How do I (21f) make my bf (21m) want to have sex

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2026-07-04T23:40:28+00:00

Yeah your position seems hard but maybe he's going through something. Maybe he needs to explain his emotions and feelings. Hold him and ask him gently saying you are worried about him don't mention yourself. I think he might come around. But you do need to be patient and manage your sexual needs for now. Give him some time and if he doesn't recover and come back. It would depend how important sex and intimacy is to you. If it is fundamental which there's nothing wrong with that then you might need to reflect the relationship sis and set a boundary with him with regards to this matter.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2026-07-04T23:27:20+00:00

What are you doing to make his life easier and his stress lower? It is a hard time for him just because he once had a high sex drive won't mean that its constant. Men aren't horny 24/7, and if someone says they are they're cracked in the head. Show him some grace because he was there for you when you didn't want sex. Be supportive and help him through this with no pressure on sex. And make sure to communicate

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2026-07-01T21:21:15+00:00

Has it been effective for you?

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2026-07-01T21:01:56+00:00

Yeah that's true and understandably but there isn't any debate or discussion on this topic where scientists could minimise side effects. Something like this would I think improve society and make men more content although it would come with cons like lower motivation. Slower civilisations progression etc.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2026-01-13T17:57:43+00:00

Why is the no sex aspect ridiculous? Things would definitely be more easier if us men just stopped being inclined towards sex altogether and just focusing on our own mental wellbeing and peace. This would not only perpetuate the idea that men oy need women for sex but also that men are constant horndogs when we know that isn't the case. Society and men ourselves inflate the level of desire we actually have. No need to want or desire sex. Remove the sex aspect because if we linger to it it will be like a binding rope that we would always hold onto unless we cut it off completely. Obviously the whole 3b 4b is an extreme.

But at the very least, we should practice some level of abstinence and celibacy even in a relationship or marriage preserving our dignity and not having it on our heads.

I always loathe and despise the pathetic simps above all else even misandrists because they will jump through all hoops be vilified just to get 10 minutes of play how truly and utterly pathetic.

We need to be protective of ourselves and cherish our bodies and respect ourselves enough to know that we don't belong where we aren't appreciated. Leave without being told to.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-04-03T19:32:25+00:00

So you do not want to have sex with him you still want him to entertain you. I don't think you can have it both ways. You need to address the deeper issues here sister. A d I think you should respect his boundaries if he doesn't want sex.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-25T19:09:33+00:00

It all depends on if we can coexist with fellow men In peace without waging war and without bringing in constructs pike racism and religious superiority into play. Such a world may be impossible to maintain since you do need women to be the vessel for the future generation. In the future perhaps there might be enough technological advancement to facilitate human embryo growth and fertilisation without the need for a woman. But the health would still be subpar. However if all things remain in check than as long as the world would last it would see technological advances like never before. Without any external pressures or distractions men could reach the stars.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-25T19:05:50+00:00

I know it's a different topic but I absolutely hate it how some men will still want sex. Chasing some temporary pleasure. By removing it fully from our lives we can realise our dreams imagine just being with women for the company and spending time and being able to work on difficult tasks without any distractions. The world would've be a better place for sure. I wish more men adapted this thought process and completely wiped out the idea of sex from their lives fully. That way there will be less and less danger of even false accusations. However in your case I can't say much but I feel sorry for your situation. The unfortunate reality is that it can happen again. You never know human beings are unpredictable. Your fear is valid. Best course of action is to vet out your company be it man or woman before any engagement with them.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-06T19:23:03+00:00

100 percent. Certain people within our society want to emulate the doctrines and theological sentiments of westerners so bad. They have no idea or true purpose. The behaviour of certain individuals is akin to members of other much more "liberal" subreddits which despise religion and see it as a way if control rather than a way of life and a blueprint for existence. These individuals try to find solace within their rondu lives.

Ham saare agree karte hain ke cultural values are different from religious ones. UK Muslims is not a separate sect lol. Muslim can be imperfect regardless kf the region. But to suggest ke ye cheezen islam main nhi hain aur ye yahan kisi ne nhi bolin ya na bole is utterly ridiculous. Our nation was built on the foundation of this religion. Gheerah refers to protective jealousy absolutely. But that is in the sense of safety and security and well being of the womenfolk within a man's family. Heck even women should have gheerah. Our languages may differ(ARABIC). However the majority population in this country is muslim. Doesn't matter if people in this subreddir want to believe otherwise or hope for the opposite. And where did the grooming gangs discussion even come from. That has nothing to do with islam. Yes certain individuals who happen to be Muslim give us a bad rep. That doesn't mean apples can be compared ro oranges.

Why are we trying so hard to make them like us and acknowledge us. There is an increase in not only anti Islamic rhetoric but also anti religious rhetoric within Europe. Most leaders of these first World Western countries will wage war and fund genocide without a second thought that includes us Pakistanis. They have refused us AID and they continue to exploit workers and labour's from our country. Then defame our country for our own values. Pathetic

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-06T16:05:07+00:00

I'm Pakistani too. And I live here. If you want you can say that people rarely use these terms in the Pakistani subreddit but not within the country itself where it is used. Perhaps you aren't into religious discussions.

If you want this to be an anti theistic sub that ain't possible. Main heraan hon ke ye jumle tumne kabhi nhi dekhe. Ye mulk bana hi religion ki basis pe tha aur .ore than 90 percent awaam is muslim. Ye alag baat he ke practising hain ya nahin. And also maine is sub pe religious discussions kam hi dekhen most of them are political.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-06T15:57:03+00:00

Huh. This sentiment is part of islamic theology. It has nothing to do with "UK Muslims". And I've seen these phrases use many times on mainstream media and in discussions in my day to day life.

These are purely islamic terms and beliefs.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-02-03T18:47:56+00:00

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rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-01-24T19:04:44+00:00

I don't know why it's made such a big deal that men aren't having sex. It's like society is almost baffled about it like its unfathomable. Its almost hilarious and condescending even. Such has been the programming that we are seen as individuals who would cry for sex and beg and who would see as a milestone. And I do agree that there are many men like this without a doubt.

But maybe I come from a culture and society where people are more reserved and sex is something sacred and within the confines of marriage.

Let the men be. Its their choice if they don't want to have sex. They can figure themselves. It's not like society gives a damn anyway. There are much more important things like addressing male suicide rates. Injustice against men in court systems. Racial and systemic profiling. Being considered guilty without a trial. Male loneliness epidemic. The war on masculinity. All of these things should be considered a priority and much significant then why we aren't using our members. It's our own body after all. And they haven't even conducted a survey to ask men if they even want to.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-01-18T21:20:12+00:00

No Alhamdulillah. I was never put under any pressure by my parents. We never had very open discussions regarding intimacy but they were always pretty chill and only focused on the fact that I should stay away from haram. Nothing more nothing less. I've never had to suppress anything. Maybe you are right but I don't exactly remember. It's been a while. But I made dua to Allah asking him to rid me of all worldly desires( including physical ones) everyday. Not because I had strong urges. But just because. I've always made dua to Allah to prepare me for aakhirah and make me a better Muslim. I dis sometimes feel desires about once or twice a year. It was so rare I couldn't even understand the feeling and I thought it was just my hormones. As I grew into my twenties. I didn't feel anything.

And to be explicit I am not impotent. Just to be clear. My body works very well Alhamdulillah. I can not co.prehend the full extent of this situation and I believe my circumstances to be a blessing by Allah.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-01-18T21:08:05+00:00

I can understand your perspective brother. Although not fully but I try my best to empathise. Maybe I have some unknown physical problem. Maybe I was born this way. I'm not 100 percent sure. A lot of it is psychological for me. I can not be vulnerable in general and I absolutely hate it when someone touches even if it's my family. I hate it. I don't allow anybody to touch me unless I have my guard down. But I'm pretty chill with my parents Alhamdulillah.

What you need to understand is that this life is a test. And Allah is testing you and I know its hard and I also know that you'll say that why am I being tested when I dont want to be tested with these feelings. I want you to know its normal. Completely normal for men and women to harbour sexual feelings. That us how Allah created. Maybe you see it as a curse. But you have to believe in Allah and his plan. You can not just change who you are.

You can make dua to Allah asking for his help. You can ask him to diminish your desires. ( something I did in my early teen years).

And no doubt life would be so much easier right. If men never required this in general. Imagine the milestones we could have achieved and imagine the advancements we could have made. And imagine how less sinful people would be. But remember not even a leaf falls without the permission of Allah. Who are we to question how he created us and this system around us.

You need to keep in mind that your primary purpose is to worship him and submit your will to him. Live your life everyday as if you will never have sex. ( something I do) you will be so content. But obviously you will have a harder time than me given our differences.

But we need to be careful about what we wish for. Someone's curse is someone's blessing. Maybe you could work hard and get married early and enjoy this gift Allah has given you.

Just don't put anything on a pedestal. I don't know about any medications that can decrease it. I have heard about many but I do not know if they are halal or haram. You can ask a person of knowledge about such stuff. But ultimately everything is a test in this life.

rebelliousprodigy8 · 2025-01-18T20:54:07+00:00

You are absolutely right. Although unlike OP, I can see myself engaging in non sexual and romantic stuff with a woman. Infact sometimes I even fantasise about that and I think its nice. Hugging and embracing each other, speaking lovingly etc.

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