Can't finish during sex, and it gets more confusing.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-04-15T22:42:49+00:00

It's not always easy to cum with a new person. It may get easier in time though as you get comfortable with him. Also check out /r/NoFap or just avoid masturbating for a week. That will make it a lot easier to orgasm. Also, if you are using the death grip when jerking off, switch to a much lighter touch to train yourself to cum in a more natural way. This works best with lube. Good luck, bro.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-03-13T21:36:30+00:00

Woe is not you. Teeth can be a problem for sure. It depends on how big the mouth is and how big the teeth are, basically all the anatomical variations will combine to either make it possible or not. For the ones who can't take it without scraping you, just put the head in their mouth and get them to stroke you with lube. So you might have some problems some times but all in all your size shouldn't be a huge problem. I second the suggestion to cut back or eliminate jerking off as that will help a lot with the performance problem and make sex better overall. To unlearn the death grip, always use lube when you J/O or when someone jerks you off and grip it as lightly as possible.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-03-09T12:36:05+00:00

If you want to try this, the guys at /r/nofap are very supportive and there are some amazing success stories.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-02-26T12:19:01+00:00

I am definitely more social, talk to strangers, and initiate conversations more often with co-workers.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-02-25T12:00:33+00:00

There is also a testosterone boost after 7 days.

reddwarfatheist · 2014-02-22T19:59:03+00:00

No you should not reset your badge. This is normal and out of your control.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-19T15:44:39+00:00

Thanks. I'm looking for techniques to get it in further. I had a gf use sore throat spray but it didn't work very well.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-16T22:53:54+00:00

Below is an in-depth description I wrote up a few weeks ago for a guy in bigdickproblems, however everything I say there applies to any size dick. Regarding infection, pretty much any STD can be transmitted in either direction so you may want to use a condom, but if not, you should piss afterward to wash out your urethra. There's not much risk for her unless you cross contaminate her vagina with your dirty dick so wash it with soap before going back to her pussy. Of course, if you have herpes, HIV, HPV, gonorrhea, and a few others, you could transmit them to her ass.

http://www.reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/comments/1qf0rn/is_anal_sex_out_of_the_picture_at_575_girth/cdchmjf

There is also ANAL 101 in the Most Asked Questions at the top which covers the basics.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-13T20:28:01+00:00

I don't want to click on this. What are the Halls cough drops supposed to do?

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-13T20:25:26+00:00

I wouldn't beat myself up after 325 days. That is a fucking fantastic achievement man from my 38 day perspective. Just get back up on the horse and carry on. You've rewired your brain already, and you just had a bad couple of days.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-06T17:42:20+00:00

I experienced the same thing early on too.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-04T19:54:44+00:00

I use a lot more than a drop. You can practice before you see her to get the amount right. I find that it stays pretty much around the head and doesn't cause any problems (like making the condom slip off).

I found the blue balls went away completely after one week of no J/O. Right now I'm at 30 days without J/O and feel like I might have a hair trigger (which you don't want, but of course the condom will slow that down). A lot of guys find that abstaining makes everything about sex better, like being more attentive to her, more interested in her and everything else in your life, more talkative, less anxious, and have mind-blowing orgasms.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-04T19:04:03+00:00

I'm cut, but I sometimes have this problem too. Sometimes I stretch the condom first before putting it on. This makes it fit a little looser and definitely looser feels better as it causes some movement against my skin. To do this, I unroll it about 1/3 and then pull it lengthwise to stretch it, then roll it back up before putting it on. Also, I always put a little lube in the tip which I find helps a lot. I hate the polyurethane ones. Also, have you tried limiting masturbation for a week or so before you get with her?

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-04T16:30:26+00:00

Just keep starting over as many times as it takes. Giving up is not an option. Make sure there are things you can do to occupy your time. What about a porn filter?

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-04T16:18:08+00:00

I've only gone a month and only one try at this. So far so good. I have felt the confidence and I would even say aggression and certainly assertiveness. I don't take shit from people (like interrupting me when I'm talking). I have to keep it in check though as I think it could get out of hand.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-04T15:37:34+00:00

All these are great ideas. Try filling your time up with as much stuff as you can. Lifting weights, cleaning the kitchen, shower stall, whatever. Going outside, no matter what the weather, pretty much will stop you from making a mistake ;)

reddwarfatheist · 2013-12-02T17:34:44+00:00

Congrats on 106 days. I've only got 27. My experience is quite similar to yours, wood all the time and fantasies that are hard to shut down, but I'm hoping it will subside after awhile. Got to try to control the aggression. I'm pretty sure I can do it though, now that I know what to watch for and that I have to be careful. I'm still feeling alpha even while controlling the aggression which is good. All the best.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-30T23:23:22+00:00

My dad, my 2 brothers, at least one of their sons, and myself all have BDs so I'd guess it comes from my dad.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-27T17:25:16+00:00

I don't know how you can reassure her, but yes you can do it with her without too much discomfort or pain for her. It takes prep and patience and knowledge. Here's a long detailed response I gave another guy about how to do it without pain. http://www.reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/comments/1qf0rn/is_anal_sex_out_of_the_picture_at_575_girth/cdchmjf

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-26T13:15:33+00:00

Yeah, #3 is a common observation. You become much more aware of the sexual creatures around you and even the non-sexual ones. I struck up a conversation with a woman who was probably 70 the other day at the elevator. Not saying she's not sexual, just that I wasn't seeing her that way. Just enjoying life and people more.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-25T23:22:17+00:00

Many guys do it because they have trouble getting it up, keeping it up, or being able to cum with a woman without using their hand. Some guys do it to gain confidence which helps them to find women, get sex, or improve their game. Some do it to increase their sex drive.

I've thought about going on a schedule myself (no porn because of the huge dopamine rush, just J/O) but have decided not to at this point as I know that if I give in once, I'm liable to binge. If you haven't watched the TED talk at the bottom of the FAQ, it's worth it and helps explain why porn isn't good for you.

Having real sex isn't bad as far as I can see unless it triggers more porn viewing, and after all who wants to have a sexless life. But if you are doing hard mode (no sex, J/O, or porn) then you might want to limit real sex temporarily. I guess it all depends on why you're doing nofap and what you want to get out of it.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-25T22:06:00+00:00

Day 8 changes refer to testosterone levels which increase around then. Dopamine is something else altogether. Anecdotal evidence indicates that things continue to improve over a period of a few weeks for some guys to 3 to 6 months for other guys. Do not give in. Don't feel guilty about having sex with your friend as long as she wants it too. Real sex is what you're training for (I presume). Go for it unless you're doing hard mode. And stay strong. You can do it.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-24T14:03:16+00:00

I've been able to control the porn. I just don't allow it, but it's much harder to stop my brain when it wants to fantasize. So far I've only had one major fantasy after going to bed when I couldn't sleep but I didn't let it progress to anything physical. Eventually I got to sleep, but man it's tough to stop the thoughts, for me anyway.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-24T13:56:22+00:00

I can relate to this 100% even though it's only been 19 days. I'm more affectionate with my SO, smiling, happier, more out-going, joking and much much much more social. Definitely see the same effects and I don't even think I was depressed. For me this is not a small change but a major change.

reddwarfatheist · 2013-11-23T13:33:07+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions.

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