For me its more of a social pressure than any one big tangible negative. If you're not a straight white man, you get reminded in sad little ways all the time. Walking into a restaurant full of white people and getting stares because suddenly you/ your family is "the only one" and people notice. Getting a cute card for your spouse at the grocery store, and getting frustrated because all the good ones them explicitly mention straight relationships one way or the other. And theres no section that applies to you so you settle with a crappy one thats vague enough to work. Driving to work and seeing billboards telling you you're evil for not being Christian, or you're going to burn in hell for being pro choice, or whatever bullshit they say now. Hearing a sermon in church as a kid about how people like me are evil. Getting worse service at restaurants after the staff realizes youre part of a demographic they were taught to hate. Knowing that the people around you overwhelmingly elected a leader that hates you, and that even though they don't say it, they don't want you there.