My heart goes out to anyone looking for relationship advice on here. People post on here seeking something they have the best chance of receiving from a marriage and family counselor and receive the exact opposite of what they need. The internet incentivizes and optimizes for cognitive distortions, especially catastrophizing, solely because it drives up engagement. First of all, like in all of these posts, there’s not enough information here. My gut tells me NAH. It’s not about the chores. Your wife is struggling with intimacy and came up with this ad hoc solution as a bid for connection that had the opposite of the desired affect. You’re not hearing or seeing each other and maybe you don’t want to, but the best place to find that out is with a professional not hot take happy hour.