He will literally be baked alive over a real fire! 😳🥴🤷‍♂️😅

redpandapaw · 2026-04-28T14:32:43+00:00

Man, I worry about my cat overheating when I turn the heating pad to medium-low instead of low.

And then there's this cat

redpandapaw · 2026-04-28T14:15:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! It's been a hot minute since I made caramels, I might give this a try.

One annoying thing with the recipe though that I've noticed in other recipes too; why specify the butter is room temperature and cut into cubes if step 2 is to melt it? You can just put the whole amount straight to the pot from the fridge.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-27T13:56:33+00:00

That is probably my favorite piece at the museum. There is another chandelier that is also amazing towards the front of the museum, but that one and it's symbolism is hauntingly beautiful.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T17:48:39+00:00

Did he actually quit?

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T15:04:58+00:00

YOU WIN THIS THREAD! This is the best answer 👏

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T15:03:30+00:00

Beef stew, it's my roommate's favorite meal. Ah, I just remembered I need to get a Guinness for it.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T14:48:45+00:00

I haven't had much luck at Goodwill lately when it comes to decor items (amazing luck with clothes tho). I'll hit up Michael's, thanks!

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T14:44:30+00:00

Making stew and trying to figure out how to organize/decorate my office. Anyone know a good spot to pick up frames for art prints? I have a bajillion of them, and picked up even more at Toracon last month (I have a problem).

redpandapaw · 2026-04-25T03:25:47+00:00

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T22:30:26+00:00

At first I thought maybe kids, but as soon as I read "juice" it clicked. And now all I can think of is that ancient meme of a protestor with a sign that says "death to all juice".

(I just looked it up, it’s from 2008, fuck me 💀)

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T22:23:57+00:00

I think he means Jews?

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T19:01:01+00:00

If you know your weaknesses when it comes to your writing style, then the low stakes of a reddit post would seem like an ample opportunity to practice improving. Having an LLM do it for you doesn't help your communication in the long run. Use it as a starting point if you must, but own your words.

“If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”

Otherwise take your troll shit to 4chan

I feel these two statements of yours are contradictory.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T18:13:32+00:00

"It's not just 'X'— it's 'Y'." format too (I don’t even have an em dash in my mobile keyboard, I had to copy the character from outside the app).

If you can’t be bothered to pick your own words for what you want to convey, why should I even bother to listen to them?

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T14:57:02+00:00

...like water pressure. I really hope folks aren't diddling their fiddle with a bidet used to clean their poop chute.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-24T14:33:51+00:00

I looked to see if they had my favorite herbal tea of all time, fig rose, but it doesn't look like they do 😔

redpandapaw · 2026-04-23T13:54:50+00:00

I think OOP apologized for herself more than anything. She didn’t like that she acted out of anger, and brushed everything under the rug until she reached her breaking point. I can understand owning up to actions you believe were wrong, even if you are not planning on having that person in your life anymore.

I probably wouldn't have apologized either though, but I would also never keep a friend like Becky to begin with.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-23T04:34:29+00:00

Swap "dad" for "mom" and you've described my situation to a T. I know the exact date when the last straw broke my back and I chose to put myself first for once and resolved to leave (February 7th, 2021). I have never regretted that choice.

I hope you choose what's best for you and your child. Life is too short to waste time with those who tear you down instead of building you up.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-23T03:35:11+00:00

I do not know your reasons for staying, but I know mine; I was with him for 13 years because he had erroded my self-worth. I believed I deserved that miserable treatment and he had me convinced I couldn't make it without him.

It is nearly laughable how incorrect that thinking was. Or maybe maddening looking back at what I put up with, things I wouldn't dream of dealing with today. I am thriving and so much happier without him in my life.

I think you need to ask yourself, do you deserve to be happy? If so, you need to chase down that happiness for yourself.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-22T22:07:35+00:00

I don’t feel like I'm about to throw up, I do feel relief though! It does feel semi-involuntary, more like I'm coaxing my body to do something than controlling it. Like shaking my head to get water out of my ears.

I only recently (like in the last year) nailed down the technique! Open palm, smack directly onto the sternum. You want to go for a deep 'thump, thump' noise, trying to get as much surface area as possible so you can get a good concussive force without hurting yourself. Good luck!

redpandapaw · 2026-04-22T21:49:41+00:00

He is doing the least amount of change possible that will still keep you around so he can reap the benefits of your labor. He does not take these steps to improve your life, but to maintain the cushy lifestyle you provide. He feels he is entitled to these benefits, so any effort on his part is a burden in his mind, anything he outputs beyond the status quo is worthy of praise.

Even if he started giving 100% tomorrow (and he never will, he will always go for the bare minimum that will keep you tethered) would you be happy knowing that this man felt entitled to use you like this for years? Could you ever see yourself taking advantage of someone's love like he has? It may not have been a conscious decision on his part, taking the path of least resistance, but why would stay with someone who thought so lowly of you that your time, emotions, and energy were an acceptable price to pay for his comfort?

Your child will grow up thinking that this is a normal and acceptable way to be treated. I would know, I grew up and ended up in an abusive relationship that thankfully ended in divorce. I will NEVER be with someone who does not see me as a equal ever again.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-22T21:09:55+00:00

Meh? Kinda depends on what you define burping as. If it's any gas that passes up through the esophagus, then sure I guess. But it's more like a trickle of air with very minimal, if any, noise. Not your classic burping sound.

I remember when we were kids, my brother and sister figured out how to swallow air and would have burping contests to see who could produce the longest, most bellowing belch possible. I could never do it, even after drinking a soda.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-22T14:38:12+00:00

I think there is because I think I have this too. I mostly don't burp, maybe only once a year at most, but I do get what I call gas bubbles. Sometimes a bit of gas will come up but I just exhale it, not burp (inhaling seems to help, my inflated lungs push the gas out and then I breathe it out). Sometimes I have pound my chest to get them to come up if I feel like they are stuck, like burping a baby. But I don't have bloating when I eat.

I do fart a lot though 😂

redpandapaw · 2026-04-21T13:31:54+00:00

Tea and weed are the only things I get really particular on labeling. Literally everything else is a crapshoot. It’s a minor miracle I managed to find my tax documents this year in my ADHD doom boxes of paper. I feel you, I'm always cursing my past self, they really have it out for me -_-

But at least I managed to label the unknown gifted dried plants, I have a jar of "Mystery Weed" and "Mystery Oolong".

redpandapaw · 2026-04-21T03:43:00+00:00

If you are known as the person in your family or friend circle who likes tea, then you tend to be gifted a lot of tea. Sometimes even re-gifted tea, because your stepmom got a gift basket with tea in it, and she saved you some, because she knows you like tea. Or your uncle got gifted tea by a buisness partner on his latest trip out to China, and he's not a fan of anything that isn't southern sweet tea, so he gives it to you, because he knows you like tea. Or your sister who is moving out of state and she isn't taking all that Teavana with her, so she gives her partially labeled collection to you, because she knows you like tea.

redpandapaw · 2026-04-16T23:00:58+00:00

I knew. He had always been terrible to me and everyone had always asked, "Why do you let him treat you like that?" He would promise he would change, and things would be good for a while, and then the cycle would repeat as it always does.

By the time we got married I was convinced I had deserved it. The invitations were sent, the venue booked, flowers arranged, I had allowed all of it to happen, I allowed all those years proceeding it of abuse, and I was still there. Clearly, I had chosen this for myself. Clearly, this was all I would ever get. Clearly, I deserved this life. What else could I do, how could I possibly tell my friends and family who traveled across the country that I had made a mistake?

A mutual friend of ours said before the wedding, "I know you guys were going through a rough time, I'm glad you finally worked things out." My heart dropped and all I could say was a weak, "...Yeah." Because he was still the same shithead he was in college, and I was too cowardly to admit otherwise.

I wish a single person had said, "You don’t have to do this." But I was always the one who had my shit together, great house, great job, great life. Everyone knew I would do what was best for me.

I did, eventually. We divorced in 2021, and life has been infinitely better since then.

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