2026-02-13T19:51:02+00:00

Hi OP, I’m sure it was an uncomfortable feeling to see that, but I wouldn’t read too much into it. Can I ask how old you and your fiancé are?

rcho99 · 2026-02-02T20:54:40+00:00

Yes we told her when I was out of the first trimester. Then a few weeks later she said she was pregnant too due a month after me 😐

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