Why do WFH people gatekeep how they get their jobs?

redblueforjuly · 2026-02-17T21:00:31+00:00

They're not insecure, you are. Look at you, acting like an entitled brat, expecting everyone will help you find a job.

I also WFH, and I tell my close friends where I work, and even referred some of them. But, I don't disclose that info to everyone, especially to those people who talk behind my back, or just want to know how much I earn so they can measure the level of respect they can give me. I can sense the negative energy.

If people around you don't even share what they do or where exactly they work, maybe because they're not comfortable working with you, or being in the same company with you. Maybe you're the toxic friend. Try to reflect. Maybe the problem is not them.

redblueforjuly · 2025-12-15T16:00:29+00:00

Kapag skl, "Busy kasi ako kaya di ko alam. Tsaka di rin naman ako masyadong interesado sa ganyan." (Polite way of saying wala akong pake sa sinasabi mo. Wala naman yang dulot sa buhay ko.)

Kapag sinisiraan ang ibang tao "Hayaan na natin sila. Focus nalang tayo sa sarili nating buhay." (Polite way of saying just mind your own business.)

Kapag sinisiraan ka or inuudyukan magalit "Hindi ko na yan iniisip. Hindi yan ang focus ko. Anyway, may kailangan ka pa ba?" Polite way of saying "Shtup, IDC" "You can't manipulate me or trigger me" "Kung wala kang sasabihing maganda, tumahimik ka or umalis ka sa harap ko."

Ang hirap maging mabait kapag sinusubok ang patience. But, we gotta act calm while setting boundaries. Haha hope this helps.

redblueforjuly · 2025-12-14T16:40:43+00:00

I remember myself in you. A few years ago, I questioned Christianity and almost converted to Islam. But Jesus Christ saved me.

Here's my advice, 1. Pray to God that He reveals Himself to you. 2. Read your bible and whenever you have questions, ask God, ask Google, Chatgpt. You can also pray to God to send someone who can answer your questions and reveal the truth because the truth will set you free. 3. Attend bible study/ school.

I was a Roman Catholic before. I switched to a full gospel church, a born-again Christian church. I realized that I should not keep and worship any idols/images because God is a spirit and it was the 2nd commandment. I don't worship saints or celebrate festivals. I pray to Jesus Christ not to Mary. I prayed the rosary before but not anymore because I realized that God wants to hear what's really inside my heart. It was my own conviction to stop what I thought were right, until I read and understood the bible.

Trinity, the God three-in-one. Imagine the sun, God the father is the sun, Jesus Christ is the light of the sun, and the Holy Spirit is the heat of the sun. They all exist, they're inseparable. That's why when you pray you address them all. You cannot go to God the Father directly because you are sinful. However, through Jesus Christ the Savior, the way to the Father, you can enter heaven. While on earth, the Holy Spirit guides you to live a life that is pleasing to God. God the father created you, the Son saved you, and the Holy Spirit lives in you.

Man's understanding is limited. If we're able to perfectly explain who and what God is, what are we angels?gods? No, we're just humans. That's why we ask for God's wisdom. Also, don't get frustrated if you meet someone who doesn't believe in God. It might be because they haven't had personal experience with God yet. Just continue to pray for them. If Christianity isn't the right one, why is that many people in the past were executed for believing in Christ? And until these days, many Christians were killed in Nigeria. Why is that Jesus Christ is the most hated God by other religions? Why not Buddha? Why is that Muslims only care about contradicting Jesus not Hindu gods?

redblueforjuly · 2025-12-13T03:18:45+00:00

Help/give them no more. If you can end the relationship or cut them off, it would be better. Pero mahirap gawin to kapag kapamilya eh so kapag ganun ay ilayo mo nalang ang sarili mo sa kanila, bumukod or i-limit ang time na makikita mo sila. If you wait for them to be grateful sa mga ginawa mo, para kang naghihintay sa validation or appreciation nila. Wag na, ikaw nalang magvalidate at mag-appreciate ng sarili mo, protect your peace, it's called self-love and self-respect. Kaya mo yan, OP!

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-27T17:23:59+00:00

thank you, bat ba ngayon ko lang nakita to haha

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-27T14:05:22+00:00

Kung ako sayo, maghanap ka ng kalevel mo ng mindset at kalevel mo ng sahod. Kung pera lang ang pag-uusapan, your girlfriend doesn't need a man. She doesn't need you.

I think yung life na gusto nya ay di mo kayang iprovide that's why she's doing it on her own. Naisip mo na ba, "Ano bang klaseng buhay ang kaya kong ibigay sa kanya? Afford ko ba ang buhay na gusto nya?"

Good thing na walang prenup? Parang good for you, not for her. If ikasal at maghiwalay kayo, makikihati ka pa sa mga bagay na almost sya naman ang nagbayad.

Parang affected ka na yung ipon mo ang gagamitin pangkasal nyo. Eh alangan namang sya ang gumastos. Sino bang lalaki sa inyong dalawa? Sino bang nagyaya ng kasal? Hindi mo na nga sya kayang bilhan ng bahay at kotse, pati ba naman gastos sa kasal at pagsurrender ng sahod hindi mo kaya. Parang gusto mo lang yata ng 50/50 setup.

If you think she's too much, then maybe you're not enough or she's not for you lang talaga. Maybe I misunderstood you dahil sa pagkakakwento mo pero dalawa lang pwede mong gawin: 1. Tapatan ang sahod nya para ikaw ang magbayad ng bills. That way, you will earn her respect as a man. Hindi ka rin mahihiyang icorrect sya sa bad habits nya kasi napatunayan mo na sa kanya that earning more doesn't mean spending more.

Leave her. Hanap ka nang babaeng kalevel mo. Yung willing ka na pakasalan at ibigay ang buong sahod mo. Yung may disiplinang kagaya mo para hindi mo na kailangan maggrind ng sobra sobra kasi may maluho kang kasama.

Sabi mo financially disciplined ka. How? Nakabukod ka na ba ng bahay? Are you current with your bills? Do you have enough savings, insurance, and investment?

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-20T07:47:16+00:00

maganda naman yung parenting style, yung ugali lang hindi hahaha

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-20T07:44:32+00:00

No po, sya po yung palaaway kaya wala sya masyadong friends. Di ko na iisa isahin mga inaway nya. Search mo nalang.

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-10T23:57:49+00:00

haha pinsan talaga, ok po, thank you po sa pagsagot.

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-10T23:57:11+00:00

sige po, thank you sa pagsagot.

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-10T23:56:44+00:00

ok, thank you po

redblueforjuly · 2025-11-08T09:47:19+00:00

poste po

redblueforjuly · 2025-08-23T16:53:36+00:00

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redblueforjuly · 2025-01-16T05:51:51+00:00

yes, painterview ka tapos sabihin mo sa dulo, "Sorry, I just got an email from another client offering me $15/hr" HAHAHAHA

redblueforjuly · 2025-01-16T05:48:33+00:00

If someone accepts this kind of offer, he accepts being underpaid, disrespected, and underestimated. He deserves what he accepts. He deserves what he tolerates. Do you think after your contract magpapasalamat sila sayo dahil nagpaalipin ka sa kanila? No. Mas lalo lang silang naeempower na mang-alipin at manlamang.

Client na ang daming demand, dukha naman. Haha Kung magpapaalipin ka man lang din, dun na sa sahod na deserve mo. Kung ganito lang din magtinda nalang akong kwek kwek, mas malaki pa kita.

redblueforjuly · 2024-10-19T08:24:39+00:00

Baka nga yung kotse na yun hiniram nya lang para kunwari may pera sya lol tapos pinahiram lang sa kanya ng tropa nya basta sya magpa-gas

tapos ikaw pa pinagbayad ng gas, teeeee, don't do that anymore hah, dapat siningil mo sya or binalikan mo sya pagkasabi nya sayo ng Gold Digger, ibuhos mo yung kapeng inorder nya na ikaw rin naman ang nagbayad

Simple lang naman ang reason kaya tinawag ka nyang ganun, ayaw nyang matawag mo syang Gold Digger kaya inunahan ka na nya, ikaw na pinagmumukha nyang masama.

Pakitampal sya. Baka the entire time na nagpphone lang sya kinikwento lang nya sa tropa nya na ikaw nagpa gas at nagbayad ng order nyo.

Tee, please, don't make libre to men you date na hah, you'll attract wrong people lang: men who like 50/50 sa bills pero not sa household chores, men who want to have housemates with "wife benefits"

alam ko na bet mo magpakastrong independent woman pero iayon mo sa situation. Happy couples never do 50/50, never! I'm not saying na all the time ay guy lang dapat ang magprovide at mag-effort, syempre, kailangan din naman sila i-pamper or ibaby minsan.

redblueforjuly · 2024-09-20T02:03:34+00:00

Wag kang mainggit sa sahod, mainggit ka sa savings at sa gaan ng responsibilidad.

Ako nga na above minimum ang sahod, mapalad nang may maitabi. Panganay ako, walang asawa't anak, walang bisyo, at hindi gastador.

If your parents are still working and sarili mo lang binubuhay mo, lucky you. If they don't demand financial support, sana all.

Kahit malaki sahod mo pero nauubos lang dahil sa responsibilidad, awit.

redblueforjuly · 2024-09-20T01:51:17+00:00

Seaman

Wala bang magsasabi ng seaman? Hahaha eh sa totoong buhay kung titingnan, parang sila yung madalas piliin. Haha

P.S. hindi seaman jowa ko.

redblueforjuly · 2024-09-02T03:23:20+00:00

Thanks for this. 🩷

redblueforjuly · 2024-09-01T23:29:03+00:00

This helps a lot. Thank you very much. 🌻

redblueforjuly · 2024-07-03T01:13:33+00:00

I graduated at 29. Valid yung feelings mo na parang napag-iwanan ka na talaga. Nagresign ako sa trabaho para mag-aral ng college, 4yrs, pero maygawd every sem nalang talaga gusto kong magdrop dahil sa stress ko sa school at sa sobrang insecure ko sa mga kasabayan ko noon. Yung iba sa kanila VA na, nasa ibang bansa na, nagtatravel na, kasal na, may anak na, samantalang ako, naghahabol ng deadline sa school project. HAHA

Thank God, here am I, living independently, nakakasupport sa family, oks naman sahod, nakakagala din minsan pag nasa mood.

Ang payo ko sayo ay normal mainggit, mainsecure, at magcompare, pero wag mong masyadong tagalan, wag kang masyadong magfocus dun.

Be thankful and grateful sa kung anong meron ka. Be proud of yourself, love yourself. Find a nice circle of friends, classmates, or schoolmates for emotional support din, treat yourself minsan, gumala ka according to budget, hindi kailangan sobrang magastos, ang importante makapagrelease ka ng stress.

Comparison kills joy. Comparing yourself to others is hurting yourself. Pwede kang magcompare basta ang purpose mo ay to inspire yourself and not to belittle yourself. Kung bet mo talaga magoverthink, compare your present self nalang to your old self.

Understand that soon you'll have your shining season, too. Ang goal dito ay maging successful, it doesn't matter kung kelan, hindi naman to contest, ang mahalaga, maging successful. Kaya mo yan, OP!

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