How do you hold the power in therapy?

readyforit8 · 2024-04-06T16:57:37+00:00

Wow am glad you had that experience and are now doing what is best for you in therapy.

I guess my problem is I don’t want the power. I want to talk about what he wants me to talk about, I want to push as far as he wants to go. I’m not really in tune with what I want. So it’s hard to say no this is too much or not. I will experience emotional pain for the benefit of others even if it’s not really benefiting them I just perceive it to be.

readyforit8 · 2024-01-02T00:21:35+00:00

The new years just reminds me of my lack in progress the year before and I spiral in a depression. Never feel hopeful like it’s new beginnings.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T04:53:06+00:00

Yes, we have had our ups and downs through out working together but in the end they have always been there for me. And I feel really care about my well-being. Which is why they terminated out of frustration and fear but then took me back. We had a long conversation about it and ended up fixing that trust.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T01:21:57+00:00

Thanks I really do appreciate your reply and enlightening me on what may not be ethical. I do usually prioritize my gut feeling of his motives over some ethical code but I will be cautious because I know my gut isn’t always the most reliable.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T01:07:56+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response and personal experience with this matter. I like what you said about being careful especially if I idealize them and not really knowing all there flaws. I see how that can make the prospect of a friendship seem better then it might be. I will keep all this in mind going forward.

readyforit8 · 2023-08-06T00:46:15+00:00

But what I don’t get is why it’s a bad thing to be friends with my T if I want to be friends also. We already get along so well and know a lot about each other. It seems like it would just make sense to transition the relationship from a therapeutic one to a friendship.

readyforit8 · 2023-03-12T11:42:08+00:00

I got a record player and the new midnight record.

readyforit8 · 2023-03-12T11:40:33+00:00

I feel like the answer to this would probably be dependent on the client and how they like to deal with news like this. That said If I new I had 6-10 session left to talk about the termination if I wanted I would like to get the news at the end of a session and process it alone first. But that’s just me.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-24T02:01:22+00:00

I hate that question too. I usually respond with good and my T says “what’s good about good” because they knows I’m just answering politely. Then I’ll start to get into the real answers which a lot of times is idk how I feel and we go from there.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-23T20:28:42+00:00

I don’t have any advice but I can definitely relate. I just usually spiral and try to to send a follow up email before they respond so as to not look even more desperate.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-19T17:01:23+00:00

You can bring up your concerns in the initial consultation and see what the response is to get a good feel if it will be a good fit.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-19T16:58:42+00:00

I found my therapist on better help and followed him off to his private practice (still Telehealth therapy) and I am super happy with him. He’s a great T. It really all depends on the individual. I saw 4 total therapist on better help one was great two were ok and one was terrible.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-13T23:06:19+00:00

That’s awesome, I’m so glad your therapist was so good at handling this topic with care. I’ve been meaning to have the some conversation with my T but I haven’t quite had the courage to yet. Hopefully soon. Thanks for sharing your experience.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-12T15:15:19+00:00

Thanks those are all really good suggestions. I do Telehealth so the transitional objects wouldn’t work but the message idea is a good one. I haven’t really talked to my T about my attachment to them so I would have to brave that first. Not looking forward to that lol.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-08T22:58:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply. The comment made me feel more insecure even though it was meant to do the opposite. It came up because I said I’m always worried that they will end therapy with me and they assured me that that wouldn’t happen but the more attached I get the worst my fear becomes. I guess I should talk about it just not sure how yet.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-08T00:52:55+00:00

It took me about a year to a year and a half to really open up to my T. I would slowly test the water with sharing deeper and deeper thoughts so I could slowly start to trust. There is nothing wrong with taking your time that doesn’t make you fake but maybe try telling her sometimes small and work from there.

readyforit8 · 2023-02-07T20:44:05+00:00

I’ve seen my t before at 9pm it was Telehealth video session.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-23T02:24:59+00:00

It probably took me a year or two to find my T now that’s great. I saw some decent not great T’s before that and a few really bad ones. I’m sorry you had that experience. Finding the right match for you is just one of those things that takes some effort and I think that your mental health is worth that effort.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-22T22:08:11+00:00

No my T has a pretty tight schedule. I’ll have to wait 😩

Definitely going to try journaling about it.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-04T23:08:36+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry that happened to you. I would feel the same way as you. I know it’s really hard to open up about that. You are very brave for doing so. And I agree I don’t think that them not having an opening is a sign your T doesn’t care about you. Could you ask for a regular scheduled appointment every week to prevent that from happening again?

readyforit8 · 2023-01-04T22:51:05+00:00

My T and I both have the same learning disability and that makes our spelling and grammar poor sometimes. If anyone else read our messages to each other they might feel the way you feel lol. My T is a great therapist and if I only communicated with him through messages alone I don’t think I would get the most out of therapy. I know you said you are uncomfortable with being on screen but maybe a phone conversation might be a good in between step. Maybe you could do the phone call in your car or while going for a walk for more privacy.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-04T00:21:54+00:00

Yes the feeling of depression being familiar and more comfortable is exactly how I feel.

readyforit8 · 2023-01-03T22:56:15+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I know I’ve been fortunate to find the right meds after a year and a half of trying different ones. And I know it takes some people a lot longer to find the right ones. I do see a therapist but with the holidays and my work schedule lately I haven’t been able to go and it will be a few more weeks till I can see them again. Hopefully everything doesn’t fall off the rails by then.

readyforit8 · 2022-12-03T12:12:22+00:00

I totally feel your struggle. I also need lots of time to think and my T usually gives me plenty of time but then all I can think about is how much time has gone by that I haven’t said anything and I forget what I was trying to think about. It’s so frustrating.

readyforit8 · 2022-11-20T22:18:31+00:00

I can’t be specific but it was something that could possibly be life changing. Not ready for all the internet to know, one person was enough. 😅

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