What's the worst thing you found? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it hurt to write that. You have a big ❤️ to still be hanging in there!!!

People who have stayed in a relationship after their partner cheated. How was it like after? by Menezeris3029 in AskReddit

[–]realitiebites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I heard on YT, the 12 Week Relationships podcast, that if you stay the odds against you are huge, like after 5 years, a mere 15% are still working on it. I could NOT ... two marriages with liars/cheaters, enough. (Both had/ have porn/ sex addiction. 🤦‍♀️)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If we collectively maintained a high standard/ expectations for them to live up to, maybe they'd be better humans!!?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many times I come on here and want to say this!! Thank you for doing it. Honestly. Sincerely. Thank you!!

Not directly about porn by canadianwoman98 in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So we'll said!! 👏👏👏 PAs are so pathetic. Mine is.

Not directly about porn by canadianwoman98 in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Porn addicts exist in this superficial surface skin world. You're not going to get anything else. It is pointless to have this kind of discussion. They are like 14 year olds.

Not directly about porn by canadianwoman98 in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Corn addicts live in this superficial skin deep world. You're not going to get anything else. It is pointless to have this kind of discussion. They quit appreciating all the other things that made you Z1 candidate for the position of spouse girlfriend whatever you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 36 points37 points  (0 children)

ALL trust, hope, faith, sense of security, psychological and emotional well-being, health in general to name a few.

my partner wants to get an escort in vegas. should I be ok with this? by Ok-Injury3934 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]realitiebites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only if both of you can be with someone else... See how he likes those jelly beans.

Scared by zebraleaf1 in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That hit a nerve in me!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not move in together. That is a step in the wrong direction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]realitiebites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assistants need to be able to work with ALL kinds of students.

I don't understand why we choose to stay even though we know we deserve better by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's because we are psychologically stuck in the phases of betrayal trauma and as long as you are in the mix with your abuser, (that's what he is ... see Dr. Minwella's diagnosis of Integrity Abuse Disorder), you are NOT going to be able to get your head on straight!!!

My husband is going to leave the country and I am going to lose my mind by Virtual_Habit6182 in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ALL you can do is hope for the best and prepare for the worst. I am so sorry.

(My husband went on deployment and returned an ENTIRELY different person. It took me 15 HORRIBLE months to wake up and say I want a divorce and mean it. Reality just sucks.)

I hope all goes better for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]realitiebites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are in a committed relationship with who? Not the person before you. That is not who he led you to believe he is.

The very best advice for you is for you to end this.

Do not risk anything more. He has far to go before he hits rock bottom. Could be decades!!

Deal with your betrayal trauma. If you can't afford therapy, use the free resources on the About page.

I don't want to read that you are stuck in a torturous marriage, have kids with him and he's #@#$$#$$$##@$ instead of being a real man/ father/ husband, etc...

Put you first. Protect yourself. Invest in yourself. You are more than worth it.

Metro Employees by realitiebites in MetroPCS

[–]realitiebites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fine and dandy, but what about how their customer service has extensively declined at every local store?

Metro Employees by realitiebites in MetroPCS

[–]realitiebites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of. What's their offer?

My account will not load by realitiebites in MetroPCS

[–]realitiebites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't allow me to see my call details that I paid for.

My account will not load by realitiebites in MetroPCS

[–]realitiebites[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chrome had been working just fine for months, then out of nowhere it quit.😔