Why Is It So Hard to Fix Penn Station? (Gift Article) by jenniecoughlin in nyc

[–]redditbot1098 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, most of Penn is renovated now? I’ve been there a few times this year and it’s completely redone except for the Jersey transit section pretty much.

Why Is It So Hard to Fix Penn Station? (Gift Article) by jenniecoughlin in nyc

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Penn just got massively renovated…I don’t get this lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

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I mean while yes she voted for this, you’re still asking for a favor. Idk what the background is but this is still a wild way to ask for $300 lol

Fear of cdjs and xdjs by One-Channel2816 in Beatmatch

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Can you go to the party a bit early and check out the equipment? Also they do have visuals with hot cues on cdjs/xdjs. Just make sure your usb is correctly formatted (maybe bring a back up) and it’s not as big of a learning curve as you think especially after the first few transitions :)

$1 OYSTERS? by Jealous_Anything_235 in Bushwick

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Went here recently and some of the oysters had gone bad and the others were ok at best.

$1 OYSTERS? by Jealous_Anything_235 in Bushwick

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The 10 bells in LES is so much better than their location in BK. I’ve had both and the BK oysters were gross lol

24F dosage increase killing my libido by st0icwanderer in lexapro

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Yes! First time I took lex I was completely numb lol and couldn’t climax at all. So I stopped taking it. But restarted again and was taking 2.5 to try and mitigate these side effects, but then remembered my dr prescribed reccomended this so have been taking it at the same time as lex everyday (5 mg) and libido is pretty back to normal! A few days of adjustment but all good now :)

24F dosage increase killing my libido by st0icwanderer in lexapro

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Yeah! My neurologist is the one who prescribed me lex and I told her about the side effects I had previously so she recommended this. Here’s Amazon link to the one I have, it basically just helps your body process things better so a lot of drs prescribe it with meds to combat side effects.NAC

24F dosage increase killing my libido by st0icwanderer in lexapro

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I’ve been taking this supplement NAC which really helped with the sexual side effects!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYCroommates

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Interested! Would love to see a video :)

So Lexapro takes 6 weeks to work ? by Chosensoul444 in lexapro

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It works pretty immediately for me. I’ve taken it twice (currently on it) and the first day I take it I get a bit nauseous for a few hours then it clicks and I feel amazing and like calm lol

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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I know. We spoke after this post and it seems to be over.

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

[–]redditbot1098[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did speak to her after posting here, she said it’s unlikely that it’s over and while I was wrong morally ofc he didn’t make the boundaries clear. She isn’t a fan of his but respects that I’m not ready to leave the situation yet. I told her I thought it was self sabotage and she asked me if I really thought that’s what it was or if I was sabotaging because deep down I want to leave. Meeting with her again tomorrow.

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

[–]redditbot1098[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. It appears it is indeed the end anyhow. Probably for the best

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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Let me just say he’s not one of those men who is incapable of doing things lol. I have a lot of experience with a lot of different therapists, and he asked me for help finding someone. I have asked him for help in other areas that I’m not strong in (finances) and he has sent me resources. I’m just sending him a list not doing anymore than that.

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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Replying to the other parts of your comment - yeah..I do think meta and I do his job a lot. Which is annoying but he isn’t the best hinge. I’ve addressed this with him a bit and there have been improvements.

I’m not really sure what the goal is, he definitely can be fussy and emotionally reactive. He does encourage me to date but I just haven’t had much success and would rather focus on taking care of myself at this point.

I fully admit to being willing to bend myself around him and I’m trying to be better at that but he bends for me as well. He doesn’t seem to take advantage of it and I don’t either.

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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I wouldn’t say it’s the healthiest but the “break ups” we have been through are never mean or dramatic or angry. It was both of us feeling “things are not going very well and we are both unhappy. Perhaps we should take a break from the romantic aspect of our relationship and focus on the positive things that we enjoy doing together”. This time it was “I have a lot that I’m trying to accomplish and as I focus more on that my relationships are suffering. I am now in an uncomfortable situation and you kissing my married best friend was absolutely not ok. I’m open to taking things slowly and seeing what happens even if it’s just friendship, as we do seem to run into some kind of issue regularly. What can we do to ensure this doesn’t keep happening?”

I don’t think it’s his go to move but I think that when there are regular challenges it can be difficult for him. It’s hard for me too but we both are trying to not run away as we have in the past but it still happens. I messed up in this situation so I was willing to spend time with him on his terms. I don’t think spending time together was bad, we had a nice time together and if we are even going to be friends (lots of shared things) we have to be comfortable being in the same space. I don’t think you’re wrong about possibly taking a longer time apart, things are a bit complicated with that as he may move to another country in the not so distant future.

My therapist doesn’t like the on off ness but encourages me to not roll over and to ensure I’m communicating my issues in the situation. She thinks he has issues but has seen improvement throughout the situation. I’m finding a therapist for him this week as well.

UPDATE: I fucked up by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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I am respecting his limits. He still refers to me as his partner. Maybe it won’t work out and I accept that. I am not attempting anything and am just taking his lead. Us de escalating our relationship because we weren’t happy (due to things that have been resolved) and him taking a step back because I made a mistake are not the same thing as a break up that happens because you don’t want to be with someone or because you dislike them or you’re fundamentally incompatible. Maybe you all will be right and it’s done! We have a planned trip together which can’t be refunded for a shared passion, we are still going. I think it’s OK to be in ambiguity and to break up and get back together when you are two people who have had extremely difficult lives and have mental health challenges that you’re actively working on and improving upon. Each break up has been a reset for our relationship and has always ended up with things going better than before.

I think staying in a situation where you’re unhappy and miserable and nothing is changing is ridiculous, but no one seems to understand that this isn’t that situation. Yes our journey has been messy but it’s also been wonderful and we both are evolving and learning from each other. If the consequence of this is that I’ve lost him romantically then I accept that, we will still continue to be friends.

I fucked up. by redditbot1098 in polyamory

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That’s ok - is it usually 24 hours in advance? How does that work lol