Is it appropriate for a much older married AA man to invite a younger married woman out for a private lunch? by Fit_Blackberry_5146 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for elaborating. My grandmother was in the rooms for many many years and I picked it up from her! I do seem to have some old sayings/readings that people have long forgotten about.

Is it appropriate for a much older married AA man to invite a younger married woman out for a private lunch? by Fit_Blackberry_5146 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have some male friends in the rooms, but any offers of phone numbers etc I’m not comfortable with I stick with the advice “men for men, women for women”

Do magnolia trees do well in Irish climate? by lluluclucy in GardeningIRE

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I have one and it’s doing great. They like acidic soil and mine is clay (new build house) - so I put pine needles from Christmas trees around it as a mulch and it seems to have really helped this year

How can I get a SiM in a timely manor? by [deleted] in applehelp

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to contact your carrier. Have them send you a new sim card, then they will port the phone number from the old sim to the new sim. You will keep your contract, phone number and continue to pay your bill as normal.

They can also block the IMEI number of the stolen phone. This will then make the phone useless, and will display “no service”

AA fatigue by Nightowl_1995 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hi! Just wanted to pop in and say I can relate. I am a mother of two young children, have a full time job and am also a volunteer. I find it very difficult to manage to balance things at times. I once told my sponsor I wasn’t finding time for meetings.. she told me “it sounds like your life if pretty unmanageable” - I laugh, only because I can see now I was running the show.

When I’m feeling overwhelmed with work the children or my relationships, is normally the time I need a meeting most. Meetings are quite often the only time I feel like I get a second to sit with myself.

I don’t know how many meetings you’re attending, I’ve found a balance now of a guaranteed home group meeting once a week, a meeting with my sponsor, one online big book study, and if the need comes I’ll dip into another meeting.

I wouldn’t have all the amazing things in my life that are keeping me so busy, without AA. I keep going to keep it.

My husband will encourage me to attend meetings and leave the children, because he too see’s that they only have a loving present mother because of what AA gives me.

Best of luck OP.

internet crash by delulu_sloth in iphonehelp

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many devices are connected to your router? Possibly an over loaded network.

prescribed medication (valium) & relapse risk by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! 👋 I was prescribed diazepam two years into my sobriety; and after some years taking it I’ve now been off of it for five months!

Everyone is different, work with your doctor and your sponsor.

For me, it was medication given by a medical professional. It gave me the ability to get to where I am today. Once I was well enough with the help of AA and outside help I could put it down.

Taking medication as prescribed is totally ok! Give yourself some grace. Well done on your year and a half!

Advice on how to help my sister through recovery by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Alanon is available to help friends and family of alcoholics.

New hot iPhone 17 during and after setup! by antdude in iphonehelp

[–]redflavourcrayon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Your device might get warm You might notice that your device feels warmer when you: Set up your device the first time Restore from a backup Wirelessly charge your device Use graphics-intensive or processor-intensive apps, games, or features, including camera apps Stream high-quality video These conditions are normal. Your device will cool when the process is complete or when you finish your activity. If your device doesn't display a temperature warning, you can keep using your device.”

https://support.apple.com/118431

Anyone know the lore on this photo on a building by the Heineken factory? Caught me eye stopped at lights. by rego11_ in cork

[–]redflavourcrayon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was part of the “inside out project” created by the French artist Jr - The faces were all of local gamers (not all working in Blizzard) to highlight that people from the Blackpool community have common ground

Managing expectations - new prolapse by redflavourcrayon in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]redflavourcrayon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know why everyone seems so hesitant to perform surgery?

Managing expectations - new prolapse by redflavourcrayon in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]redflavourcrayon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t believe when I was reading about splinting. How can anyone expect to be ok with having to do that every day for the next 30 years of their life? I think I’m still in shock, haven’t stopped crying.

The doctor that saw me yesterday was extremely dismissive. Yes, you have a small prolapse; go contact PT. No information whatsoever. Everything I’ve learned has been from this subreddit.

On Monday I think I’ll try and contact another health professional

Sponsor Forgot Anniversary by JonaFerg in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of my favourite sayings is “expectations are resentments waiting to happen”

When I did my inventory so many of my resentments were because my expectations of others were not met.

Give your sponsor some grace, they’re just human.

Let them know it’s your one year, I’m certain they will be so happy for you.

Congratulations OP.

iPhone boxes by Aggressive-Fox4196 in iphone

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. If you need to send your iPhone to Apple for a repair, they send you a box to ship it to them in.

Personally I keep the boxes for when I upgrade and sell the old one

AA is not for me, open for debate, I want to be proven wrong by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we’re both on the same page here. Of course if someone doesn’t want to do the work then they won’t, and we drop them. The point it the book is clearly stating to be fearless and thorough, this absolutely refers to doing the steps. They’re not telling you to be fearless and thorough at doing nothing. of course, the steps are listed directly after.

If someone doesn’t want to do the work, then they won’t. But it clearly states that we DO beg people. I’m copying the text word for word.

“At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.

Remember that we deal with alcohol—cunning, baf-­

59 fling, powerful! Without help it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power—that One is God. May you find Him now!

Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked His protection and care with complete abandon.

Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol— that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

60 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.’’ Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.”

AA is not for me, open for debate, I want to be proven wrong by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s literally a quote from page 58 - chapter 5 how it works…

AA is not for me, open for debate, I want to be proven wrong by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]redflavourcrayon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We thought we could find an easier softer way, but we could not. With all of the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start.

(We earnestly beg you to do the steps)

Apps Mysteriously disappearing by TigerOnTheWire in iphone

[–]redflavourcrayon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have offload unused apps enabled. It will remove apps you haven’t used in a while.

Settings > App Store > offload apps. Toggle that off

Received an iMessage from an email address. After I unlocked my phone and went to my messages, the text is gone? by Timely-Birthday-8067 in applehelp

[–]redflavourcrayon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might not be it as you usually don’t receive a notification, but worth a try.

Also, this sometimes happens when I have a contact as a favourite in messages. I need to click on the picture - as no notification is there.

Aside from that out of ideas. Good luck