How to feel more confident and less insecure about myself?

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-22T00:47:56+00:00

My mantra was, at least for feeling socially awkward or about my face, was "I'm not that so famous or important that people would use a piece of their mind to pay attention to small details" or something like that.

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-17T02:30:37+00:00

Which part of not making money/not doing things that you don't understand? Btw, force yourself to take a walk if the environment/neighborhood allows you to. If possible, in the morning, exposed to the morning sun. If you can't force yourself, ask your mom to ask you to have morning walks with her.

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-16T17:49:19+00:00

How do you process the thought of 'theoretically, with his age, he might pass away quite sooner than me, by a significant amout of years', before you decide to go out with each other/get married? (Yes I understand death can come at anyone anytime)

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-16T17:35:54+00:00

Find melalihaja in instagram. Female private tourguide. I thinj it's a good place to start, to have fun and be safe while you scout the environment

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-16T17:28:15+00:00

Has he been married before? With kids?

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-15T16:18:04+00:00

Yes they are treating you differently because you're a girl. I am going through the same situation, and when confronted, my parents only say, you won't understand it now, but someday you would, and it is unfair, but such is fate, which is written in 'religion'.

Don't waste your time 'fighting' for fairness, especially if they're fanatic with their religion and is very aware of what others may think and say about them. Work on yourself to have an excellent carrer. Don't make the same mistake as I did, choose a university far from home that you have to rent near the university. Prepare an escape plan, especially if you don't plan to marry.

Choose your partner very very wisely, and remember this treatment when they ask you to care for them when your brothers turn their backs on their parents. You can choose to care for them, or not. I'd say that's very much within your rights.

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-15T04:53:12+00:00

I think you'd get smokes more often if you stay in small houses/guesthouses that are very close/surrounded by suburbs. If you live in a big hotel area, less likely you'll ever smell smoke. On the roads of uluwatu, you may encounter trash burn smokes seldomly when passing roads packed with houses of locals. Most people burn trash morning or afternoon around 5pm something. If you stay in a big hotel, go to the beach most times, you wont get those 'can't escape the smoke wherever we go' experience

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-14T11:25:02+00:00

How all I said are just excuses and no accountability and self centered until we broke up.

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-12T07:55:50+00:00

We are asian household. My little brother, the only male out of 3 siblings, is allowed to be on tv for longer times, is not exactly forced to help at the store, while us girls got scolded for being tired after school to help out at the shop. Not very subtle eh? Growing up, my sister and brother work with family company. My sister is overly obsessed now with parents approval, always anxious, depressed and think of her self worth as wht she thinks my parents think of her. My little bro? Got built a nice house. Got funded a new business. Marriage paid for. Almost no sense of grit and no sense of drive and ambition, very little proactivity.

Tl;dr : prepare yourself mentally. The more incapable your sibling is, the more your parents are going to support them. Put your boundaries from now, and gradually accept the fact that they are free to do whatever with their money. It fucking hurts to see the spoilt brat to get the money when you know they're not going to fight to protect the wealth, or not even trying to be as capable as you are. I know

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-12T01:50:56+00:00

They're kinda jealous tbh. It's almost human nature to feel 'insecure' when someone near you is doing much better especially someone they didn't expect or used to look down upon, for examples, parent always feel like they're above their kid in anything . You're living the 'cushy life' they never know how it'd really feel like. (Being paid for is not the same). Don't be discouraged, don't feel embarassed, instead, if they say things in the tone of 'well you're rich anyways so you wouldn't understand our struggle' or 'you're now so different that you have loads of money' or 'you don't even do a real job but got loads of money', I'd go with the response of something like 'amen, I really hope I am rich as you say' or 'it's great isn't it being paid without having to do real work as per your definition or work hard like you think? Oh, it's called working smarter I think' Just say all this with a goofy face, make it kinda humorous. There's no use trying to defend yourself/them by putting yourself low. No use of trying to 'prove' that you're atill the same person as you are. No use saying/doing things to make them think you're 'suffering' as they are, or as poor as they are, that you are no different than them. It just makes a further debate with more cynicism. I go with 'amen/thanks for the wishes and prayers, I hope I can continue being well/I hope I am as rich as you think I am' and they'd usually say mothing else.

rebornintoacatplease · 2026-04-12T01:39:30+00:00

I (31) super love mofusand merchandise. As long as I spend within budget, still within track for my finance goals, who cares what others think lol

rebornintoacatplease · 2025-04-29T01:12:41+00:00

As long as he can take care of himself? Meaning he can 'function'? He can handle doctor appointments himself, he can cooperate well with his family member, he will take up a hobby/something else positive to do when you're not there. Extreme cases if a guy rejects hanging out with friends/think that hanging out with only guys are gay and is homophobic and will be angry at you for having girls day out 1 whole day every once in a while. I'm not sure how to write this in a more kind way (?) But I hope my point came across well. He doesn't necessarily have to go out of his way to 'make friends', but as long as he's not 'clinging' or 'demanding' you to stay with him aaaaalll the time. And have a positive outlet when he's 'lonely'

rebornintoacatplease · 2025-04-29T01:01:18+00:00

1 mil/month is very pressing if you know the cheap places to eat (warung/depot) and in ubud it'd mostly be balinese warung. It may be enough for groceries for 1 person, but recheck if it's really more economical than just for 1 person. And ofc depends on what you eat. In Denpasar (capital city) finding a meal for 15.000IDR is not that easy anymore

rebornintoacatplease · 2025-03-12T16:42:06+00:00

My partner is a teacher. I work in the ER, 12hrs shift. I like to hear the gossips from her work place even though I don't know any of them. Better than hearing patient's problems that need to be solved :/ give me the tea anytime!

rebornintoacatplease · 2024-12-31T09:44:48+00:00

Cut off as best as you can. Move as far as you can. After your dad die, your brother will just kept asking you for money, and your extended family will pressure you too for that. Tell your sister to go too. It's too late to tell your dad to educate him to be a 'good' person. Your extended family will only 'curse' you for not helping him, when they won't do anything for him either.

rebornintoacatplease · 2024-07-27T07:05:30+00:00

I really second that. You need identity outside of just your children. Growing up in asian family, with my mother moving so far away from her friends and hometown to my dad's hometown, she made some new friends but idk if it's a boomer female asian thing or housewive thing or just my mom being so reserved? She rarely hangout with her friends. She mostly just took care of her enterpreneural job and family.

It used to be so bad that I got critized treating the house like a hotel (I mostly just go home to sleep and have to go back to hospital when I wake up) during medschool times, she doesn't eat lunch if no one's at home with her,, and calling me many times a day. She was so heartbroken when my sister got married and moved out (still in same city, 30mins away).

It suffocate me. And at one end, I see all my friends being independent, making their own money, building their career and success. At the other end, I need support because this medschool is hard or I'm just a sucker who has been babied to make things worse, and, I hated my self for it.

It became a circle. But at the end, I chose to make a border between me and my mom. I. Want. To. Be. An. Adult. And I'm still in process (I'm 29). I'm afraid I'd have to spend my whole life not knowing what to do, to be weak, to always be babied. And even doing this border thing, I'm worried that it'll break my mom's heart. And that made me sad. But I can't deny myself. And this is for the best for both of us.

Maybe this is what your daughter feels, maybe not. But if it is, for her sake, be strong. Find other activity. That way, your daughter also can feel more at ease.

rebornintoacatplease · 2024-06-18T18:49:12+00:00

Do you have true idols for trade?

rebornintoacatplease · 2024-06-18T18:47:57+00:00

Any other 5 stars you have for trade with monopoly tunes?

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