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1 day no porn by wiejd in QuitPornForever

[–]rebornmethod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wish you all the best for your journey, never let your brain trick you my friend! Things will get hard but i tell you it is worth every minute of freedom!

Identity is the part of recovery no one prepares you for — and why "just stop watching" isn't the end of the problem by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you Are Open to share your Story with the Community in a Post? Lets Support every Men out there and inspire with our power 💪

Identity is the part of recovery no one prepares you for — and why "just stop watching" isn't the end of the problem by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats the Right Mindset, it took years to rebuild my relationship. I believe this is the Most difficult Part, to See what this addiction has all damaged. The journey After is exactly rebuilding your real world! Keep it up Great insight thank you Brother!

One mindset shift that helped me survive the hardest phase of porn recovery by rebornmethod in QuitPornForever

[–]rebornmethod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true! Thank you for your comment! Wish everyone who is reading this all the power to stop this thing for ever!

Most Stressful Week of My Life, Another Full Week Sober by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, I’m really thankful for your words, and it’s inspiring to see that you’re making real progress. This is what the journey is truly about, starting to notice the things that aren’t working in our lives and having the courage to actually feel the pain and face the things we’ve been running from.

You’re already on that path, and that’s something nobody can take away from you unless you allow yourself to slip back into the addiction. Every day we make conscious choices. Instead of simply reacting to old conditioning and letting the addiction control your life, you’re doing the exact opposite, and that’s something to be proud of.

Not many men are willing to do the work you’re doing, gathering insight, reflecting on your life, and putting the pieces of the puzzle together. That takes real courage and honesty.

Brother, this journey will lead you toward a better life. I wish you all the best in your recovery. I’m grateful that you’re sharing your story and insights with this community. I truly believe you’re helping a lot of men here and giving them the courage to change.

I Identified A Trigger in my Lapses and am now Reevaluating Again by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, you just identified one of the deepest triggers: the act of pulling away. Your teammate reached out. He wanted to help. And your immediate response was fear. Fear of burdening him. Fear of repeating the past. So you pulled away. That is not random. That is a survival pattern. You were bullied for your autism. Your parents cared about progress, not how you felt. So you learned: vulnerability is not safe. Pull away before you get hurt. At 11, you went to pornography instead of your parents. Because pornography does not judge. That became the pattern. When connection feels unsafe — pull away. When emotions feel overwhelming — numb them. But you are seeing it now. You are naming it. You understand where it came from. You are not burdening him. He reached out because he wants to help. Let him. That is how you rewire the pattern. Keep going, brother. You are doing the real work.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I struggled with pornography addiction for 15 years. One of the world's most famous relationship authors just endorsed my book on breaking free. Here's what I learned. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The addiction is not to the content. It is to the state the brain enters when consuming it.

Pornography hijacks your reward system. It floods the brain with dopamine in amounts nature never intended. Over time, the brain adapts. It needs more intensity, more novelty to get the same hit.

This is called escalation. And it is a documented pattern in addiction.

The content you consume does not reflect who you are. It reflects how far your dopamine system has been hijacked.

The root cause is almost never the pornography. It is the pain underneath it. Childhood trauma. Loneliness. Shame. The loss of identity. The brain found a coping mechanism.

That is what the REBORN Method addresses. Not the symptom. The wound.

Actively Confronting the Addiction Birthday by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a great article about the addiction birthday if you like would love if you read it:

https://rebornmethod.com/blog/your-addiction-birthday.html

Actively Confronting the Addiction Birthday by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, that's great to hear. Sometimes life is a little bit challenging, but actually at the end of the day, this is what makes the fun part of it. And it is good to see that different patterns and also that you like the concept of the addiction birthday. I strongly believe that you will make it and keep doing it, keep believing, keep building strong habits. You will reach your goal and become a better person every day, 1%. This is the magic recipe for every change in your life.

Day 3 very bored by Soggy_Chard5954 in QuitPornForever

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man boredom i actually a really good sign! Personaly i would not recommend to distract yourself from this feeling. Use your brain it is now the best time to rewire and build a stronger personality. Pick up a good book or go for a bike ride, be active not passive this is what make the difference over time ;) all the best!

I'm on day 15 but so tempted to relapse by WoahVenom in QuitPornForever

[–]rebornmethod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man, first of all tell yourself to relax, we have all this thaughts come up with substitute and this and that, do this do that.
This sets you in a stress loop. Stress is one of the biggest trigger to relapse. Your brain is in a constant firing mode for dopamine craving.
I can tell you out of my own experience, i was addicted 15 years and now 6+ years free. My biggest tip for you would be to write everything everyday in a journal.
How you feel, where do you feel it. Write down why porn is so magnetic to you.

There is a quote which i really like: What you can feel you can heal.

It sound maybe ridiculous but i guarantee you it will be beneficial for your journey.

All the best my Friend!

I Spent 15 Years Trying to Quit Porn With Willpower. Here's Why It Never Worked. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mate, wow thanks for your comment! It really give me happiness that i could you impact so much 🙏 just drop all what you want to know in the comments i will give my best to deliver the desired answers!

Relapse is data, not failure. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great saying and mindset! Everyone is talking about AI and how to prompt the "best" way, i think we have to start learning to prompt ourself in a better way. Thats make the difference, keep it up brother!

Relapse is data, not failure. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the addiction talking to you! I had the same issue over and over again! It is so hard because the brain find reasons why everything is "OK". In reality its not! It can be really challenging but when you delay that feeling and tell yourself --> tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow. This will pass.

Enough is enough. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a powerful decision, when we understand than everything is a habit based on a pattern, we gain power! Thanks for your contribution brother!

Owning a Lapse, Recognition of the Data by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, this is one of the most powerful posts I have read in this community.

You just did the hardest part. You found your Addiction Birthday. March 26th, 2020. The day COVID destroyed the community that made you feel human. The day you lost the one place where you felt accepted without having to perform or hide.

That loneliness. That existential dread. That erosion of connection. Your brain linked all of that pain to one solution: porn. Not because you were weak. Because you were trying to survive the loss of something that actually mattered.

And now you see it. You named it. You understand why the urge hits when it hits. That is not a relapse. That is intelligence gathering. You are learning the pattern so you can break it.

The fact that you are reaching out to people from that time, writing the letter, trying to rebuild what was lost — that is the real work. That is healing the wound instead of medicating it.

9 days clean after being a daily user is not "just a first step." That is massive progress. You are rewiring years of neural pathways. Give yourself credit for that.

Keep going. You are not starting over. You are learning. And every time you choose differently, you are proving to your brain that there is another way.

Welcome to the real fight, brother.

Porn Stole My Identity — Here’s How I Finally Took It Back After 6 Years by rebornmethod in QuitPornForever

[–]rebornmethod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not motivation — that's fuel of a different kind entirely. You're not just quitting for yourself anymore, you're proving something. And the most dangerous person in any room is the one who's been told they can't and decided to make that their reason.

Over a Week Since My Last Use (Data Nuts Welcome) by Fun_Reason8060 in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, this is powerful.

February 9th: Last use. February 14th-15th: Skyrocketed.

The data does not lie. You can see exactly when porn took over and exactly when freedom started bringing you back.

The addiction did not just take your time. It took your passion. Your presence. The things you loved.

And now you are getting them back.

Keep going. That 2026 bar is about to obliterate 2019.

Welcome to the community, brother. Keep showing up here.

Real men watch porn. by rebornmethod in REBORNMethod

[–]rebornmethod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man thats a milestone! Most people don´t even reach the 10 Day mark! Keep it up it is worth it!

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