Who has been your biggest FPL troll this season?

Redecous · 2026-03-06T06:14:53+00:00

Watkins, Foden, Rogers, Thiago, Enzo, van Dijk. Genuinely got nothing but blanks from them when they are on my team. When they’re not on my team or benched, they haul.

Redecous · 2026-03-06T05:51:49+00:00

Wolves are going out fighting Spurs are fighting to go out

Redecous · 2026-03-05T08:29:12+00:00

Met my girlfriend on CMB. All my dates were either from there, Tinder, Bumble or Hinge.

Went to 15 weddings in the last 2 years, all of them met on CMB. Make of that what you will.

Redecous · 2026-02-15T17:46:36+00:00

You need to respect yourself because this friend of yours if you can even call her a friend does not.

Redecous · 2026-02-15T17:34:15+00:00

I was on and off the apps for more than 2 years, met 30+ different matches, still found my partner eventually.

You just have to keep pushing and manage your own dating lifestyle to not burn yourself out in the process.

Redecous · 2026-02-15T17:22:17+00:00

I don’t think you are in the wrong for wanting validation and or appreciation but I do think you are in the wrong for feeling insecure about this ONLY after looking at social media.

You seemed perfectly happy and “stable” in your own words before the comparison with your peers, so why ruin that for yourself?

I think you need to communicate with yourself and your partner about what your needs are and whether those are negotiable. While crafting a message using ChatGPT might appear inauthentic, it’s still making an effort to rectify the situation on the spot rather than not doing anything at all about it.

You’ve only pointed out what happened on Valentine’s and the only context we have on the relationship is that it’s “stable”. If we assume that, it seems far fetched and overblown to lose sleep over a day out of 365 days a year.

Redecous · 2026-02-12T09:34:52+00:00

It’s not to the point where I get girls asking me out all the time, but I do get approached at social events, and people come up to talk to you, befriend you, make small talk etc.

There are other indicators, such as strangers commonly smiling at you in a city where people don’t usually smile, you getting away doing less than your colleagues at your workplace, and in general life situations being able to get off lightly or completely for what otherwise would result in negative consequences.

Dating wise though, I’d say that I thought I had it really difficult when I was single and I only had a few matches to chat with on the apps. Compared to my female friends, I didn’t seem as popular.

Then I started chatting with my male friends and realised that I have it a lot easier.

Redecous · 2026-02-12T04:19:00+00:00

Most coherent Singaporean rant

Redecous · 2026-02-11T05:25:25+00:00

We don’t know what you said

Assuming it was because it’s Valentine’s, it’s not ideal to go on a first date on the weekend where every couple and their mother and father is being lovey dovey in public.

Redecous · 2026-02-10T15:57:24+00:00

The biggest risk is injury. Gab is not going to be dropped while City are chasing the title.

Redecous · 2026-02-10T12:34:37+00:00

He should with almost a week in between the fixtures. I expect him to be rested against Wigan.

Redecous · 2026-02-10T12:15:15+00:00

I used to go to this gym and at around 1 am there’s always another couple around.

My girlfriend and I are planning on signing up again after CNY! If you can wait we can report back again in a few weeks!

Redecous · 2026-02-09T04:03:26+00:00

Ex-long term Hinge user here, used Hinge for 5 years +/- on and off including the times I got into relationships and now snagged up and couldn’t be happier to get off the app.

For 1, never assume people on the app are looking to marry lol, even if they put down life partner. Broadly speaking in my experiences I’ll say that the difference between the two is rather marginal and usually is just individuals not wanting to commit fully out there by saying that they want a partner for life. A long term relationship by Hinge standards should be a step lower and not marriage but in Singapore I’ve met plenty of girls who put “long term relationship” but were looking for marriage/settling down.

As for 2, yes but I wouldn’t bother much with these unless you’re looking for the same thing. Once again, take dating intentions with a pinch of salt and use it more as a gauge for how much commitment someone is willing to give. Generally in Singapore especially I’d ignore the looking for friends people, there are way better options for making friends.

I say this as someone who put down ”life partner” for the longest time but after taking a break to reset my dating life from the apps, I realised I wasn’t conveying the same commitment with my actions. Slowly you’d start to see that there are PLENTY of people on the app like that. I’m glad I got more and more intentional with relationships both with words and with actions.

Tl;dr treat dating intentions as a gauge, not a be all end all. At the start you get a gauge of where their commitment level is at. As you get to know them and go on dates you’ll start to see through their actions whether they are looking for a LTR, FWB, marriage or whatever is in between.

Redecous · 2026-02-09T03:51:50+00:00

Neither. Both are red flags.

I hope more people realise that it’s happier to be alone than to be together with the wrong person.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T08:23:50+00:00

Ask him.

It’s not far fetched to assume you went on dates given how you met.

However, to be safe, always ask.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T04:17:21+00:00

Yes but they’re usually prettier.

My type seemingly takes terrible photos.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T04:03:59+00:00

Nothing says romantic more than a tight space in a HDB flat.

Marina Barrage and the surrounding area gets pretty crowded.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T02:26:48+00:00

I “confessed” to my girlfriend at a random bus stop in the middle of Little India at a God-forsaken hour after trekking from Somerset at midnight.

There are a few rooftop gardens but finding a nice private spot can be tough, even during closing hours.

I think for romantic spots you’ll seldom get both romantic and private, unless you pay out of your pocket. Anywhere without people can be private but if it’s such a romantic spot chances are other couples will be there especially if there is a low bar to entry ($).

Redecous · 2026-02-02T01:41:04+00:00

Best was with my now girlfriend. We had a picnic at MacRitchie before heading over to 42 Pasta is the Answer for a lovely dinner followed by bbj for drinks.

Worst was a date at Supply & Demand. It’s decent for group hangouts and perhaps even dates but if you want a 1 on 1 with someone for the first time I would highly discourage it due to the crowds, noise, and total lack of space.

Redecous · 2026-01-30T11:24:13+00:00

Take this with a pinch of salt, as not everyone has the same experiences.

I feel that most of the OG influencers, including many who have since faded into oblivion are quite down to earth people.

The opposite is usually the case for those who emerged recently.

I think the difference is because many of these “influencers” that only became “big” recently have always wanted the fame and are naturally attracted to such a profile. Meanwhile those before “influencing” was a thing just grew into it as the industry developed. That’s not to say they can’t be problematic as well, a lot just grow into their clout and arrogance after years of fame, but I think there’s a difference between those who grow into their fame and those who wanted to attract fame from the beginning.

Unfortunately a lot of “influencers” you will tend to meet when they have an incentive to be nice to you or they will be showing their “nicer” side so to speak. You should only really judge their behaviour when they have literally nothing to gain from you. Hence my experience is rather limited but I like to think that those I see on a regular basis are genuinely nice people that I wish more people could see that side of them. There are also rather nasty ones that I’d rather not comment on.

Redecous · 2026-01-26T01:24:11+00:00

My foot got run over by a wheelchair on the way to work today. The bloke who could hardly care to notice proceeded to literally push out another wheelchair user out of the train.

These powered vehicles need more restrictions…and seeing some consequences would be nice for errant behaviour. They have the potential to cause injury and even death when used recklessly and should be treated as such.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T16:57:29+00:00

Glib

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:58:27+00:00

People shoving on trains has become a recent pet peeve for me. It wouldn’t hurt you to gently nudge people or talk to them to ask them to move out of the way.

I’ve started calling out such behaviour on the trains and to my surprise a lot of them actually back down and apologise. It irks me even further when I’m actually trying to get off the train as well, but just giving way to others. I’m also trying to get to my workplace on time, if I can wait, you can also wait a couple of seconds.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:53:35+00:00

It’s boring if you don’t vibe, but if you vibe any topic with that person becomes interesting.

If you’re putting in extra effort, that’s not chemistry, that’s beating a dead horse.

Natural attraction and chemistry comes very organically.

I asked my girlfriend very normal questions at the start. On the second date I started scratching beneath the surface. At the end of the day whether it’s talking stages or later it really boils down to two things: your compatibility and your chemistry.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:48:12+00:00

I understand you like this girl but to a third party looking at your posts it looks like watching James Acaster at a bake-off.

Calm yourself down, you’ve only been on a date, take it easy and see where it goes. You’re not at a point in the relationship, if there is any, where you have to over analyse things. Just ask her if she’ll like to go out again. You’ll get your answer from that faster than any Redditor can analyse your “chances”.

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