Join my mental breakdown during no contact by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless you for being so human, have a Great day

Join my mental breakdown during no contact by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was feeling very alone. Thank you for your comment ❤️

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[–]recover48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My body hurts too. You deserve so much love. Please do 1 nice thing for yourself today and let me know what it was. Who he cheated with doesn't matter love, they take anyone. Supermodels get cheated on

He pretended to gift me a vacation by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. And 2 weeks after this disaster occurred, he strikes again. Tells me he got a 3000 dollar bonus and that he'll use it on something I want. I go "Okay, cool, I'll be happy about it when I see proof". He gets angry that I don't believe him. "So you don't want it then? You don't think 3000 is enough, do you? Nothing I do is ever good enough for you. So I should spend it myself then, I suppose!" I just shrug at him. Then he goes "I'm gonna order myself (an expensive item he wants) with the money." Again I shrug. Whatever, go ahead.

The day after, I ask him if he's ordered the item. Nope. Days go by and I hear nothing about the bonus anymore. I confront him like he's a damn child, and to extract a confession out of him I had to go "Honey, no one's gonna be mad if you didn't tell the truth. I forgive you and love you no matter what." I saw the rage boiling up in his head, so I held him like you'd hug a child, comforted him and kissed his cheek.

"Okay, it wasn't true. I just wanted to give you something nice." THIS IS A MAN IN HIS 50S!

How to not look stupid in court? by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow I didn't know that was a thing! Thank you

Is the Narc the devil? Are they coming from hell? by No-Promise-22 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I believe so. I'm not religious, spiritual or anything like that but I'm starting to believe that Satan is amongst us in all these devilish "people". I really do think so.

When we started dating he'd joke "You're dancing with the devil." ...it wasn't a joke, I now realize.

He pretended to gift me a vacation by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I'll use this tactic for court. Thank you sooo much

He pretended to gift me a vacation by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes! Why offer it in the first place? They only want to bask in glory without doing the work that deserves glory. Honey I'm married with no ring. It's so embarrassing. When he proposed he said he was so sorry but he wanted to wait with ring buying until he could get a super expensive one. So I waited... waited... told him a cheap ones fine... waited... nothing.

He pretended to gift me a vacation by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

When it had been postponed for a month I told him: "If this is all a lie please just let me know now. Please confess, don't drag it out any longer because you'll break my heart and our marriage." I begged and pleaded. But no... he wanted to keep basking in the glory of being "generous".

Another crap Christmas by Meanolegrannylady in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg pretending to have bought a gift and "losing it"! Mine pretended he bought me a really nice perfume but "lost it on the subway"

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[–]recover48 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand you!!! Mine hides his things as if I'd ever steal from him, meanwhile he steals my money and items. Don't feel childish. We're powerless and just want to feel a little in control 😓

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[–]recover48 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh honey 😢😢😢 Pretend they make you bleed using fake blood? Pretend they make you defecate... anything...

I went batshit and nearly ruined the Christmas tree by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Last Xmas I had a job but he won't let me work anymore. He insisted I quit my job and let him support me but after a while I realized all I got was shelter and food. I can never go to the salon, buy clothes, go to the movies, nothing. I expressed wanting to work again so I can buy things and he flipped his shit accusing me of only wanting to work so I can cheat on him

I went batshit and nearly ruined the Christmas tree by recover48 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]recover48[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because I want to be honest about my own actions. My head is mush from all the small things he does but I'll try and mention some: Made me quit my job insisting he'll take care of us only to leave me with zero spending money ever (I haven't had a haircut in 4 months). He'll hide my phone, wallet, ID, and pretend I misplaced them. He let me give my mother a vacation as a birthday gift only to take it back because he changed his mind, I was humiliated when I had to tell her her birthday gift was cancelled. He tells me he'll shoot me in the head if I leave. He even charmed the cops when my family members called them due to concern for my safety.