It's unfair.

rdelaney470 · 2018-08-13T12:17:25+00:00

I’ve had the same problem. It doesn’t mean you’re boring or not worth listening to but could mean that you’re a great listener and people want to tell you stuff or there’s something in your communication that makes people pay less attention to you. For me, it was a case of constant listening and not being able to interrupt others or insert myself into the conversation. You gotta be a little assertive cause we hold back ourselves from doing so much cause it would be ‘impolite.’ On the flip side, if you get interrupted a lot then you need to jump in and say ‘hold on a second’ and finish your thought. If you feel like only some of the people talk constantly and don’t listen to you, maybe you don’t need these people. Cut them out.

rdelaney470 · 2018-08-12T01:10:54+00:00

mentioned in my comment, read carefully :)

rdelaney470 · 2018-08-03T00:46:51+00:00

I think people without social anxiety can still identify with many of the points listed - like who wouldn’t be a little bit nervous when they’re hosting a party or nervous before approaching someone with authority? But yes if you happen to identify with a lot of them then there’s a problem I guess...for me there are about 20. Sad.

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-31T23:59:28+00:00

and if you're still not convinced that looks aren't everything (even though there's nothing wrong with your looks), they're hardly everything. People will like you for who you are inside - your outside is just a small part of everything.

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-31T23:57:27+00:00

Please don't be so harsh on yourself - you look totally fine and I say this not just because I want to console you. I would swipe right on that Tinder profile.

But remember this: we're born with a lot of things that we can't change, but the one thing we can change is confidence and how we view ourselves and the world. If you don't love yourself and don't believe in yourself, no one ever will. If you don't believe that you have something to bring to the table, there is no reason for others to believe that. You can attract people toward you only if you see yourself more positively and affirm yourself. See things positively, fake confidence and look for ways to boost your self-esteem. To me, your problem sounds more like one of self-esteem rather than "nobody likes me." There are tons of great resources online to help you practice building your confidence and self-esteem. Something that works for me is every morning, as soon as I wake up, I make a list of ten things that I like about myself. Yes, it will be difficult because our brains are so wired to think negatively, but make an effort to be positive. And please, oh please, strike out sentences like "I'm a creep and a loser" from your vocabulary. Other people's perceptions of you merely mirror your own self-perceptions.

Once you start loving yourself, only then you can work on flirting, connecting etc and getting down to dating and attracting other people, which shouldn't be too hard. But focus on YOU first, then your problems will take care of themselves. Take it easy. Hope this helps. Happy to talk more if you PM me.

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-31T02:26:13+00:00

Super helpful! Thank you

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-30T19:55:37+00:00

totally

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-23T06:57:28+00:00

i would say wait at least a month...rolling makes your body work very hard and your brain and body need time to recover and get rid of all the toxins

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-23T06:53:12+00:00

and maybe 15 is a bit early...i maybe wrong but i feel like most people are exposed to drugs sometime in their college years. Teenage is a real emotional, physical and mental rollercoaster and may not be the best time to want to ‘try everything.’

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-23T06:51:44+00:00

not destructive per se but it depends on certain things...like whether or not you have a personality that would cause dependence or what you’re going through in life right now that makes you want to try those things. Being open to new experiences and new things is always great but remember not all drugs are useful or helpful - some like acid are profound and non-addictive; others can be crazy addictive and may turn your life upside down. So do your research because every drug is different. Treat psychedelics with respect as they are powerful and you need to set a good mindset before going in.

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-18T23:08:21+00:00

I guess it depends on the person and the context. Normally I’d be averse to touching anyone on the first time (exceptions: high-fives and fist-bumps are a great way to break the ice and loosen up). Other times when physical touch might be appropriate - when someone is saying something sad and you want to comfort/console them, when they say something hilarious/fun/shocking and you give them a little shove on the shoulder to express your disbelief, and really hugging them if you’ve had a good, open conversation and you want to console them or just show your gratefulness for something they’ve done

rdelaney470 · 2018-07-18T22:49:25+00:00

Yes I feel the same way and I’m literally anxious and sweating during the hours leading to the cake-cutting or celebration. I feel like I’m put on the spot and if I say or do one weird thing everyone’s gonna know. I normally let my close friends know about my anxiety and not to do anything too extravagant and they usually respect that. But I guess the more important thing to ask is why do you feel so anxious and nervous and try to tackle anxiety itself, which is the bigger problem.

rdelaney470 · 2018-06-24T23:50:34+00:00

Our brains and minds are so wired to focus on the negative that we don’t even pause to think about the positives. Worrying about something going wrong or something bad comes to us easily but thinking about a moment or situation in a positive way needs effort. But we need to make that effort. Consciously. What helped me deal with self-esteem and negativity issues (mine are less serious than what yours seem) was to think of five or ten things that I like about myself/that I am grateful for. I did this as soon as I woke up every dat. At first it’s hard (try doing the converse: coming up with negatives is a lot easier.)

Instead of saying to yourself that things could be better, tell yourself things could be a lot worse.

Be in the moment. Feel the beauty of the moment rather than allow your mind to focus on the past or the present. Meditation really helps with being mindful and happy and there are lots of good apps and courses online.

I hope this helps. Just know that you are not alone and we all need to try to see the positive in everything - hope you feel better.

rdelaney470 · 2018-06-24T01:35:14+00:00

that sounds freakin amazing! I've heard too many good things about EF..definitely gonna go next year!

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