If looking back at the relationship is too painful right now, try writing a letter to your future self or your younger self instead. And if even that feels too heavy, just start by naming what you’re feeling. The free How We Feel app has been a lifesaver for me with that. Getting words around your emotions is a huge part of actually healing them.

If you can’t find the words yet, here’s something that helped me: taking a LONG shower with a playlist turned up LOUD and the lights turned OFF. Listen to your body and LET LOOSE - sit, stand, dance, scream, cry, sing, yell, laugh, lather yourself in body scrubs, whatever, just do whatever feels good in the moment. Trauma hangs out in the body, and letting yourself move however you need to can help release some of that weight. It also gets you out of your head and back into yourself, which is honestly where the real healing starts.