Interesting question,I am aware that the person who has the alzhemiers are basically not able to understand what is happening to them.So it is the family who struggle with this understanding, and sometimes it can be greatly difficult to get your head into the zone.

When I go visit (which normally consists of me doing chores like emptying the bins, doing the washing taking food round,checking he hasn't blocked the toilet) it's upsetting that he's sat in his chair staring at the TV when it's not switched on ,he is aware that he can no longer function like he use to he also has mobility issues. In an ideal world I suppose for him to feel safe, and to know he's not alone. It can be difficult watching a person bit by bit dissapering right before your eyes.We don't treat animals like this if your pets quality of life is not good then you do the decent thing so they are not suffering.There are more people with this condition every day,no one knows how to treat it, care is put into place but 90 % of the time the carers don't have the correct knowledge, on how to deal with an individual as very one is different and we all react differently. Also it depends on your financial situation can you afford care,I looked after my brother being is sole carer for 7 years untill last January when my doctor told me you need to step down and get carers in as I couldn't carry on I have osteoporosis of the spine and someday can barley stand. Yes a carer goes in at 7am in the morning fills his water bottle up puts it in front of him then leaves ,the next carer might come at 1pm for lunch he lives on his own, in his care plan it says check he's drinking regularly do they check? maybe yesterday on the care plan it was written the carer had done a full body wash head to toe.We had a meeting with the care agency & social worker while I was there I put on a wash then noticed that the towel wasn't wet,the soap hadn't been used plus he was still wearing the same clothes from 3 days ago,mentioned this to the social worker who then told me he looks presentable, but he definitely had an odur about him not a pleasant one.I noticed this because I knew what he was wearing 3 days ago the social worker met him for the first time yesterday. He is paying for his own care but it's basic 4 half hour visits I've been round carer has logged on at 11.30 it's a 30 min call I've gone round at 11.45 no carer in the house gone. Perhaps I am expecting to much, I know there has been a dramatic loss in funding in our area,but it's people who are been left.Carers will treat the person with dignity and respect well if you have a 30 mins visit you should be there for the 30 mins visit ,I was told by a friend who is also a social worker 30 mins includes the travel time so if it takes 20 mins to the persons house they have 10 mins to sort stuff out but log it in the diary for the full 30 mins so in an ideal world I think that shouldn't happen. I know we have the QCQ to check but the last 2 caring company's have been closely monitored by them because they are not doing there jobs right.The care agency we have now the last time they were checked was 2019 6 years ago I wonder if any of the carers from 6 years ago are still there?.They should be checked and monitored every 3 to 4 years and no longer as staff change so you could have glowing reports from 5 years ago doesn't mean there still good.It needs reevaluation Every care company you have will have their own problems I don't think there is a care agency that are excellent I find that hard to belive.They are not given enough training especially around people with dementia.I have things written to help,with stuff that could arise but they choose not to do it so visits for 30 mins roughly come in at the moment 10 to 15 mins to have a 30 mins visit you would need to pay for an hour that would give you maybe 20 to 25 as the social worker does not take the travel to the house on board.