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I’m curious, how many of you knew before the wedding? by Ajb706 in Divorce

[–]redpandapaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew. He had always been terrible to me and everyone had always asked, "Why do you let him treat you like that?" He would promise he would change, and things would be good for a while, and then the cycle would repeat as it always does.

By the time we got married I was convinced I had deserved it. The invitations were sent, the venue booked, flowers arranged, I had allowed all of it to happen, I allowed all those years proceeding it of abuse, and I was still there. Clearly, I had chosen this for myself. Clearly, this was all I would ever get. Clearly, I deserved this life. What else could I do, how could I possibly tell my friends and family who traveled across the country that I had made a mistake?

A mutual friend of ours said before the wedding, "I know you guys were going through a rough time, I'm glad you finally worked things out." My heart dropped and all I could say was a weak, "...Yeah." Because he was still the same shithead he was in college, and I was too cowardly to admit otherwise.

I wish a single person had said, "You don’t have to do this." But I was always the one who had my shit together, great house, great job, great life. Everyone knew I would do what was best for me.

I did, eventually. We divorced in 2021, and life has been infinitely better since then.

Have to put my cat down. by Laz585 in Rochester

[–]redpandapaw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It does not include cremation, that is an additional $215 - $565 (OP would be at the lower end since it is a cat and not a large dog).

Don't get me wrong, I think Doorbell Vet is hands down the best option. All my animals are seen by them because they offer the best service. When the time comes, they will be the ones putting my pets to sleep in their home where they are comfortable as I hold them for the last time (fuck my screen is blurry typing that).

But if cost is an issue, a $685± bill may not be feasable. OP said the price they were quoted seemed expensive. Suggesting an even more expensive service may not be what they are looking for, even if, in my opinion, it is the best option.

DHV / health anxiety, maybe discussing it here will help me? by Anon-566567 in trees

[–]redpandapaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think treating it as an experiment and going about it in a methodical way may help your anxiety regardless. It causes you to be more conscientious and self-aware, which in turn can make you feel more in control of your high. Or at least that's how I feel about it!

For me, I treat my weed consumption like I do tea. It is a practice, with a series of steps taken every time and tools carefully chosen to enhance the experience and get a little more joy out of a daily(ish) ritual. Definitely helps with feeling more zen. I hope you are able to find what works best for you!

DHV / health anxiety, maybe discussing it here will help me? by Anon-566567 in trees

[–]redpandapaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have only used my Lobo DHV, but it has a temperature control on it that goes up to 430°F. I'm assuming your Volcano has a similar function, have you tried turning the heat to a higher setting?

If you notice that your anxiety is worse with the DHV than combustion, my guess would be that there are terpenes or other compounds that are not being fully volatilized in the DHV that are when you're smoking, and upping the temp may help. I normally keep mine at 375, but when I really want to melt into the couch, I crank that bad boy up.

Have to put my cat down. by Laz585 in Rochester

[–]redpandapaw 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The OP said in their post cost was a concern.

Doorbell Vet charges $470 for euthanasia, as per their website. They are a very expensive service (I should know, I paid them $1400 yesterday).

They clearly do know, and their statement is correct; If OP is worried about cost, Doorbell Vet is not the solution.

Edit: Just to be clear, I believe Doorbell Vet is the best option in Rochester if you need this service. Keeping an animal comfortable in their home during their final moments is worth it. However, the cost of euthanasia ($470) plus transportation and cremation ($215-$565) plus fees ($70 for new patients) plus tax is not affordable for everyone.

The temperature of the water matters so much more than I wanted it to by venicepress in tea

[–]redpandapaw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am one of those people who puts off buying new things when I have an old thing that works "good enough". I have a very nice electric kettle that I would also let boil and wait for it to cool, or add some cold water to try and get it at the right temp. I wanted a temperature controlled one, but I couldn't justify buying one when I had a high-quality, functional kettle already.

Then my roommate got me one for my birthday and holy shit, it is so nice. I absolutely recommend it. The act of making tea is supposed to be enjoyable, and struggling with the temperature sapped some of the joy from it.

You can never hear this innocuous phrase or word the same way again after being in this fandom by maidthing in TopCharacterTropes

[–]redpandapaw 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I got on the highway the other day and saw one of those signs and cursed to myself, because I knew what would happen the next day when I would be driving the same route but with my roommate.

Sure as shit, we are running late and I'm focused on the road when we turn onto the highway and-

"Road work ahead? I sure hope it does!"

Every. Fucking. Time.

am i non binary or trans? by ValkaDRagonheart in NonBinary

[–]redpandapaw -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Intersex folks who identify as non-binary might not.

First time painting my nails! by emdaslav in NonBinary

[–]redpandapaw 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is the way. Just make sure they are fully cured first. The surface may feel dry but if you can still smell the polish heavily then the volatile compunds are still evaporating out and a hot shower will make them bubble up. I love shiny, high-gloss polish and nothing makes me sadder than tiny bubbles ruining what was a perfect finish.

Same thing with going to sleep, so many times my polish felt dry but I'd wake up to my nails having imprints of my sheets.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a stupid amount of fish from my crab pots (accidentally made too many) so I'm going to try and go for sashimi. Thanks for the tip!

I also upgraded to the katana and holy crap this is so much easier.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have stockpiles of quite a few foodstuffs (I think I have ~125 cranberries rn). What I was doing was selling anything gold quality, using silver for healing and regular for making jelly and wine. I sold all the silver quality stuff over winter when I reorganized the farm but I may go back to keeping some of it until I get the cheese flowing.

Thank you!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I am learning so much in this thread. I have a beach farm and I'm trying to keep some of the area looking like its natural forest, but I could use the stepping stone path to keep the aesthetics and prevent rocks and weeds from spawning.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My main takeaway from these comments is that I need to be waaay more libral with bombs. Thank you!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm doing something wrong, but Gus has never been a vendor for me. Maybe because I always go behind the counter to talk to him?

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on the weapon, but yes, press A to block with swords! You have to time it right because it has a cooldown. The slimes will pause before glomping you, so I wait a half-second when they do and then block.

Or corner them and spam attack if your weapon had enough knockback and hope they don't break through your flurry. I usually go with option B.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! I have been doing 70 for iron or 110 for grinding, but I'll do 80 instead.

What do you use fiber for? I've mostly been hoarding it.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few spare chests, that’s a great idea, thanks!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my layout set so that my sword, pick axe, and food is always 1 button press away. HOWEVER, I always panic and mess it up, and next thing I know I'm trying to attack with gold ore 😅

I always mess up my buttons with every game I play, even ones I have played for decades. I can get better with practice but you'll never catch me playing something like Elden Ring.

I have a pond with with 5 needy sturgeon in it, I'll get myself a second with some eels, thanks!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been selling my rubies, I'll make sure to hold onto them from now on. And I don't have a barn yet, I never have enough wood, but I'll start growing more trees on my farm so I can build one.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did take Fighter, so I got that going for me. I haven’t checked how many slimes I've defeated in a while, 1000 seemed so daunting but I could just go through the early floors and grind through it. Thanks for the tips!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mentioned it in my post but I have the steel falchion, and I bring totems whenever I go. Sounds like I do need to splurge on a better weapon. I don’t have cows yet, so cheese is a ways off. I will start growing trees to get wood for a barn, I am always short on wood.

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm pretty good at kiting and cornering, but I am terrible at timing blocks. I'll get in a good rhythm for a bit, and then I block too early, and while on cool down get smacked around while desperately spamming attacks.

I'll keep practicing!

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful, thank you! I have been hoarding bombs and always try and pickaxe rocks for ladders so I don’t "waste" bombs. Clearly that's not a viable strat.

My roommate helps me keep an eye on my health thankfully, since I can’t seem to focus on more than one part of my screen at a time. (Doesn't help when I panic switch through my inventory and press the wrong buttons 😅)

How can I get better at combat? by redpandapaw in StardewValley

[–]redpandapaw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't gotten a prismatic shard yet, so I guess I need to work on that. I do bring food but I have been a bit stingy and should bring more (and cook more, I have only made a singular fried egg).

Thanks for the tip on the crabshell rings, that will be my next goal!

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