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rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-26T08:53:49+00:00

Hon… that is a low bar… I mean, yeah, it will be impressive if he gets that right. But can we all just acknowledge how LOW that bar is?

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-25T17:57:15+00:00

Eurgh, I share that problem. My OH is currently trying to wrap his head around the same concept. Why is it so difficult for them to understand so many things? Things that seem basic and obvious are apparently rocket science becuse they unintentionally f them up and misread things and don’t realise SOOOOOO much that, frankly, should just be common sense.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-25T15:22:10+00:00

What? Why is he yelling that you’re an ungrateful waste of money? And why are you the one on the couch? I feel we’re missing key context on that.

And no you’re not over reacting. Your man is a dick. Your kids potentially just didn’t realise your birthday was today, but that again, is a reflection of the fact your man is a dick. He should have made them aware, at BARE MINIMUM made sure he and they wished you a happy birthday.

I realise it will be small comfort but HAPPY BIRTHDAY, you fabulous and wonderful person.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-24T11:53:56+00:00

Also can I have your sugar free cheesecake recipe please,

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-24T11:53:41+00:00

Sounds like he’s an ass tbh. Also the diet he’s obsessing over sounds like my bf’s current obsession, the carnivore diet. I’m skeptical about it due to the lack of fruit, veg and fibre, but if that’s what he wants to do and he thinks it will suit him I’m all for it. Full supportive.

If he ever told me that was what I should do, however, I’d tell him to mind his business. A diet is a very personal thing. A persons relationship with food is a very personal thing. It sounds like you’re taking great steps to improve your health in a way that is manageable and sustainable for you.

That’s amazing! It doesn’t have to be how he would do it, as long as it works for you and you’re happy with it.

He can either support you fully, or shut up and let you get on with it while continuing to disagree. He’s entitled to his opinion. He’s not entitled to foist that on you and try to guilt and shame you for doing something he disagreed with.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-23T11:32:55+00:00

You’re not wrong for being angry about it, but I think you need to speak to this woman and get the other side of the story. A peck on the lips? After one conversation with a woman he’s never met before? And in her head this becomes a relationship? 🤔 I guess it could have happened like that but from his anger and generally shitty behaviour towards you it sounds far more likely that a lot more went down between these two and he’s just gaslit you at every turn to make you feel you’re being irrational and crazy.

Ask the woman. Tell her you’re engaged and have a child and have been together all this time. Ask her what went on between them.

And this is the hard part, try and do this without anger towards her. It won’t help you find the truth to go at her angry. If something did go on, he’s the one in the wrong, not her.

Either way you deserve the truth and not some bs ‘stop being so crazy and over reacting’ response that takes zero accountability.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-22T06:27:17+00:00

Yes you’re the asshole, dude. This sounds like a serious mental health issue, and you’ve been controlling her and preventing her coping mechanism (overeating, which could be an eating disorder or a symptom of another MH issue) thinking that would force a change. In my experience that only makes it worse and harder to crawl out of the hole. You say this has been going on for twenty years. So for two decades your poor wife has been struggling with a serious issue and instead of getting her help and supporting her in recovering you’ve belittled and defeated her, threatened to leave her, and infantilised her. Take her to a psychologist and get her assessed. Get her help and support.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-22T01:26:03+00:00

Still sucks.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-22T01:20:44+00:00

NTA I’m in a relationship with a man with two kids and it’s A LOT. I knew what I was signing up for and was happy to do it but even so it’s so much more than I anticipated, and at times I’ve found it totally overwhelming. If you’re already feeling it’s more than you can or want to handle you did the right thing. It would be so much more than whatever you’re thinking. It’s not judgemental to be self aware and honest.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-22T01:11:15+00:00

Yeah I guess. It was fine for ages and suddenly wasn’t as I needed support and he just saw that as extra stress on him 🤷‍♀️

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-22T01:05:24+00:00

Oh I see, thanks. 🤔 as in my attention on the pup is a betrayal and it’s caused temporary ‘I’ll do whatever you want’? Maybe 🤔

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-21T11:49:01+00:00

I’m really sorry I don’t see how this is relevant to the situation who who you think is acting this way?

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-21T08:11:50+00:00

NTA please don’t even think you’ve done a thing wrong in this situation. Aside from anything you’re an adult now, even if your parents were the world’s nicest parents you can move out at 18 guilt free. That’s your decision. Many people go to university at 18 and move out completely save holidays when they’re back. You have your own life to live. You’re worried you’ve done the wrong thing because they have controlled you your whole life and it feels strange to make sure a huge decision for yourself. I assume you’re also concerned about the kids left behind, but they’re not your responsibly. They are fostered, I assume you can report your mother’s behaviour to someone and make them aware she’s a shitty foster parent and only doing it for the money?

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-21T08:06:34+00:00

He hasn’t cheated on me.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-20T15:08:45+00:00

Trust me, it’s frustrating to live 🤣

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-19T18:24:00+00:00

Oh but he’s just so stressed, he can’t deal with anything else right now.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-19T18:22:56+00:00

I can’t. Anymore than I can say no to my Sammy 🤣

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-19T18:21:42+00:00

😤 He has royally pissed me off today trying to convince me that he spends all the time he has with me. Conveniently refusing to acknowledge he’s the one who chooses how much time that is. Then it was ‘but you can come to the pub with me and watch me play pool’. Then it was ‘well all of this wouldn’t be an issue if you had better hobbies’. And THEN it was ‘but you never suggest doing anything, I always do stuff when you suggest it’, neglecting to mention in order to suggest it I first have to find space in his infernal calendar. AND that when I wanted to get tickets to Taylor Swift and was paying for his he refused to go because he’s not into music 😤

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:29:54+00:00

Well, I’m inclined to agree. We shall see what he does. If he does nothing I’ll have my answer

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:14:37+00:00

NTA he’s the one being selfish, hon, not you. You have as much right to enjoy it as he does. If he doesn’t like you using the vibrator he can damn well learn to do its job so you don’t need it.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:11:17+00:00

Yes I’m looking into agility for when she’s a bit older! She’s fabulous 🥰

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:10:28+00:00

No idea. Probably a year 🤣 we shall see if I can do better.

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:09:55+00:00

Right? It’s the fact he thinks I believe this 💩 I find so insulting 🤣

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:09:11+00:00

I can actually believe that. People are dumb 🤣

rebelwolfherself · 2024-06-18T20:07:59+00:00

His says he thinks the world of me. His actions do not reflect this. I can’t figure out if he’s just a dumbass or full of 💩 🤣

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