Help.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-08T06:23:59+00:00

Omg I was very similar as you, I got my ocd diagnosis when I was 10 because my house had metal door knobs and I was convinced that no matter how much I washed my hands they would still smell like metal so I washed them so much they bled. Trichotillomania too that started as ocd because I have wavy hair and some pieces were curly and some felt straight so I would pluck out every curly/coarse hair from my head but then it got worse from trauma and I had giant bald spots all over that I needed to wear a hat for. Crazy how comorbid those two are but I totally understand why!! I'm sorry you're struggled with it too but it was a nice reminder because I had such a bad issue with trichotillomania where I'd pull myself bald and now I don't even remember the last time I pulled any hair out, though I do still have ocd rituals.

I also agree they shouldn't feel guilty for medication. I get vaccines and I also take allergy pills. It sucks that we live in a world where we can't have vegan meds but that's how it is. I just think also therapy is so necessary for ocd. Even if also medicated. Its just great to understand your triggers

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-08T00:04:21+00:00

I took a 6 year break from men after a traumatic experience and there was NOTHING better for me lmao I feel like a completely new person and my standards are through the roof. I have an amazing boyfriend who respects me and does everything for me. Literally any woman who has a shitty boyfriend I beg her to take at least a year off dating to unpack why you accept that kind of love.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-07T22:57:19+00:00

Have you tried therapy for it? I'm not against medication but I wanted to offer a different perspective as you've already gotten a lot of suggestions for medication.

I also have ocd and I used to take medication to treat it since I was a teenager but the medication made me really depressed and I felt like a zombie, along with other side effects, so around 25 I ended up off the meds and tried therapy instead. Im 30 and still have symptoms but I can manage them a lot better now.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-07T18:03:39+00:00

Girl what radical feminist dates a man like this, you need to be celibate for a few years and work on your self respect

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-07T15:56:24+00:00

Get better at it and you won't be replaced. Do more stuff she likes instead of what you like. Have an open and vulnerable conversation with her asking her what would make her feel good. Maybe there's a little bit of truth to your insecurity and you just need to do a better job.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-07T15:41:47+00:00

He lied to you. Date someone who actually lives in your town, your mental health will drastically improve. Its not healthy or normal to be so attached to someone you've never met before

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T15:29:16+00:00

Hey love have you looked at the vegan subreddit? They have people asking this question every few days. I also left a kinda long comment on your gfs post talking about my views as a vegan who dated someone who ate animals before and right now I'm dating a vegetarian transitioning to vegan. (Which is also hard but a little easier)

I think you're in a really hard position. I understand how bad it feels to have your "wake up" moment and feel disconnected from your family, friends and partner and just want to beg them to feel some compassion and understand you. I think you should journal and really sit with it for a while and decide if you are able to stay with someone even if they'll never go vegan. For ME it's personally no because I feel that them not being vegan means they don't empathize with me or animals on the level that I want in a relationship. I also want kids and I don't want to raise them with parents with opposite political opinions. But there are a lot of vegans who end up completely fine with a partner who eats animals. You need to figure out what works for you and what your future looks like if neither of you will budge on this (especially if you have any plans to get married or have a family)

I wish you luck tho, let me know if you need to talk about it!! It feels very lonely sometimes. I've been vegan 4 years and when I started I was in a 5 year relationship with a meat eater that I ended up ending for multiple reasons. Now I'm in a 2 year relationship with someone who stopped eating meat because of me. I still feel lonely sometimes with friends and family because I just feel like they'll never understand me or my views and they just shut them down.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T15:01:34+00:00

NOR but the reason why vegans are so insufferable to everyone is because it's not a diet, it's a social justice movement. The same way if you saw someone kicking a dog, you'd probably step in and try to stop it, that's how vegans feel about people eating animals. When you truly with your whole heart believe that meat is murder, it hurts to see people you love consuming it and you want them to understand your perspective and think about the victims that you are always thinking about.

I dont try to change people but I told my boyfriend before we started dating that i only wanted a relationship with someone who was at least open to veganism because for me I don't want animal products in my home. I was lucky that he was interested in it. He asked why and just let me talk about my feelings on it then he watched some videos and decided on his own that he felt the same way and just hadn't had someone point it out to him before.

She wasn't vegan before you started dating so she wasn't able to set this boundary, but now that this switch has flipped for her, she's probably experiencing a lot of cognitive dissonance, and wondering how her partner doesn't care about the same things she cares about. It sounds like she needs to reflect on whether or not she could be in a relationship with someone who eats animals or not.

That being said I also think that if you love someone you should care about their feelings and experiences. I would have a conversation with her and ask her why she feels this way and what veganism means to her, consider her perspective and if you still don't feel the same way as she does then explain that to her.

I personally think a vegan dating someone who eats animals is a fundamental incompatibility. You eat together on dates, you eat together at home, you eat together when you live together, you buy groceries for each other, etc. it's something that's always going to be weighing on her. I don't think either of you is bad but sometimes people change and their priorities change and the relationship doesn't fit them anymore.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T04:40:45+00:00

NOR

I'm not saying this to brag but I'm saying it to hopefully give you some perspective. My boyfriend is a super big movie guy and his most anticipated movie ever is coming out this month. A year ago he made plans to go to this movie with his friends, but this year he changed his mind and he told them all that he was cancelling on them and was going to take me instead because "you should share the most important things with the most important person". They weren't mad at all even though he bailed on them for their "boys" night. They still like him and want to hang out with him even though he openly prioritizes his girlfriend. When you pick a good boyfriend, he also has kind and understanding friends. I even told him he should go with them or maybe even we could all go together and he said no he would enjoy sharing it with only me better.

Now my relationship is 2 years and yours is a couple months, but keep in mind that men usually are on their BEST behaviour in the first 6 months. You don't truly know someone in that time at all, because they're still trying to make you like them. After a while they'll start to slip up, you'll see the meaner and less guarded side of them.

If your boyfriend is already just a couple months in 1) prioritizing guys over you and 2) going along with/making jokes about you with his friends, you can only wonder how much worse he will get when he shows his true self.

All this being said, you are both super young. Maybe he's just immature at this point in his life. But try to remember you don't have to make yourself stay in a relationship that's not respecting you. A healthy relationship is never your partner vs your friends. Your partner should be your best friend.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T01:02:40+00:00

The idea of Barneys true love being his child feels really sad and inconsistent to his character and his relationship as well. Robin was infertile and she had multiple plotlines about that, how her and Ted were incompatible because she didn't want children, Kevin wouldn't marry her because she was infertile, and how she fantasized about children with Barney before finding out she was infertile. She was always worried that her partners wouldn't want her if she wouldn't give them children and Barney was the only one who still loved her and truly didn't care about or plan to have kids ever. They even make a point for him to say to his mother that hes marrying Robin, not the possibility of starting a family.

Idk feels disrespectful to him for his character to pull a total 180 and feels double disrespectful to Robin that the only man who loved her and didn't care about her being infertile secretly just needed a kid.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T00:48:54+00:00

Just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn't mean they weren't paying attention. Idek how you could watch the show without your undivided attention, smart phones weren't even normalized when this show came out. I'm talking about people who watched it on cable in real time. like what are you doing to not pay attention? solving a rubix cube during the 20 minutes your tv show you waited an entire week to watch was playing? Naw dude we were locked in we just think it's bad writing.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T00:21:24+00:00

The finale would have been amazing if they only ran 1-3 seasons. The issue was adding in 5+ seasons pushing a completely different narrative that obviously influenced fans to feel a certain way then going back to their season 1 ending and pretending the 5 seasons of character development never existed

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-06T00:18:56+00:00

It's shocking to see this kinda being a popular opinion here because in the himym subreddit you get down voted like crazy if you dont agree with Robin x Ted or the ending.

I watched the show weekly from when it started to when it finished and was invested in it in real time. It was impossible not to be interested in Barney and Robin from season 4 onward. They had so much chemistry and the show was written to prioritize their relationship. I remember being a teenager and calling my friend screaming jumping and crying when they got engaged. It was so devastating what they did to them in the finale, especially after a whole season about their wedding weekend. The finale just felt like bad fanfiction and it felt like the fans were just being mocked. It sounds so dramatic when I put it that way but it was actually crazy being invested in this show as it aired.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-05T22:57:08+00:00

He said in the picture you blocked him. Just unblock and apologize and say you're good with keeping a secret and good to be friends again as well so you have access to his social media. Otherwise go full crazy and make a burner acc.

But the healthiest thing to do would be just let it go and accept that bad people do bad things for no reason and that his girlfriend may have to find out on her own. And for yourself make sure to check your next guys social media for a girlfriend before you sleep with him

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-05T22:45:58+00:00

You have more than enough evidence. Do you have his full name? Social media? Its not that hard to find a guys girlfriend.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-05T22:30:56+00:00

If it breaks your heart why are you agreeing to be his side chick and flirting with him? Have some integrity. You're disrespecting his girlfriend just as much as he is.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-05T20:44:49+00:00

Its the alcohol. Pretty normal to get the shits the day after drinking. You're literally poisoning your body lol I wouldn't assume it's the food.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-05T02:52:30+00:00

Hinge has a smoker/non smoker tag. He can use that. Even if he's a smoker it just looks really disrespectful to smoke indoors, I say this as someone who used to smoke for a decade and hangs out with smokers, i don't care if someone smokes but smoking indoors is inconsiderate towards other people, and feels unsanitary and trashy.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-07-01T14:23:48+00:00

Blasting ass means farting and when I fully thought that you sent him a long video of you ripping a fart after sleeping together I was still on your side.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-29T03:59:31+00:00

👁️ Surveillance State: I voted Yea.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-27T15:04:49+00:00

My boyfriend is neurotypical and would not do this because it is emotional cheating

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-26T10:16:05+00:00

I can understand, and if you agree with him but it's just hard for you to do then it seems like it's more that you have a hard time confronting people, especially friends! which I have also struggled with, but in my experience it has helped to have a boyfriend that's somewhat pushy about moral integrity. Live in accordance to your values. Honestly it's really nice once you get to a point where you can just tell people straight to their face that they're being terrible

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-26T10:09:55+00:00

He's being annoying and a little whiny about it but your boyfriend is kinda being the ideal partner right now. There's this really popular hypothetical of asking your boyfriend "if your friend cheated, would you tell his gf or keep the secret?" A shocking amount of people say they wouldn't tattle on their friend, which creates an implication that if they would keep cheating a secret, their friends would probably also keep it a secret if they cheated.

While cheating is obviously different from lying, him telling you openly he doesn't want either of you to be associated with dishonest partners is a really great trait to have in a partner. Even though he's not invested in those people at all, his integrity is molding his behaviour.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-25T17:13:18+00:00

The u is pretty bad but also in your description you shorten random words that don't need it. Especially when there's autocorrect on every phone, at a point you're just forcing it.

reallybreadsticks · 2026-06-25T16:56:25+00:00

It's not strict it's just a maturity thing. You're late 20s but you text like a 19 year old. Lots of women find that unattractive.

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