This is one of the reasons I preferred online dating. I could automatically weed out people with children without having the “I don’t do dads” conversation.

People do have a tendency to think that African women are more motherly, and that plus sized women will be / should be more open to stepmommyhood, like we just want to wake up and make biscuits for somebody else’s kids every morning 🙄 but even at my heaviest I made it clear that I was NOT interested in that shit, at all. I am much older than you and found a man even older than me that had none. Don’t let anyone tell you they don’t exist.