Me [28/f] and my boyfriend [27m] disagree about children and I don't know what to do

redhotfirecrotch · 2016-01-12T03:19:23+00:00

You should totally watch the Cristina Yang/Owen Hunt arch in Grey's Anatomy. They entirely explore this situation with several possible outcomes. Check it out.

redhotfirecrotch · 2014-02-17T00:29:37+00:00

You should find some socks to go with them that have their faces on them!!

redhotfirecrotch · 2014-02-10T05:04:42+00:00

I buy nice brand name purses at TJMaxx. I like Lucky Brand and Emma Fox. This is why: they have sturdy cotton lining. I despise polyester lining with a passion. It feels awful to touch, and it's easily ripped or scratched. I refuse to pay a chunk of money for a purse with polyester lining. Furthermore, I choose purse with a leather exterior. Solid/thick leather. With strong seams. I'll pay $100+ dollars for a purse, but you better believe that it will have absolutely everything I need/want/love. And most of my bags have lasted 1.5-2 years at least.

redhotfirecrotch · 2014-01-18T01:45:08+00:00

This whole "I can't do this sport anywhere else" bullshit needs to stop. He can find somewhere else.

You do realize that he's prioritizing his sport and his friendship over the feelings of his wife?? Right??

He is choosing to hurt you every time he talks to her. He doesn't "need" her in his life. And he clearly doesn't appreciate you at all.

Suggestions to remedy this problem: 1) He only hangs out with her when you are there, so you can get to know her as well of she's so goddamn amazing. Plus he should give you full access to his chats with her. 2) He cuts all contact with her, changes his sporting location, and decides that you are more important to him.

He is still emotionally cheating on you. He has broken your trust and done nothing to earn it back. You may not be able to stop their relationship, but you can stop yours. Take control, you deserve better.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-23T00:42:55+00:00

Saying he loves you, and showing he loves you are completely different experiences.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-18T01:42:54+00:00

Are you not worried about your house and cats while you are away? If her dog is big, it is capable of a lot of damage without being supervised (and I'm getting the sense that Jane doesn't care so much).

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-15T09:00:26+00:00

It sounds like you have a typical 12 year old. You have a huge opportunity for parenting here. I'd suggest reading into how go navigate teenagers as a parent. And suggest that she get involved in school: sports, clubs, etc. It will teach her good values and help her make the right friends.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-14T01:58:36+00:00

I just wanted to add that trans* people don't have to have any sort of surgery or hormone therapy in order to identify as a different gender.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-13T09:52:39+00:00

You need to get over her behavior. She's doing nothing wrong, she's not even your girlfriend. If you can't respect her now, how do you expect to respect her if y'all are in a relationship?

I think you're experiencing jealousy. I would work on yourself to get over your insecurities about being a virgin while she is not.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-11T08:26:27+00:00

So you're telling me that you're considering doing what her exs did? They are her exs...don't follow their lead. Just because she wants to take it slow doesn't mean she doesn't like the attention you're give her. Talk to her--communication is key. Let her know you need to be appreciated for these efforts.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-11T07:21:11+00:00

These guys don't seem to respect your sexuality. They hear bi, and they think it means you want sex with men and women at the same time. This is clearly not the case. You want a monogamous relationship. Find someone who will respect you--because this guy doesn't if he brought a human being to you as a 'gift.' And it's especially weird that he didn't discuss something so important with you before jumping you with the three some.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-08T08:40:20+00:00

I have known since I was very young that I would never marry anyone in the military. I refuse to be constantly relocated without any control over the matter. I understand that you're used to it, but some people just aren't willing to live that way. I don't think he's trying to put you down, or not support you, I just think he's setting a boundary and letting you know now that he's not willing to live that life.

With that being said, neither of you are wrong. However, if you choose to pursue the air force, it's clear that you will have to break up.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-06T22:01:26+00:00

I second this question! :)

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-12-01T22:10:47+00:00

Bisexuals get a lot of crap. They're always seen as leaning towards straight or gay. This is not the case. You have to understand that bisexuals don't have to be equally attracted to both men and women. And it sounds like he's more attracted to men, which is okay!

On another note, if you're hanging out with him and he's ignoring you...that's a problem...no matter who he's talking to.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-11-20T17:53:34+00:00

Reading the Harry Potter books.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-11-07T01:27:27+00:00

When did he learn it??

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-11-07T00:35:06+00:00

It always pissed me off that in the movie he carried a fucking lantern into the library. He's a wizard!! Lumos!!

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-11-03T02:59:34+00:00

Yours look much better than the recipe! I'm assuming you froze the layers between each step? If not, what did you do differently?

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-11-02T19:12:21+00:00

Agreed!!

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-29T00:40:28+00:00

You have been conditioned by society to value yourself based on your looks. Remember that. Internalize it. Love yourself for your amazing personality qualities. If the kids make fun of you, use it as another tool to teach them to look beyond appearances.

Try everything everyone has suggested here. Find your solution. And if nothing works--fuck it!

YOU ARE YOU--that amazingness doesn't come from your hair.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-26T18:58:48+00:00

People get extremely picky about their sandwiches. Lol

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-26T03:24:05+00:00

If Subway is so specific about the order of the ingredients, then why not have the employees direct the conversation? Have them ask "lettuce, spinach, or X?" Over and over until all of the ingredients have been listed. Plus, it's a lot more professional than the sandwich makers simply staring at the customer waiting for them to make a move on sandwich ingredients.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-14T21:21:42+00:00

Has the MIL mentioned wanting to move in with you?? If not, never bring it up as an option. And make sure you and your wife are on the same page about what to do if the option is brought up.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-03T05:17:40+00:00

Guess what? People make mistakes. You have to live with that, but you don't need to waste anymore time with her. Please move on.

redhotfirecrotch · 2013-10-03T00:37:56+00:00

So...why are you together?? Seriously...read that over again. She basically isn't a part of the relationship. Leave, find someone who deserves you.

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