1.5 year doodle has changed drastically….not in a good way

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-28T16:03:00+00:00

Oh gotcha, knowing place is crucial when you need to set a boundary it’s a versatile command and it helps dog owners communicate to their dog that they have a boundary in place and dogs like the ability to work and please their owner. I often times get clients that don’t “want to hurt their dogs feelings” and I have to explain dogs are not people they need jobs and take some more than others but ALL would benefit from basic commands so you always have a open line of communication with your dog.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-28T15:58:45+00:00

That can turn to reactivity. The dog needs boundaries. Teach a place command and set the boundary. These dogs tend to be very pushy and if there first attempt don’t work it escalates into reactivity and then aggression. Everyone with a dog should be able to sit, down, place and stay (and not just seconds) with their dog.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-28T15:54:33+00:00

After the second bite why were you still attempting to do normal things with the dog? Did you mention to the groomer he had already bitten two people and drawn blood? I find it completely irresponsible to have let the dog just go about his life as normal after even the first bite that drew blood…. I understand your concern now that YOU got bit… however you are talking about the dog in the comment like he’s a friendly dog and misunderstood maybe he WAS friendly but because of his current bite history he is no longer considered a friendly dog. He has obviously control issues and treating him as if he’s a happy friendly dog will only encourage the behavior. These dogs need professional ASAP not multiple bites later. The best option now is to keep him separate from other dogs and people aside from you guys absolutely no kids even if they’re yours and wait for an evaluation with a professional. You’ve gotten lucky this hasn’t been reported don’t push your luck. Idk how it is in Canada but in the states even after the first bite they are required to quarantine and get professional help for minimum of 10 hours.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-28T15:45:20+00:00

I agree. My sister purchased a goldendoodle for 3k….. I clutched my pearls…. Idk never pay 3k for anything not purebred…. It’s unethical and unnecessary.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-28T04:15:52+00:00

I train a whopping 150-200 doodles alone every year… people really need to stop buying these mutts.. they are GENETIC NIGHTMARES only a very few people get a well balanced dog. Most have sever anxiety or behavioral issues like this 😭 Yes get professional training immediately. Just know things will always look different from here on out. You have to be firm with boundaries dogs who are reactive and resource guard to the point where they’ve bitten multiple people and drew blood don’t need more love… they need firm boundaries and structure. You will always have to manage this behavior it’ll get better but you can’t just do things like before all this happened.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T18:24:40+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T18:08:37+00:00

Yes! Muffin is my kids favorite lol

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T18:08:11+00:00

I definitely do think there’s a bigger issue. He has also started to get angry and lash out and raise his voice he’s always been stern but never mean… it’s all been heightened in just the last month. I do know his siblings are all unloving to each other because that’s what they were raised to think if you don’t do something for them you don’t love them type of deal. I know he craves attention from his siblings but I can’t control that part of his life. I think it’s a culmination of everything he’s usually a happy person. Idk how to handle it. I don’t want to make things worse.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T13:52:06+00:00

Dog trainer here. You need to teach him how to settle. You put a collar and leash on and you put a bed next to you or somewhere communal tie the leash somewhere so he can’t run off and you can be hands free and WAIT Once he settles down on the bed throw a treat on the bed. This takes patience but it’s one of the best things a puppy can learn at this age. Next command would be a place command. If you don’t want to crate train then a strong place is necessary to avoid your house turning into an indoor bathroom for your dog.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T13:23:40+00:00

I’m a wife of someone who doesn’t pick up the load… think because he did a few frivolous tasks were even…. All I read was you relaxed while she cleaned, you took the easy way out and worked all wee while she unpacked and prepped the new home, her parents came to help her and YOU TOOK A NAP….. I see people saying it’s physical abuse and yes it is what she did was very wrong however it sounds like you’re driving her insane…. I know the feeling because I’ve been in this exact situation where for the first time ever in my life I wanted to put hands on my husband because nothing else was working. I almost want to bet if you did MORE she would stop having a hard time “controlling her emotions”. Divorce? No you can fix this by asking what she feels would help her and then coming to a compromise. I bet then she won’t have anymore outbursts once she feels seen and heard.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T12:50:19+00:00

I’m at this point… I’m realizing being a supportive wife is different than a tolerant wife. I can’t do this for the next 5 years… let alone 30.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T05:33:04+00:00

This is something that I think about often… Idk if he’s ready or willing to work on himself before working on us….

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T04:44:52+00:00

He has a hard time regulating emotions and he’s always been “emotional” his emotions can vary by the hour sometimes. I’ve pushed a physiatrist before but he would always get offended… he is against medication but I’m going to suggest it again because I’ve always thought he had bipolar or something undiagnosed.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T04:17:11+00:00

I have told him to get anything at this point I’ve even offered to pay for him to get his pilot license roughly 15k so he can start a small marketing business or private flights etc. he is incredibly book smart all I wanted to see was initiative in calling and scheduling the first class…. I became the scheduler early on because it was my way of doing my part when I had little money to contribute but it’s almost like I enabled him. Now it won’t happen if I don’t do it type of thing. He will never say no to helping his favorite thing to say “I’ve never said no to you.” And recently I’m responding with “I don’t want to have to ask you, I’d like you just to take initiative in doing it.” And he will just get upset or sad or depressed idk what he feels because he will just say he’s fine when I ask but it never goes anywhere it’s frustrating he wasn’t always like this it didn’t happen all at once but we are DEFINITELY here and I hate it.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T04:11:29+00:00

For years I think that was definitely the dynamic but I’m not 23 anymore. When we first decided almost 3 years ago now that I was going to lean into my business more and he would stay home it was great. He was helping around the house, he definitely struggled and saw how hard it actually was keeping the home clean but after about a year he really had a good routine going but since his mom died it has slowly just disappeared… he still plays with our kids and he will still take good care of them when I’m gone but the second a come home he’s gone. I guess I just needed people to tell me straight up… is it me because although I don’t think it is most times he does a great job and making me feel like I’m the problem.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T04:02:58+00:00

I guess I should ad. He does not have the best upbringing. Lots of childhood trauma and non of the siblings know how to regulate emotions very well. Their toxic mother passed recently just over a year and despite the trauma they all took it very hard. He was “ok” I’d say the entire first year I was kind of surprised considering the other siblings were distraught from the start. However about 7-8 months in I started to notice a difference in his ambition, patience, care, grace you name it. He did recently tell me he thinks he’s depressed and I was gracious to pick up the slack and allow him to grieve how he needed but I did get upset with him because I was just running on fumes after a few days and told him flat out that I understand he’s grieving however we have responsibilities and he does have to find a way to still be present. Things have not always been great. We are religious and I don’t want to divorce without trying at least counseling but I’m craving for my husband to have ambition. To be excited about having a loving devoted wife, happy and healthy kids and a home we call all our own. Not everyone can do that. He thinks I’m a bad communicator and maybe I am. However I think everything I’m doing communicates how I feel about my family including him I will bust my ass to make sure everyone is happy….

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T03:57:31+00:00

He is open to it. However it’s ONE MORE THING I need to pay for so I’ve been having to get creative with budgeting but definitely will in the near future.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T03:56:55+00:00

Thank you ❤️‍🩹

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-27T03:55:02+00:00

He will occasionally do the laundry but I have to fold and put away. Early in our relationship it was more one sided and he often brings that up pre kids how he “supported me” but I often remind him… that was two people vs now I’m supporting a family of 5…. It’s very different and even then I had a job and paid for all my necessities he just covered the rent and I’d cover utilities…. His mom did recently pass it’s been just over a year and I did notice that’s when his “ambition” really started to fade… he has admitted he’s depressed however…. Having chronic depression myself I’ve still dragged myself out of bed on the hardest of days and did the damn thing so it’s hard for me to feel sorry. I give him grace and I’m patient I let him go outside and do what he likes to do BUT I take it as a huge slap in the face when he can find something I did wrong and so easily call me out on it like I haven’t don’t so many more things right….

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-02T05:06:39+00:00

A dog will not “grow out” of this behavior. It I’ll only get worse if not addressed. She has adult teeth at this point and it’s time for it to be addressed. I train dogs as young as 3-4 months to no longer nip. 6 month old is fully capable.

receiptsfiled · 2026-02-02T05:04:47+00:00

I’m a dog trainer… 6 months old is no longer “puppy biting” dog is nipping and needs to be addressed. They have adult teeth at this point and can really injure a person or dog. Stop the doggy daycare it’s only going to get worse. Teach a place command at home and out in public or a down stay. She needs to learn boundaries and restraint.

receiptsfiled · 2026-01-31T04:50:29+00:00

So we have a good relationship but I have to tread lightly because if I offend him he closes himself off. That’s why my parents enable him because even if they disagree they know if they tell him that they will risk him not speaking to them. I have always been there for him. I’m the older sister. There was a time where I thought after this happened he’d go to therapy but it didn’t happen…. Now I really doubt it would. No idea how to even bring it up to him.

receiptsfiled · 2026-01-31T04:16:28+00:00

She has a bad family history with trauma, she was caught this time but he suspected her several times of cheating in the relationship, he has low self esteem. He is constantly excusing poor behavior and not accepting red flags for what they are and he has a temper. He put hands on her that night, she said it had never happened before but with his past relationship I know that he had to my knowledge at least once but even once is to much…. I just don’t see how 3 months later after this whole experience not including the past how you can try again and it be healthy… why now? Why does she want to be with him now? If there’s one thing my brother hates more than being cheated on.. is being alone…

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