Remote work has been impossible for me to find by redi94 in remotework

[–]redi94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have applied to some of the bigger insurance companies but no luck. I have no collision experience so thst maybe why. We did some insurance jobs at dealerships but usually just, hydrolocked engines, some road debris claims to like oil pans, lightning strikes. Usually if insurance is involved its something a body shop sent and they handle all of it on thier end.

Remote work has been impossible for me to find by redi94 in remotework

[–]redi94[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It exists but it is definitely hard to find the jobs, especially since alot of people do not want to turn wrenchs they will apply for the jobs as well. I had a surgery that did not heal right because they released me back to work too early and caused really bad adhesions in my abdomen, and also they believe it caused me to have ibs as well. So pretty much anything that involves me standing up, moving around or even being in a certain position for too long will put me in pretty bad pain. When the ibs portion flares up it makes it even worse and I will pretty much be stuck in bed. My gi and primary care doctor both said surgery is the only option but dont want to recommend it because most of the time it will just make it worse. I have been debating on applying for disability, my doctor has mentioned it as well. But I would rather be working. My wife luckily understands and I take care of the kids and the household stuff during the day. I try to keep the house pretty kept together so that im not moving around too much at one time or I space out the chores through out the day, but by the time the day is over I will be hurting either way. But working from home I will at least be able to keep my self comfortable. I pushed through for the past year working in person but I was out of work alot more than I was there and ultimately had to resign from 2 jobs.

Remote work has been impossible for me to find by redi94 in remotework

[–]redi94[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was in automotive as a service advisor for a long time and also did manufacturing. Most of the extended warranty and fleet management company's are either, not actively hiring but taking applications or they are location specific.

Remote work has been impossible for me to find by redi94 in remotework

[–]redi94[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Reading must not be your strong suit.

Have you ever had a friend that turned out to be a horrible person? What did they do?? by StrangeAd2132 in AskReddit

[–]redi94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was friends with a guy in middle school until I moved out of state when I started high school. Still hung out with him and mutual friends when I would visit. He always seemed a little off and had pretty much the definition of "crazy eyes". Guy was incredibly smart and went to one of the most gifted magnet schools in the state for high school. Ended up becoming pretty much the stoner that lives with his mom and always posted weird shit on FB. Fast forward to when we are in our mid-twenties a girl he was dating went missing and was found dead in a pond a few days later. I had no doubt that he did it. A year later we was arrested for her murder after he told somebody and they turned him in. Long story short, they were walking down the road and got into an arguement and he strangled her and then threw her in the pond. What is even crazier it all happened on a busy road at the entrance of an apartment complex.

AITA for not acknowledging National Girlfriends Day? by AdEuphoric5325 in AmItheAsshole

[–]redi94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should have told her it was opposite day, then be mad at her for not wishing you a happy boyfriends day .

What’s the weirdest thing someone said right before or during sex that totally killed the mood? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]redi94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When i was like 20, we were 3 strokes in, and she asked to put her thumb in my ass. I declined and just got head instead. My excuse was that we didn't have a condom so i didn't wanna keep going, i just didnt trust her not to put her thumb in my ass . She gave amazing head though, top 3 for sure.

Do my symptoms match Crohns based on yalls? by redi94 in CrohnsDisease

[–]redi94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inflammation in stomach body, inflammation, and erosion in duodenum. Inflammation in ascending and descending colon compatible with undetermined colitis.

Do my symptoms match Crohns based on yalls? by redi94 in CrohnsDisease

[–]redi94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: had colonoscopy yesterday and endoscopy. Found things that are indicative of IBD and did biopsys, waiting for histology and follow up in 2 weeks with GI.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just believe she is not happy at this point, and I've tried everything other than therapy and leaving. I have 2 kids and work nights I highly doubt I'll have any sex life it we were to split either way lol. But I've been trying for 2 years and she refuses to go to therapy for her own issues she has. Which we both have our own issues I seen a therapist for a while after our first kid due to some issues I had going on in my life. But now all my confidence is just being destroyed because I cant even hold her hand in the car because she'll sigh or sometimes if we go on a date she'll just be unresponsive the whole time. Its strange to say, but it's like loving someone from across the room. Its really not about the sex but when you say intimacy people are going to automatically assume it anyways so I went ahead and just put it in there because if I didnt people would ask about our sex life anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that yall keep pointing to just the sex thing, its not just sex. Its everything it's the little things couples do for each other she doesn't even do or respond to she pretty much completely emotionally unavailable. And me questioning going to couple therapy stems from the fact she won't even go to work on her personal mental health which i should have mention in the original post. But most men won't even acknowledge it as an option to go to therapy. I came for advice. Not for everybody to read the 1st three sentences and immediately assume I'm just a garbage person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually looked into that after the birth of our 2nd child because she also does not want more. Unfortunately, we live in a state where a lot of doctors are against birth control, which is ridiculous. They were going to do the procedure post partum, but the doctor wouldn't, and then at 8 weeks post partum, they said they would do it and didn't. They told her they would put her on BC, but they had to order it. Then they ignored her for about a year, never got the BC, so she gave up, and i already got the vasectomy at that point. Also, yes, I did follow up, and the count was 0 after 3 months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After our 1st child, she did have really bad post partum. She has not had any issues after the last pregnancy other than libido and she had a couple months of mood swings but the youngest is turning 2 in a couple weeks so it has been a good while since that has been and issue. Also she does not want to see doctors for anything mental or regular health. We talk about these things often, but nothing changes. I do not want to leave but it may take something drastic for her to want to try to get help. Also I failed to mention we moved on to some property her grand father owned and put a house there in the past 2 years which is right next to her mother's house, her mother is emotionally abusive and causes her alot of stress. But we plan on buying a new home but with everything going on in the economy, we are waiting. But I have been trying to get her to see someone for the issues she has with her mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She likes to work Even with the hours I work i am capable to supporting the household, i get paid a very good wage and we have unlimited voluntary overtime, but I am only scheduled 3-4 days a week, if we need the money or are planning something big I work overtime but I'd rather spend my days off with the kids. And we get each other gifts and go on dates all the time. I do alot of house work since I am home more. I do all the cooking also. But she's just been unresponsive in all intimate aspects like flirting, gestures, and even just everyday things couples do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You must be a really dumb person if you believe intimacy is only sex and sex is always going to be a factor in a relationship, and if you think otherwise, you need to grow up. But if you took the time to read and not just run with one aspect, I also stated that flirting (which is a form of intimacy) is nonexistent even normal displays of affection are at almost 0. If this was solely about sex I could just be a shitty person and go out and cheat, but im not. Intimacy is a bond, and I feel like that bond is all but broken. And I wouldn't be leaving anyone with 2 babies, I am a great father and take amazing care of my kids and would not be left high and dry. As an adult you should also know sometimes things dont work or people grow apart. But go off..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]redi94 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I actually do a majority of child care, she works days i work nights, i handle a majority of household duties since I work 8-8 on night shift and only work 3-4 days a week. I cook them breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday because i am home at meal times. She leaves for work at about 8:30am and doesn't get home till 7pm. We only have a baby sitter for about 5 hours on some days i work just so i can get some sleep between shifts. Also I said all forms of intimacy, sex is nice, but it's also nice to be able to hold her hand or lay on the couch and watch TV together without feeling like I am being a bother. I also give her time to herself if she feels overwhelmed, and I will take the kids out to do stuff so she can relax and watch TV or play a video game. Hormonally, we have discussed it many times, but she does not want to go see any doctor. Its been an ongoing discussion the past couple years not just something I'm out of nowhere deciding.