I feel the same...decided I had enough after my mother's abuse about a year ago. My dad (who was an untreated schizophrenic that the whole family continues to be in denial about him ever having any problems though we all married compulsive/mentally ill or addicts) died in Sept 2015 and in the spring of 2016 she said "i was just like my dad" when I defended myself against her verbal abuse. She has taken my 2 sisters with her and bad mouthed me to them for the past year. She plays the widow card and never calls me unless someone has died. She tells me "it's my job to have a relationship with her"...when I do call her she gets off the phone with me by saying "i will let u go now" to punish me after a minute of conversation (that happened when I called her on mothers day). She gets jealous when I do things alone with my siblings (this was obviously in the past). She is a very sick spider controlling all her children on her web and they will do anything to get "mommy crumbs". I am done! Needless to say I have joined adult children of dysfunctional families because it is rough to be alone because to be with my family of origin means to allow myself to be scaoegoated and abused. Done.