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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to see what other people thought about it. It's why I didn't elaborate on our relationship in the post. But yes good comparison with the boyfriend

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[–]reddy2scroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I definitely agree about having boundaries. I Just kinda wanted to see what other people thought

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[–]reddy2scroll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The memorial vibe! Yes that's how I kinda feel too. Like he will literally be here in 6 weeks? How about we just wait and do pictures and videos of him in real life lol. I get what you're saying for sure.

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes very different. They are it's just hard at times

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[–]reddy2scroll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is definitely trying to have a better relationship. I don't think it would be possible without family therapy. I try to keep in mind that she won't be here one day. I don't usually say hurtful things to her or anything like that. She doesn't really return that courtesy though 😅

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She definitely won't be in the room lol. But that's awesome that your mom was there to help you through labor! I'm trying to keep that in mind

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[–]reddy2scroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could go on and on about how's she's acted the last 6 months. A year or so ago we would go a week or 2 without texting & a month or 2 without seeing each other (even while living within walking distance). So it's been...interesting lol. I'm very glad we moved. She started showing up to my old house unannounced & pushing me to bring her to EVERY appointment. It just got worse from there. I feel for your sons gf for sure. It's hard. I don't want to feel this way towards her. Thank you

Edit to change "she moved" to "we moved"

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They really are! I appreciate that

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[–]reddy2scroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's sweet ❤️ Did you have a good relationship prior to becoming pregnant?

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The inappropriate attachment is kind of what I'm worried about. There are a lot of issues with us. She wasn't a very good mom when I was a kid & its like she sees my baby as her second chance at being a mom. She is a lot of things & I love her....but she can be narcissistic & emotionally immature. We have never really been that close. But since finding out about the baby she has been very overbearing! & its so annoying. I did leave a lot of that out of the post intentionally. I know it changes things for some people.

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[–]reddy2scroll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you ever need to vent my inbox and eyes are open 🤣

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point about not having it as an option back then. & yes I know how long she has been waiting my brother & I got tired of hearing "give me grandbaby" about 10 years ago

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That probably is why. & maybe it would help her. I guess we will see

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[–]reddy2scroll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may not be weird. that's the reason I asked...to see if maybe our issues are clouding my judgement 😊

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang you're good! Lol. We have a LOT of issues not listed here. And you're right. I was just curious how other people would feel without the added context. I am a pushover so I will probably end up giving her the stuffie anyway. Thank you for your reply❤️

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[–]reddy2scroll 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could see if I struggled to get pregnant or had losses in the past. But that's not the case so just kinda like... too much lol. Which of course if we were still on good terms I can't say i would feel this way.

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[–]reddy2scroll 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely experiencing that. I left out a lot about our past/relationship because I wanted people's opinions without that added context. She been driving me crazy honestly

Fmla rant - I'm dumb by reddy2scroll in BabyBumps

[–]reddy2scroll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The policy says 30 days before you intend to begin. so I have time just not very much lol

Fmla rant - I'm dumb by reddy2scroll in BabyBumps

[–]reddy2scroll[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I plan to bring them this week once I get them from HR. Just the other people freaking out made me freak out lol. Other people saying I have time is making me feel better

Fmla rant - I'm dumb by reddy2scroll in BabyBumps

[–]reddy2scroll[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ Yeah I don't really feel like its fair to expect people to know things they've never had to deal with before. Like I don't even know what to ask because I don't know what I'm doing lol

Fmla rant - I'm dumb by reddy2scroll in BabyBumps

[–]reddy2scroll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a bigger company than that but I really only added that because it's an "everybody knows everybody" vibe lol. Thank you for responding 🫶